My bf dat i love so much is acting up,we've been dating 4 1 year now,i've always suported him financially & ortherwise.these days he doesnt call,wen i call he's cold,if i ask wat the problem is he says everything is fine,now am tired of feeling lonely while in a reletionship.My problem is dat i cant seem 2 leave him,i've tried but its just so hard,out of frustration i tried 2 sleep with some1else just 2 get my mind off him but i cldn't,pls wat should i do?has he stopped loving me?y do i feel like i can never have sex with some1else(belive me i know wat am saying cos i cant get wet if its not him)i love dis guy 4 real.pls i need your urgent advice.

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My bf dat i love so much is acting up,we've been dating 4 1 year now,i've always suported him financially & ortherwise.these days he doesnt call,wen i call he's cold,if i ask wat the problem is he says everything is fine,now am tired of feeling lonely while in a reletionship.My problem is dat i cant seem 2 leave him,i've tried but its just so hard,out of frustration i tried 2 sleep with some1else just 2 get my mind off him but i cldn't,pls wat should i do?has he stopped loving me?y do i feel like i can never have sex with some1else(belive me i know wat am saying cos i cant get wet if its not him)i love dis guy 4 real.pls i need your urgent advice.

Sorry ehn

It go better my sister. . .

either he is cheating on you or since its the holiday season he might try to be an ass to you so he wont have to get you something for xmas and by next yr he's going to be back to he's usually self. i've herad stories of guys doing that which i personnally find to be hilarious!

@Poster,
What do you think he's doing? Do you think he's on break or what? When guys are fed up, they start acting funny. Its a break up ploy.
He succeeds in making you angry and you do something without thinking(cheating) and he finds a good reason to kick your butt out.

Or he's cheating on you and his conscience is eating up the better part of him.

NB
Do not draw any conclusion yet from his attitude. He could be having a bad time at work,home or maybe just moody. Talk to him and see what happens.
Best of luck!

Poster,

call him and tell him what yout old us. If its hard for you to do so, write him an email expressing all of your feelings and see what he says/replies.

My dear, when likes of this happens, you thing the world is coming to an end, but it isn't.
You have to keep your head up, and perpare for the worst cos this is it, you are old enough to read the hand writing on the wall.
based on what you said, my dear, He does not deserve you, and let me tell you, you can love again

Kelzniaja could also be right. He could be trying to run away from the holiday expenses. Some guys ditch their babes during xmas and then reconcile with them after the new year.lol
Just a thought.

Give him some space.

madam poster,
I think u r going to complicate your problem soon.

Wait, what is wrong with you that you cant stay off sex while you evaluate the substance of the relationship? From ur post, it seem you interpret being lonely to being sex starved. It is glaring in ur post. You cant get wet unles u are with him, you cant av sex with another man etc. Is this the premise upon which you based your relationship? No wonder, the guy is running away! A responsible guy cnt be serious in such relationship.

My suggestion is that you give him space and learn to stay away from sex even if he ask for it. Build your self esteem, and develop emotional independence. Flow with positive people especially ladies and talk less of sex or erotic things.

Learn to recognize real love. What u are feeling right now isnt love! They guy may have got tired of u anyway. Finally, why are you giving him money?

ehmm @poster i think ur guy needs a breathing space maybe u are always fond of him and he doesnt lyk it,dats why his always acting strange wen eva he sees u.just give him time or u talk 2 him tell him how much u luv him.

just let him go. and move on

WHAO!!! This is really frustration, been crazy in luv with a guy that doesn't reciprocate
I just pity u BEYOUNCE
JAY-Z enjoy

Nice advice there frm cantell and olanajim
@poster. I think u r in d relationship cos of sex. If i were d guy,i wud do same afta a while.He probably wants u 2 redefine your love in a much more interesting way. Its not only financial support and sex dat some guys go into relationships 4. I wudnt rather be in a relationship with a girl dats doesnt have any other thing interest about her.Things lyk being very romantic,faily unpredictable,versatility in knowledge,gud dressense,mature,understanding,fluent,caring,GOOD COOKING ABILITY and above all having d ability of ur guy to confide in u n seek advice.(victoria beckham,alicia keys kind of ladies, lol)
Take a personal reassesment n if u posses all or most of these n ur guy is treatn u dis way,then leave him cos its not ur fault n move on cos there's a better guy out there thats worth u.

simple, just break up with him. it may not be that easy but you need to move on in your life, cause it seems he is already doing that.
if the love is not there, why waste your time? its not worth it.
he is obviously playing games, and i dont think you should be waiting around for forever to come, before you go out and look for someone to appreciate you.
just because you love that person doesnt mean he is the right one for you.
and i think he might have used the money and taken advantage of you. it seems you became his personal bank account, idk.
*and i agree with cantell, olanajim, and marcoguy. this sex thing, its not love ooo, its lust*

@poster. Just calm urself n dont show him as if u've noticed any change of attitude in him. He is jst takng u for grntd cos he undrstnds dat u cnt do without him. Pretnd as if he meant nothng much. I bet that u'll c him coming back. And one last thng stop giving him money.

@AMAKA: You got it locked down!