Fabulocity:
There's no problem when people stare, after all the eyes are for seeing
But then it's a big issue when they now have the guts to touch... that's when the handshake don pass the elbow

Busaki:
A woman's body is not a possession for men to claim. Her body is her own, not for your pleasure. You and other men would not receive backlash for going topless, or sagging your jeans, but it somehow becomes a problem when women do so, as if their existence is based on your dictatorship. It is men like you who lack self-control and respect for people's decisions, and you are therefore the problem, not the women. Let people dress the way they feel comfortable. It is their Human Right.

Busaki:
A woman's body is not a possession for men to claim. Her body is her own, not for your pleasure. You and other men would not receive backlash for going topless, or sagging your jeans, but it somehow becomes a problem when women do so, as if their existence is based on your dictatorship. It is men like you who lack self-control and respect for people's decisions, and you are therefore the problem, not the women. Let people dress the way they feel comfortable. It is their Human Right.

Kaycee7:
Your body is yours, alright. That's why you should guard it because no one else will guard it for you. We don't receive backlash because we don't go to social functions or outings topless. Besides, women are hypocritical about their dressing. You can't dress provocatively and claim it's for yourself. Big f**cking lie. Even when we guys wear stuff that show off our chest and abs, it's because we want to arouse the ladies. We don't deny it and we don't turn down passes.

xynerise:


So because the body is yours you can walk the street naked?

Men don't/hardly walk the street bare chested unless he wants to get in a fight or just finished fighting .

You dress to feel comfortable yet adjust your dress to cover your thigh...confusion is what I call it.

Busaki:

Actually, a lot of men do go to outings revealing their chest, or sagging jeans. YOU may not, but a great number of men do. On top of that, you dont receive backlash no matter how you dress because of patriarchal privilege. And if anyone is a hypocrite, it's the majority of men who think this way. Nigerian women in the entertainment industry, for instance, dont receive a lot of publicity when they cover up compared to males who dont even have to worry about such. Again, male singers use female nudity to sell their songs. People like Olamide are more famous than Timi Dakolo, because of his use of nudity in songs, which men buy. I'm not saying I agree with this in terms of context, if fact it makes me cringe, but if men did not demand for such in a discriminating manner, it would not happen.

And if you havent yet noticed, it is men like you who are turning nudity into a sexual thing. Africans in general have long embraced parts of nudity in their culture before colonisation. You even see them in artifacts. Why? Because we live in a blazing hot climate! We are not Americans, for goodness sake! Why must we copy everything foreign? Are we not the ones who invented what is now commonly referred to as the "miniskirt"? Do we not reveal parts of our body in certain traditional wears? It's men like you who are turning nudity into a sexual asset, when it never was like that in Africa in the first place, meaning that, once again, you are the problem. Stop borrowing foreign mentality and embrace your own.

Kaycee7:
I don't know which part of Africa you're from. But in Igboland, where I'm from, in the old days, people dressed decently. The young maidens wore an upper cloth to cover their brea5ts and a short wrapper from waist down. Married women wore a long cloth from brea5ts to below the knee. Young men wore a wrapper from waist down and older men wore a long cloth usually knotted at the neck or shoulder.

What exactly do you mean by turning nudity into a sexual asset?

Don't blame men for women's depiction in the media. I haven't heard any reports that they're forced to wear those outfits and dance at gunpoint. If women had consistently refused to perform those roles, men would stop asking. That the media won't shine a spotlight on you for dressing decently is no reason to dress indecently.

Michellla:
You can look but you can't touch.

Busaki:

Define "decency".

Like you pointed out, men did not and still do not cover their chest area. Another word used traditionally for what you refer to as "abs" is breasts (as used in, for example, the bible. And I have no idea why you are censoring the word, as if it's a swear word). The difference between the male breast and the female breast is that the female breast is used for feeding children when they have given birth. That is why it swells. And it is ONLY ever used after birth, and stops functioning later. Other that that, would you elaborate to me why the male breast can be revealed freely with no complaints while the female breast cannot be revealed, considering that NEITHER of them are used for reproduction and therefore NEITHER of them should be seen in a sexual way, like patriarchal men usually think?

