Only post if you ve been in a serious relationship before, mature discussion here plz 

I think u definately need one if you in a serious relationship. And i aint talking about those 2days , 1 week break ups some lovers ve , am talking a month+. The reason most marriages dont work sometimes is because every thing was smooth and lovely before they got married, no real break ups to make up. Then when the wahala starts after marriage they dont know how to handle it,they start discovering sides to their partner they never knew existed when they angry etc  so everything just goes splash from there. 

But if u ve had major break ups , you tend to understand what you in for better and its up to you to stay or go. This is just my opinion and its worked for me and my partner 

Is this your way of dealing with a breakup?
Psychologists call it universality. You want to believe it is normal for everyone to experience what you have gone through thereby coping better with your anxieties

Do you read threads or just skim through it?

igotalk:

Do you read threads or just skim through it?

Are you asking a question? Being sarcastic? Or just being a numpty?
Me thinks option 3 for you.

this internet smart a$$es again

igotalk:

this internet smart a$$es again

And your point is?

i beg lo to ko lo sun

Every normal relationship will go through some kind of conflict. if that is
what you want to say, then I get your point. people who do not have
one or two major crisis in their relationships are usually pretenders, am
not saying all, but most are. I actually believe there is an advantage of having
a major break down break up or whatever you want to called it, in a relationship at
least before marriage. like that, you will know your partner more,
and you will know how to manage your differences effectively.

rokiatu:

Every normal relationship will go through some kind of conflict. if that is
what you want to say, then I get your point. people who do not have
one or two major crisis in their relationships are usually pretenders, am
not saying all, but most are. I actually believe there is an advantage of having
a major break down break up or whatever you want to called it, in a relationship at
least before marriage. like that, you will know your partner more,
and you will know how to manage your differences effectively.

now thats someone who understands what am saying.

rokiatu:

Every normal relationship will go through some kind of conflict. if that is
what you want to say, then I get your point. people who do not have
one or two major crisis in their relationships are usually pretenders, am
not saying all, but most are. I actually believe there is an advantage of having
a major break down break up or whatever you want to called it, in a relationship at
least before marriage. like that, you will know your partner more,
and you will know how to manage your differences effectively.

very correct.

na true

there is a difference between conflict in a relationship and a break up. If you mean conflicts, disagreement, it is very normal. People who never disagree can never truly understand one another.

But if you mean break up. I assume it must come with extreme bitterness, as most often the case, then I cant agree with u!

A break up that last months with serious issue dont always mend permanently. The couple will still suspect one another in one aspect. Anyway, it depends on
1. The cause of the break up
2. The avaivability of a better option, and
3. The willingnes of one of the party to compromise

Not so sure I agree with that, solely because you used the words 'major breakup'.
It isn't everyone that is involved in a break up, that makes up again.
So where's the plus-side to aiming for one, in the hope that it'll strengthen your relationship in the long term?

Couples will always have conflicts, seeing as they came from different friends and backgrounds before meeting each other. But even that should be put into context cos the level of conflicts will differ from person to person.

Break ups r healthy in r/ships IFF both learn from it and consciously avoid such particular incidents that led 2 d break up; otherwise what's d point. Way back in school, I was told that friends who never argue,quarrel or even fight are not true friends. Break ups shows one's character such as level of tolerance,level of compromise and understanding and also the level of compatibility. Funny tho' it also allows one to appreciate his/her partner more; probably after going over to d supposedly greener side of life only 2 realize that it's not any better.

Nice topic coming from a newbie~

nice one

Unlike the other newbies
that wanna drive us away from nland~

me fink so too

it is better when u break up for some while and u can come back stronger