Good day Nairalanders

I dont want to bug you with a very long text. I will be as brief as I can.

First let me start giving an overview of the time line of the relationship.
I met Goodness through my old time university friend (on her DP) She helped me with her contact and we got along. This time I was working with a private coy in Lagos. Goodness told me she had relationship but the relationship is having some issue that we could be friends. I promised to come and see her in school and I left from Lagos 2 Kogi to see her.  I left lagos around 9am and arrived at her school by 10pm on this faithful day and on the sight of Goodness I fell in love with her even though Goodness was typical opposites of the kind of lady I have always thought  I will get married to (slim, not busty, tall.. but Goodness was not).

I stayed had talked and she accepted on the note that her present boyfriend as at then was misbehaving. I went back a couple of times to see her, went with to her village, met some of her people there and it was fun.

An opportunity came for me at my place of work where I could decide to relocate to anywhere in Nigeria to work. In her consent she asked me to relocate to Lokoja Kogi State so that we can get to see more and distance wont be a barrier.

I have also done a few things in my capacity for financially, in her academic and I support her in every little BIG way I can.

I fight alot but make up easily, there was one that I broke my phone in the process. I don't want to bug you with the details but we fight and we realise ourselves each time we fight.

I have been to her home and she has been at mine. Both families like each other (except for her dad that doesn't know me)


Now to the main issue: Goodness is the last child of her family with 3 girls and 2boy. One of her sisters got married to her tribe while the other got married to an Igbo man. The one that got married Igbo man got divorced after two year while the other is still happily married with 3kid

Base of the aforementioned, Goodness dad is furious cos he wasn't in total support but because Goodness elder sister insisted she loved the man. The wedding was approved and they started noticing some odds from the day they got married.

About a month ago I got this text from Goodness:

Desmond all dis tins happening is not my fault  I wish I can do something abt it. I don't want 2 sturbornly do anything dat my father  will not give me his blessings or see me as a disobedient child am sorry dis is happening am not happy with d situation either. With all dis I just want 2 go by my fathers words ayo am sorry we can't get married let's not force it.

I called her talked to her I try to make her see reasons why it could work. I talk to her sisters and brothers they all gave me their words that everything will be fine except one of elder brother who said its better I leave her that the issue is not the father but other extended family will won't approve it that the father could be convinced. But after a while I spoke to him again and he said we should pray that everything will be fine.

But Goodness herself is not supporting she insist her father will go against it that I should rather forget it.

I asked her i who she loves more: Myself of her dad and she said the love she has for her dad is different from the one she has for me.


Let me add this: the issue of my father wont approve it intensified after I lost my job. The job I lost all by my decision to come closer to her. The job conditions is crazy her as meeting my target is almost impossible because of the location I am.


I think it's beyond what her father is saying, I think she has someone else (someone from her tribe) I think she never loved me cos if she did she will stand by me to see how we are going to make it work. Besides we have not even gone to her father not to talk of him rejecting it. All this is just a speculation based on the present circumstances. I think it is because I have lost my job and she doesn't believe in me anymore.

I love Goodness and I ask was her encouragement that things will work.

I am going crazy... please help

#Loveyoueveryday
Matured minds please.

Thank you.

You lost ur job because of a girl who is totally confused in life..



Lwkmd! No pity for u bro

Don't jump into conclusion like that "the girl don't love you anymore because you lost your job".
My advice to you is that you should talk to the girl to take you to her father to hear his thought on this.After then you can know where you're heading to...The girl might be right.

dingbang:
You lost ur job because of a girl who is totally confused in life..



Lwkmd! No pity for u bro

Love can be so crazy at times my brother...It can happen to both gender.