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na2day?:
"we" it takes more than one person to truly put up with a retard

seem like you're the only one showering her with attention though.

@ poster

you and yah hubby should check yahselves every six months for any STDs
being married dont mean you shouldn't use condom, whenever you feel u dont trust yah hubby, use condom that day
protect yourself

FL Gators:
seem like you're the only one showering her with attention though.

u posted on the thread right?

Pharoh:
All i can say is that you really said something there and you are right. But come to think of it, is walking away that easy. Will your partner accept such an excuse to breakup a relationship (pre-marital / marital) . Don't get me wrong i really see what you are saying and support it but it is not that easy as you made it to look.

i dont see how anyone with even the slightest bit of self respect would even want to stay with someone who is not in love with them, if someone comes up to you and says listen i dont love you anymore i want to explore other men/women. you really really have to have some massivly low self esteem to beg the person to stay

@agathamari Either you have never been in love or you are so naïve

Genuflect:
@agathamari Either you have never been in love or you are so naïve

i have been in love but i know if you cannot love and respect yourself noone else can. you degrade yourself begging someone to stay with you regardless of how they feel, it will cause them to loose respect for you and that is not love. love does not have room for pity and staying with someone because you feel bad about how your actions will/have make them feel is pity not love

^^^All that one na textbook love. You are being too idealistic. It's not easy to get over someone that you really love

Genuflect:
^^^All that one na textbook love. You are being too idealistic. It's not easy to get over someone that you really love

have you never heard the expression taht if you love someone let then go, if it is true they will come back to you? if you are in a relationship and your partner has fallen out of love with you, begging them or guilting them into staying will not cause them to start loving you agian. yes letting go of someone you love is painful but far more painful is forcing them to stay watching them cheat on you, disrespecting you in public as well as in private, making jokes about you with his/her friends, degrading your self worth. if they stoped loving you it is going to end, regardless of whether you break up and go you seperate ways or remain together in title but live seperate lives for the sake of saving face. it is far better to nip it in the bud now and deal with a few weeks/months of heartache rather then risk your self esteem and possibly years of heartache

D use of condoms might say more about ur choice of partner--who influences ur happiness more than sex u r having. . .normally,people don't use condoms with someone they trust.

@agathamari See, I came from a broken home so you don't have to lecture me on the cons of nudging a bad relationship forward. I'm not saying it is right for the person to tolerate all the mistreatments and whatever. All I'm saying is the heart is a very funny organ. It makes you see what actually isn't present. It fills you with false hopes and so on and so forth. And heartbreaks can also last years. They are both almost equally devastating

Genuflect:
@agathamari See, I came from a broken home so you don't have to lecture me on the cons of nudging a bad relationship forward. I'm not saying it is right for the person to tolerate all the mistreatments and whatever. All I'm saying is the heart is a very funny organ. It makes you see what actually isn't present. It fills you with false hopes and so on and so forth. And heartbreaks can also last years. They are both almost equally devastating

as did i. i watched my father and his gf and how people treated my mother because of it. watched her cry herself to sleep everynight staying together because of my sister. that is not love. i have watched my uncle after he left his cheating wife sit broken hearted only to find a woman years later that made him happier then anyone can remeber seeing him. i have never met anyone who regreted getting rid of a cheating partner as well i have never met anyone who didnt regret forcing a relationship with a cheater along. if your partner truely felt his/her cheating was a mistake he/she would be the one begging you to take them back not the other way around. love is blind. think with your brain not your heart

As I said before, I'm not saying you are not right. It's not just as easy as you make it sound

Genuflect:
As I said before, I'm not saying you are not right. It's not just as easy as you make it sound

remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent! your duty first and formost is to protect yourself.

For me using a condom wen am married is not about faithfulness. By God's grace I will be faithful to my wife but I will use a condom sometimes because of dat tin called FAMILY PLANNING. I believe d same grace stopping me from cheating will also be wit her so I won't b afraid of her cheating but we won't risk having more children dan we plan for.
Concerns over health issues may arise cos of course we live in am imperfect world where it's not only thru sex dat we can get infected however my main concern will not be over STDs.

For me using a condom wen am married is not about faithfulness. By God's grace I will be faithful to my wife but I will use a condom sometimes because of dat tin called FAMILY PLANNING. I believe d same grace stopping me from cheating will also be wit her so I won't b afraid of her cheating but we won't risk having more children dan we plan for.
Concerns over health issues may arise cos of course we live in am imperfect world where it's not only thru sex dat we can get infected however my main concern will not be over STDs.

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-timely intervention, diagnosis,medical OR traditional attention are very imperative.

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Goodluck!

I am a single lady but afta reading sum comments here,i am forced to reply. I fink d men have made cheating a normal tin in our society today jst because dey cant get pregnant so dey fink dey can do wateva dey want n get away wit it. We have customs n traditions wich r bomin extinct as d years roll by,if dis generation is lyk dis i wonda how d nxt will b,only God will help us! My uncle died of AIDS but nt b4 he gav it 2 his wife,she died a year later. Most ppl suspected AIDS but d rumours said it all.Thank God their kids(my cousins) have all grown up,so dey obviously didn't get it,so i strongly support dat married couples shuld go for HIV test at least twice a year,cos dis is a case of life n death it has notin to do wit trust. Humans r unpredictable,especially men. So,a word is enof 4 d wise,dnt say it cannot happen oh! If ur healthy now it's eida ur spouse is faihful or ur jst lucky,peace out!!

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Then use waterproof
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Nyash without