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Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by bilms(m): 2:39pm On Mar 16, 2010
The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women --
And What To Do About It, "

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women--And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes,


MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks", but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple,

Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT, but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.



MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like, but she's just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you, YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

Bad idea. One that will never work.



MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them, EVER.

Don't get me wrong here.

You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her,



MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

Well guess what?

It's only NATURAL when this happens,

That's right, I said NATURAL.

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.



MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare.

And they get a LOT of attention from men.

Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast, and can't control themselves.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way,



MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels
a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men, and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how,



MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started, because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money, or guys who are a certain height, or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet,

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.


MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea,

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over, Women aren't attracted to Wussies!


MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each Type Of
Situation With Women

Now I'm going to blow your mind,

A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating,

Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical, everything.

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up, and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman, from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.


MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women,

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night, right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.

It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling, like I don't know how to meet women,
and I might wind up alone
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by candylips(m): 2:48pm On Mar 16, 2010
Where did you copy and paste this from.
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by Nobody: 5:07pm On Mar 16, 2010
Deangelo, Relationships are Mudane
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by Areaboy2(m): 5:10pm On Mar 16, 2010
na u go read all that thing ppl eye no good oh undecided
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by 3ndy(f): 5:14pm On Mar 16, 2010
these are just the things nerds think when they aproach a lady,
i don't want sm1 petty by my side,
i like buying things my self,
i like a guy who knows hw 2 prove me wrong when ever i think i'm superior
i like a guy who doesn't accept every A i say,
i like a guy who doesn't ask 4 my approval every 2 mins
i like a guy who's not brutal and without attention
i like a guy who doesn't freak out on my period
i like a guy who understands that i've got a life out of the relation
i like a guy who doesn't ask me 4 money either directly or ingìdirectly
i like a guy who tresures me and make me feel heart beats
i like a guy who can say i'm sorry when he thinks so not when i need it
i like a guy who can prepare me a good morning breakfast,

these are my tips 4 any guy who needs a girl, nt that rubbish
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by Nobody: 5:15pm On Mar 16, 2010
Its really not that complicated guys seriously grin grin
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by kokonets(m): 5:20pm On Mar 16, 2010
Howdy SH kiss
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by Nobody: 5:23pm On Mar 16, 2010
Hey, Hey, Hey smiley
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by benz190: 5:30pm On Mar 16, 2010
ive read this like the 18th tyme on nland~

NEXT!
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by benz190: 5:36pm On Mar 16, 2010
ive read this like the 18th tyme on nland~

NEXT!
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by 3ndy(f): 5:41pm On Mar 16, 2010
benz190:

ive read this like the 18th tyme on nland~

NEXT!
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by kokonets(m): 5:45pm On Mar 16, 2010
how re u 2day?
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by 3ndy(f): 5:49pm On Mar 16, 2010
kokonets:

how re u 2day?
who r u askin??
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by andysnoopy(m): 5:51pm On Mar 16, 2010
What is most important in getting a girl is You,  If u're wack, You're wack!!  And believe you me , Wack people don't change they remain like that forever. Yes they might be lucky to get one person who will accept them the way they are But that doesn't change the fact that they're wack. So if u're wack and wants to get a girl, My advice to you is to stop thinking too much about girls and concentrate more on ur life and business, cos you will never get the girl you want!!!  It suks to be wack yea i know, So sad, Disability is a Biatch,
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by 3ndy(f): 5:52pm On Mar 16, 2010
andysnoopy:

What is most important in getting a girl is You,   If u're wack, You're wack!!  And believe you me , Wack people don't change they remain like that forever. Yes they might be lucky to get one person who will accept them the way they are But that doesn't change the fact that they're wack. So if u're wack and wants to get a girl, My advice to you is to stop thinking too much about girls and concentrate more on your life and business,  cos you will never get the girl you want!!!  It suks to be wack yea i know,  So sad, Disability is a Biatch,
n i guess that's wot u did,
r u wack??
have u given up on girls
do u suggest him 2 go on with men??
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by andysnoopy(m): 6:02pm On Mar 16, 2010
3ndy u again, mm Ok. I've got no probs with girls and I'm kinda cool with them. But what i find amusing is folks posting tips on what to do to have girls lol,    For all we know,  those book maybe be a vicarious attempt to being a Player on the part of the writers and they are making money from it,   The best attempt to getting a girl is going out to relate with them and show them your natural Charm,  if you don't have that, I'm sorry you are wack,  No amount of tips will give u that hot girl you lusting over,  and to think that another brother out there is sleeping the hell out of her without even reading those Bullshiit makes it more pathetic .  grin grin grin
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by Nobody: 6:13pm On Mar 16, 2010
Im doing ok thanks babes, how r u?
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by 3ndy(f): 10:53am On Mar 17, 2010
andysnoopy:

3ndy u again, mm Ok. I've got no probs with girls and I'm kinda cool with them. But what i find amusing is folks posting tips on what to do to have girls lol,    For all we know,  those book maybe be a vicarious attempt to being a Player on the part of the writers and they are making money from it,   The best attempt to getting a girl is going out to relate with them and show them your natural Charm,  if you don't have that, I'm sorry you are wack,  No amount of tips will give u that hot girl you lusting over,  and to think that another brother out there is sleeping the hell out of her without even reading those Bullshiit makes it more pathetic .  grin grin grin
** raise hands and bowin down in hail***
yeah my master, sorry my master,, smiley
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by tunde1200(m): 11:24pm On Mar 17, 2010
good talk but poket maters too grin
Re: Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women by bilms(m): 1:05pm On Jul 27, 2012
lol

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