Empiree:
Eutaxy,

You need to bring your parents attention to the Book Of Allah and statments of His Nabi (SAW).

Fortuenately, this was the subject of discussion at my masjid today i:e rascism, tribalism, nationalism .....you name it.

I am aware of a hadith which says it it also preffered to marry from one's tribe, language and culture. But that's just fair recommendation for couple to be able to understand each.

People cannot rely on this solitary hadith to justify what your parents are doing to you.

The way she sounds makes her tribalist which is wrong.

The basic things to look for in potential spouse are clear: RELIGION, BACKGROUND, SELF ETC

THE EXCUSE GIVEN BY YOUR MOM IS NOT ONE OF THEM


My take on this is be patient and continue your legit romance with her. Talk to your parents' respected relatives and closed friends. Hopefully that should yield positively.

Thanks for your advise, may Allah also grant you your wishes, Amin!