Many men have broken up with their wives because they end up not being the wife that they have dreamt of. But they have forgotten that on their wedding day was when the man
was commissioned for the new task. They won't call the woman wife on her wedding day but bride, because it is the man that will groom his bride to become the wife. That is why the man is called 'groom', and the word grooming has to do with patiently nurturing, teaching, tending and helping someone to become what he or she should be. It is
therefore believed that a man that takes a woman to the altar of marriage is matured enough to patiently groom his bride to become the wife.
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The man is not supposed to just expect the bride to automatically become the wife, she must be groomed. Hence, many of us men built unnecessary expectations when we were getting married, we want a magic to happen
to our wives, we want them to become what we have had in mind about who we want our wives to be; not considering the fact that the woman does not know what is on your mind except you teach her. Our expectations are often too unrealistic, because we don't remember that change takes time and we can only expect something from someone that knows what we want.
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So before you think of breaking up, have you groomed her? Have you given her time to understand you? Hope you realize that a turtle will never become a hawk?
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God often brings people that are opposites of each other together in marriage so that they can help each other in their place of weaknesses. If your wife is weak where you are weak, then where will you get the strength that is needed?
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The problem with many of us is that we don't accept people
before attempting to change them. Of course, our wives are not from our backgrounds, so it will take time for them to adjust.
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Stop trying to change her, accept her, love her, teach her and be patient with her; that is what grooming is all about.She is going to be your wife but she is your bride now, so groom her. Stop complaining about her, she may be a turtle and you a hawk, she cannot fly so be patient with her. I don't believe that your marriage can't work, be patient and allow God to help you. Always "Give It Time"

As much as this makes sense from the point of view of the need for a man to display all the traits highlighted by the OP, it still doesn't correlate with the topic.

Under the context the OP employed, a man is supposed to be called "groomer" and not "groom" on his wedding day.

I was expecting some kind of historical background on the topic.

These are the kind of posts that should be on front page everyday.

thesicilian:
These are the kind of posts that should be on front page everyday.

Comon guys, lets face it. Topics like this can never generate as much traffic as those "senseless" ones which flood FP daily.

Even when the mods eventually puts topics like this one on FP, how many would even bother reading, talk more of commenting?



Don't forget traffic generation is germane in any platform like NL

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Tomjazzy2:


Comon guys, lets face it. Topics like this can never generate as much traffic as those "senseless" ones which flood FP daily.

Even when the mods eventually puts topics like this one on FP, how many would even bother reading, talk more of commenting?



Don't forget traffic generation is germane in any platform like NL

I understand. But profit shouldn't have to be the only consideration in transferring threads to the front page

thesicilian:

I understand. But profit shouldn't have to be the only consideration in transferring threads to the front page

I understand. I was being sarcastic there

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Cool...u av said it all op...gat nothing to add or subtract...