Heres my previous thread from 2015 you lot adviced me and most of it was true .....

https://www.nairaland.com/2298655/it-apopriate-one-place-gf

So i was in a LDR for a while and when i came back to Nigeria In 2015 i figured that my GF has been cheating on me i wouldnt say i dint do the same tho anyways that aside, we broke up in a very dramatic manner her parents knew what she had been doing and they where alot of mayhem since both families knew we where dating ... Apart from that the guy she was sleeping with was my friend on facebook and he kinda sent me a very nasty mesaage lets live that aside....

Fastforward 18 months later she has been pleading with me to take her back i kinda feel may be shes in finicial difficulties she ones said shes sorry and i quote her " Nothing dey Outside" and i feel she means that the grass isnt greener at the other side... I dont even know if i love her enough to take her back and i dont want to start any family feud her friends are begging me to forgive her including her mum and her dad .... had never been in a LDR since the last try was a failure i wouldnt want to repeat such ever in my life...

Honestly i dont believe in forgivness am this kinda person that will go out of my way to make someone i care about happy but once the trust is broken its done ... she has literally been begging me for several months ... However i will be going back to Nigeria now am done with school to start my NYSC and resolve other personal matters (my entire family are about to relocate)... Shes insisting that we can give it a new start and blame her infedility on LDR and she said i also cheated on her but in all honesty i cant get if of my head imagining her sleeping with that GUY i know i sound hypocritical and its several months i ought to have forgiven her and forgotten about it but i cant...

So my question !!! is it ever possible for a man to forgive a cheating partner i know if it was me she would have forgiven me have insulted her maulled her am sure it was some of the insults that even made d guy she was cheating on me sent me a nasty message which wasnt any of his business ... Anytime i think about it i get bitter i decided to take a break from relationship and focus on myself and i feel have been doing better taking her back feels like a burden sometimes she just feels like a liablity to me or an hindrance am really confuse ... She say she has changed but i feel old dogs dont learn new tricks i feel like forgiving her because i know i myself am neither a saint ... Am in a battle with my coincence and pride...

Is it ever possible to mend a broken glass?

Dear OP. You might be able to forgive her but you can never ever trust her.

So the question is this, can u still continue the relationship without trust?

honestly I really tink men go tru a lot whn bin cheated on! n lyk dey say, men cheat jst 4 dat physical need at d moment but we ladies mostly cheat 4 love n affection! my brothers gf cheated on him smtym ago and he went tru hell lyk always sad n crying! but he took her bak because d grl persisted n begged her lyf out lol! m sure he hasnt 4gotten about it because he still says a tin or two about it nd I tink he finally will 4get it but dats his business! love conquers all finally! if u kno u really love her I'd say u chill a lil cos ur anger myt b blocking ur emotions 4 now! she myt b really sorry n hav learnt her lessons shaa nd if u kno u already hav smone else jst let her go n dont take her back! but d choice is urs finally...

pasqal09:
Is it ever possible to mend a broken glass?

Dear OP. You might be able to forgive her but you can never ever trust her.

So the question is this, can u still continue the relationship without trust?

Youre right

Kimberlylouis:
honestly I really tink men go tru a lot whn bin cheated on! n lyk dey say, men cheat jst 4 dat physical need at d moment but we ladies mostly cheat 4 love n affection! my brothers gf cheated on him smtym ago and he went tru hell lyk always sad n crying! but he took her bak because d grl persisted n begged her lyf out lol! m sure he hasnt 4gotten about it because he still says a tin or two about it nd I tink he finally will 4get it but dats his business! love conquers all finally! if u kno u really love her I'd say u chill a lil cos ur anger myt b blocking ur emotions 4 now! she myt b really sorry n hav learnt her lessons shaa nd if u kno u already hav smone else jst let her go n dont take her back! but d choice is urs finally...

Its a difficult decision

I its very hard..even though you forgive her, that trust is broken..you can never trust her again...I have been battling with my thought for some months now about my girlfriend who cheated behind my back with different guys..I love her so much and i decided to move on but its not easy moving on because each time I remember what she did, I am emotionally down..I tried to forgive her so we can start all over again but I must say i have hurt myself more because d trust is not there anymore even though d feeling is still there big time....I am d one who feels more pain because d girl I want to start a life with again is not showing any sign of remorse for the things she did...for four days now, we are yet to talk to each other and she doesn't care but I am here depress and dejected...I hate being in love cost its just a distraction..I can't think straight..I am trying to let go of her but its really difficult for me...so op, it will be very hard for you to cope with her because d memory of what she did will keep on coming to your mind every seconds...its not good to be too emotional and that is what has been disturbing me and I believe it also distract others who are in love too with their girl...some girls are just too foolish..they play with their future...I wonder why most girls are not always satisfy

Yea, somehow I found out I forgave her, it is not easy though.


Op, it is possible

NO!

l have notin to say

my brother your decision to make not mine or of anyone where...........circumstances are different.

Bet why is it that if a guy cheats he takes it as nothing but if his gf or wife cheats, he makes it a big deal.
Op, since you both cheated on each other, I don't see any reason why you should condemn her. Take it as one of those things. If u still love her, take her back en you both should make amends.

rosalieene:
Bet why is it that if a guy cheats he takes it as nothing but if his gf or wife cheats, he makes it a big deal.
Op, since you both cheated on each other, I don't see any reason why you should condemn her. Take it as one of those things. If u still love her, take her back en you both should make amends.

Its diffrent you wont understand i know i sound hypocritical..

Why would she cheat on me. If she truely value our courtship, i would not cheat on ma partner also she should not, cos caught her in the act i may forgive but will not forget, but since u also have skeleton on ur cupboard, u can restart the friendship, she would never cheat on u again

adrainuche:

Its a difficult decision

very difficult, lack of trust .

You acknowledge you did same so it's even. And to your question? Yes! It's possible to forgive a cheating gf that's if you are willing to work on yourself and her.

If I am faithful, why should I forgive an unfaithful partner?

rosalieene:
Bet why is it that if a guy cheats he takes it as nothing but if his gf or wife cheats, he makes it a big deal.
.

are u for real? how old are u

If Im dead sure she will forgive me on such grounds as infidelity too, why not?

Are you really sure she would

I can forgive her but...its reasonable and Wise not to forget...in case a related scenario comes up again and its good for a man to be prepared for the worse and not to be in a hurry ..I will simply go back eating the pussy with more boldness now that I know there are others who are prepared not to be shy like me..and I will hit the pussy with confidence this time around ...for another comes to take over in the near future!

Different strokes for different folks....

Nna enh, see enh you are the one to check yourself properly and make the decision that is best for you. Remember you are no saint yourself, if your emotion can't handle it, it is not reasonable to let her back, you can forgive her still. But if you can handle it, forgive and take her back. A broken trust can be built, yes it will take years to finish building but it can be built. If she's truly remorseful and you sense some changes in her, take her back.

Forgive her action but let go of her completely!

What has been bleeped cannot be unbleeped,

Here is my advice for you, You cheated so be it, she cheated, so be it, but I tell you brother you cheated and still feel the same way for her, but she will never remain the same with you. Dump her as soon as possible because a girl will cheat and will not be inlove. She's all into you because you have a prospective future ahead. 99% of the time women cheat is because someone else where is giving them love.

Use your head man. Don't be emotionally blackmailed. A cheater will always cheat especially when you are not around her.

Cheat vs cheat perfect match na

Bros move on, never say good evening where u ve said good night. forgive her and get married to more educated and beautiful (character and attitude) than her. if you accept her, u will never have peace of mind for life cos u can never trust her with ur hrt,mind and spirit.