And I SHOULD blame men for women's depiction in the media, since the media is run by MEN. The entertainment industry is run by MEN. The technology industry is run by MEN. The government is run by MEN. You sound somewhat ignorant to the reality of what many women are suffering from. It is men that demand women to act a certain way, walk a certain way, talk a certain way, in order to fit into their patriarchal society. And in case you haven't been reading the news lately, many women ARE forced to dress a certain way. Ever heard of women being forced to wear hats in church? Ever heard of them being forced to wear skirts at work? Ever heard of human trafficking, mate?

So it is when men RESPECT the sovereign individuality of women that what you claim to be "indecency" will decrease. It is when men can consider women as equal partners that things will change. It is when men stop viewing women as their cooking possessions, punching bags and sexual objects that things will get better. It is when men view women as HUMAN BEINGS JUST LIKE THEM that a better Nigeria will ensue.

Stop blaming the victims of patriarchy for everything. Blame the oppressors. And if you are so offended by what you call "indecency", stand up from your device and actually DO something about it.

iamrosheed:

lol when I see posts like this I can only laff

DaySpringer:
Someone actually said on this thread
"The difference between the male breast and the female breast is that the female breast is used for feeding children when they have given birth. That is why it swells. And it is ONLY ever used after birth, and stops functioning later."

I love Kaycee's Replies so Far.

OP Women are hypocritical Creatures.
They do something for one reason and claim it is for another

Kaycee7:
Both are seen in a sexual way because they're both body parts that cause sexual excitement.

It is also when women stop viewing men as their ATM and personal bodyguard that things will get better. If you feel oppressed, do something about it.

Quit your whining and grow up, you big baby. It's not 5000B.C. It's the freaking 21st century. Women could have protested about the media working conditions or refuse to work outright. The men who run the media could choose to dialogue with them or crossdress. You think it's only women that are required to walk and dress a certain way? Ever heard of men not allowed to wear shorts to church? Ever heard of men forced to wear long sleeves to work? Aren't men being trafficked too?

iamrosheed:
lol when I see posts like this I can only laff

Busaki:


You need a facepalm, honestly. If they are both seen in a sexual way, why dont we say the same about naked babies? Why is the adult body sexual but not the children's body? There is no denying they have reproductive organs, so what is your point? Cant you see that your opinion on sexual arousal being triggered by unclothedness is taught to you by the society, and not born within you?

I dont see any man as my ATM. Not even my father. Men see THEMSELVES as an ATM. Men call themselves the head of the home, but what are you heading? Men call themselves the provider of the home, but what exactly are you providing? If a woman is expected to have a job, take care of the children, buy the food from the market, cook and clean, what EXACTLY are men doing in the house? People in marriages have their own mutually agreed way of sharing roles, and that is fine, but when men call themselves providers of the home, and call their wives the caretakers, that should solely be their role, and not shared with the women, because that is what was agreed. If men call themselves the caretakers, and the wives are providers, that should be their role. And if both the men and women call each other the provider and caretaker, they should share the roles equally between them. Which means it should not hurt their male ego if the woman earns more, because the roles have been shared. When men peacefully accept that women can earn more than them, then their male mentality of being an ATM will cease to exist.

Now you are truly being completely ignorant. I think you are trolling at this point. I would advise you to go to any thread on Nairaland featuring a woman as the focal point, and tell me you will not see men flocking to the thread to slam her down about the way she dresses, her makeup, her lack of makeup, her big breasts, her small breasts, her weight, her shoes, her mouth structure, her marriage, her singlehood etc. You can never be satisfied, can you? Damned if we do, damned if we dont. You are completely ignoring the fact that women suffer FAR more in their lives than men do, and you act ignorant because their suffering benefits you and your life. You mean to tell me that the number of men are being trafficked is the same as the number of women? How about rape? Is that the women's fault too? How about child marriage? Is that the female child's fault too? How about Female Genital Mutilation (FGM), is that the female baby's fault? How about Domestic Violence? Miscarriages by domestic violence? Is that the unborn baby's fault, or even the mother's fault?

You know I can go on and on and on. Because the level of problems men face can not even begin to compare what women face every single day of their lives, BY men. Women do not violate anybody's human right when they wear less clothes, but men DO violate the human rights of women when they use that as a flimsy excuse to commit crime against a fellow human being, just because she is a woman. Get that straight and clear.

Kaycee7:
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