Magicc:
Go back to your husband, he loves you a lot.

I am not making a case for his abusive tendencies, I know that he loves you more than anything in this world. I am sure of this.

HARDDON:
One n just one thing alone guild our Lives as human beings: Our faith.
Not people's opinions, how we feel or the prevailing circumstances.

If you are a christian, u already know the only condition for DIVOURCE is infidelity.
Every other reason(s) is/are inconsequencial.

I know these r trying times,
dont know why u let this linger for two years.

Dont know why u went washing ur linnings b4 ur family members instead of talking to God bout it. N casting out every evul manipulation.

Dont know why all of a sudden, family friend is trying to creep in subtly n complicate issues.

Dont know if its because u r feeling lonely , u want ur man back. What happens when u get satisfied after a week?

So he blocked every means of communication, leaving u in a limbo and u just let it? Woman ? Wake up!!!!
u r still married to him n he cant be dictating wen it is right for u to come seEe him!

U know his movements from D times u have stayed wit him n u know wen to get him @ home. So gather ur garment n go get ur man! Dont sit there sulking !

3 things cud happen , the only one that matters is : u meet another woman in d house .......adultery n a good bases to file for D

U cant let him be hanging u and he is mos def enjoying his bleeping life!

Clear ur doubts once n for all! The answers u seek aint here, there r over there...so get up n go get them!

Still wondering how u were able to stay two years without eating another apple after tasting how sweet apple is!

Rich Regards
Don

Tenny05:
I will advise you to give him a trial, he still loves you so much too. Try and work thiings out with him, You don't know what you ll come across with the new man. So what you both need is amendment of the past ways. God bless you

1bkaye:
File for a divorce and move on sis

Tenny05:
see ur mouth like divorce. I know you re not married. Do you think its easy?

prestigiouslady:
Good afternoon Familanders.

I'm in dire need of advice hence my write up.
I'm a single mum of one, I got separated from my ex two years ago...though we are not officially divorced yet. After things got pretty nasty and he had to chase me back home (prior to this, my folks had wanted me to come back home due to his constant abuse)... I thought we could resolve issues, we both tried to but he's just like a smoke, he can't hide his character for too long..he's hot tempered, egoistic, and he can so mouth trash me(emotional abuse).he grew up in a home where his mum was the C in C, so he hates women trying to have a say.I must always do whatever he says not minding if I'm comfortable or not. I have my own share of the blame cos sometimes, he pushes me and I react back, so I'm not saying I'm a saint either. But my friends and family knows I'm not a trouble maker.

So I've been alone for two years, no date, no relationship cos I'm still officially married to him.. I went to see some of his friends and they told me to move on without him, its sad but they couldn't hide it anymore, he has moved on even so show casing a lady around as his new found love..but when things go down the drain between him and his gf, he comes back to me trying to see if we can make things work.

Now I have two problems here,
1. I don't want to be the one to sue for a divorce cos he will blackmail me emotionally (he tells everyone who cares to listen that he didn't chase me out of the house but I left cos I couldn't endure which is a lie from the deepest part of hell)... he doesn't want to sue for a divorce too.

2. I'm becoming too lonely, most night I cry myself to bed.. the last time we spoke, he told me "you're a very good lady, I love you but I really don't know why things arent working between us".. I know he loves me but I'm becoming too lonely and I don't want to cheat on him.

3. Around July 2016,a friend of mine (family friend) has been on my neck for a relationship, I've known him for a while, he was there for me all through when things was bad, he is a good man and he knows I'm separated (he's officially divorced to a white woman)...he's like everything I want in a man.

I really don't know what to do...do I sue for a divorce? or go into a relationship with my new guy for the main time..please help me.


Thank you

cc

1bkaye:
He's abusive, no further discussions needed tbh

keepingmum:
please stick with your husband inugo? for better for worse brigade....next time he bangs your head to the wall you will explain to angel gabriel why you arrived earlier than your appointed time

and stay away from your family friend. You are clearly still hung up on your abusive ex. only enter a relationship when you have grieved and healed

nbright:
but she's amongst those that have this archaic belief that one should die in an abusive marriage....

1bkaye:

What would you advise she do?

Dyt:

enshi:


Sexy honestly i thought over the issue...
This is a for better for worse case
Its good a thing she already knows the bad sides of the hubby this means she can manage him into becoming a better person

Alternatively she could just focus on raising her Child and waiting for the man to come to his senses...

From the look of things her Major complain is about her being lonely (sex) . There was never a line where she said the guy denies her of it so i suggest she goes to him for it periooically to quench her urge.

prestigiouslady:

I'm a Catholic and I have my reservations about divorce except of course when abuse set in

I know these r trying times,
dont know why u let this linger for two years.
I was hurt.. I literally built my world around him so I felt let down and I just wanted to be alone that's why it took this long..

I'm not doing this cos I'm lonely..no..not at all.
hmmm...

are you saying I should give it a trial? to go see things for myself?? even when his body language says he doesn't want me around

I feel he's trying to tie me down cos he's indecisive at the moment.

I'll surely think about this..

I took an oath in the presence of God and that of man to be faithful to my spouse so I take my vows serious, hence why I've been able to cope without the "sweet apple".

I'll think it over.
Thank you.


Thank you

Richy4:


Where did you get all this funny picture from

Dyt:


Honestly
I can't remember
I found myself in the middle of the pictures and I felt hmmmm
Will be awesome to look for trouble on NL

Hehehehe

Richy4:


I guess it fits into some funny advise

prestigiouslady:
Good afternoon Familanders.

I'm in dire need of advice hence my write up.
I'm a single mum of one, I got separated from my ex two years ago

cc

thorpido:
I would have said you should try to work your marriage with your husband but it seems he is formed in a bad way and can't really change.Getting back with him will probably be the same of the same.

Maybe you should do a six-month trial with your husband.Go back to the house and try to see if anything has changed.If you discover it's still same,sue for divorce and move on with your life.You're still young,so it's best to make the decision early.

You could try for a new relationship if your marriage doesn't work but be sure the man wants you for you and not just because he wants to use you.

enshi:


Sexy honestly i thought over the issue...
This is a for better for worse case
Its good a thing she already knows the bad sides of the hubby this means she can manage him into becoming a better person

Alternatively she could just focus on raising her Child and waiting for the man to come to his senses...

From the look of things her Major complain is about her being lonely (sex) . There was never a line where she said the guy denies her of it so i suggest she goes to him for it periooically to quench her urge.

DeeTus:
Well, you sound like a good woman. Please sister, move on with your life. That man doesn't care for you whole-heartedly. He seems totally selfish and discombobulated.

I really cannot fathom why some men do not cherish good women.

1bkaye:
File for a divorce and move on sis

dinachi:

I hope you will be there on lonely nights to suck her puccy and offer words of encouragement Lesbian?

Amelian:




Honestly it beats my imagination too.. Only very few men appreciate good women. The rest zero.

Op pls divorce the guy and pick the pieces of your life up again.. Take a deep fresh breathe before deciding whether to date your friend who has been there with u or start afresh with someone.
U can't be unhappy and live a miserable life cause of a man.. Don't try and go down that route.. Ain't worth it.
File for the divorce.
It's well

dinachi:

I hope you will be there on lonely nights to suck her puccy and offer words of encouragement Lesbian?

1bkaye:

If she wants