Salamun Alaikum

I just recently met some people and I do not want to engage in a long courtship.So, I want your advice on critical issues I should discuss with them before choosing a marriage partner as there are so many failed marriages these days.

Please advice me.

P.S:One is married and the other is divorced.

are u ready to maried? if yes,ask them if they are ready too, please avoid courtship is not part of our religion.some muslims always make b'cos they lack islamic idealogy,try to adopt it to your life.then perform solatul-aajah is just 2 rakats and then recite surat yasin and solatul istikharah pls ask the scholars{that follow sunnah} in your area to give u details on it.ALLAH[s.w.a} will give u your own choice.

Yes.I am ready for marriage.That is why I'm seeking advice.I don't mean courtship as in dating.I mean courtship as in trying to know eachother.
Please, I need advice on xritical areas to consider;things to look out for and questions to ask.Please help me out.

salam@ Nanai

First, marry a concious muslim and If u r a brother its easy apart from prayers advised by miftaudeen, ask the sister more on the understanding of the deen i.e keeping a muslim home, her role in the house etc

If u r a sister u av to be more attentive and observing of the brother.

I will recommend an Edition of An Naseehah( muslim home) by deen communication to u.it really broaden my horizon cos am getting married in about 2 weeks now.

May ALLAH favour u with a concious spouse. amin

@Justfash:Thanks, Sis.I'll look it up, Insha Allah.I may need to ask you more questions since you are a step ahead.I hope you wouldn't mind.Jazakallah khair.

@Nanai

Am a brother, that edition was published last year, u can also check out islamqa.com for more related issues u sought.

What are the most important factors for a woman in choosing a husband? If she rejects a righteous man for some worldly reasons, will she be punished by Allaah?

Praise be to Allaah.

The most important factors for a woman in choosing a husband are his attitude/behaviour and his commitment to religion. Wealth and lineage are secondary matters. The most important thing is that the potential husband should be religious and have a good attitude, because if a man has religious commitment and a good attitude, a woman has nothing to lose: if he keeps her (remains married to her), he will keep her on a reasonable basis, and if he divorces her, he will set her free on a reasonable basis. Moreover, a man who is religious and has a good attitude will be a blessing to her and her children, for they will learn good manners and religion from him. But if the prospective husband is not like that (is not religious), she should keep away from him, especially those who take the matter of prayer lightly or who are known to drink alcohol. We seek refuge with Allaah.

As for those who do not pray at all, they are kuffaar and it is not permissible for them to marry believing women. It is important for the woman to focus on the matter of attitude and religious commitment. With regard to the matter of lineage, this is a bonus. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you (to propose marriage to your daughter etc.) a man with whose religious commitment and attitude you are pleased, then marry (your daughter) to him.”

But if you can manage to ensure compatibility (in terms of lineage and socio-economic status, etc.) as well, then this is better.


@nanai

Sorry i av to paste it here cos i dont av ur email, but u can still visit the site to see related issues u sought.May ALLAH make it easy and favour u in ur quest to hook up with a conscious Muslim.amin

@Justfash:Jazakallah khair. That is exactly what I'm hoping for-a religious man.Please continue praying for me.May Allah help us all.
I have sought the magazine but couldnt get the particular edition.Do they have a website?

@Jarus:Can you please give justfash my e-mail add?

@nanai

i think they are still developing their website, i have a copy of the edition in my office, would let u know the month that it was published on Monday.Allah would surely guide and guard us all in our endeavours. amin

@nanai. For d copy of dat edition u can visit deen com. Office in lagos sure u get it dre. Advice for u is 2 commit ur plan 2 Allah. Cant get 2 know all abt someone even if u date all yrs. As long as d person is religious(believe in Allah & His prophet 2 d core) d marriage will b on solid foundation.
@justfash50. Barkallahu fii. Learn 2 live together as Allah servant and all things follow. Are NL muslim invited. Send venue date and time. Include address and phone nos of deen for nanai. Hope she is also invited.

thanks. the venue is written above.



@nanai

just got hold of the magazine now, Achieving a Marital Harmony is the theme and it was published in May/june 2009 by deen communication.As advised above pray to ALLAH and we will also remember u in our prayers.Please pray for me too.

@justfash,
Hope u've seen Nanai's emaill addy I PMed to you?

yes i have.

Salam,

I these barely browse; my internet access has been handicapped. Please put me in prayers. . .

@ Nanai,
I wish you the best. I think the deen is very important.But dont overlook the attitude too.
@ Miftaudeen, am familiar with solatul istikhara but what does aajah mean

solatul aajah is to seek ALLAH'S help,it is recomended by prophet muhammed.seek more details of it from the scholars in your area.

@All
salamalaikumwaramotulaiwabarak


@Justfash,

justfash50:

@all

This is an Official Invitation to honour me on the 1st of May 2010 for my Nikkah ceremony at Ansarudeen Central Mosque in Festac, 24 road, 72 junction.

Thanks in anticipation for honouring me on that day.

May Allah bless the day and make u union a blissful one.
Insha Allah i will be there.

@Jarus/All,
I spoke with sir Olabowale recently but he said he is pissed off cos Nairaland religion section does not hav respect for Allah,the prophet and Islam. And that Allah(swt)says in the Holy Quran that it is not befitting for a believer to stay in a community where Allah (swt) and the Prophet(puh) are being rubbished.

Assalam Alaikum

Thank You all for the support and advice.May Allah reward you abundantly.Ameen.
My system broke down and I haven't been able to log on recently. I truly appreciate all your efforts.

@Jarus:Thanks for passing my add.

Jazakumullah khair.

Yes.I am ready for marriage.That is why I'm seeking advice.I don't mean courtship as in dating.I mean courtship as in trying to know eachother.
Please, I need advice on xritical areas to consider;things to look out for and questions to ask.Please help me out.

May Allaah continue to guide our steps. I will suggest you also get a 3-book series covering various aspects of marriage according to the authentic Sunnah:- 1.The Quest for love and Mercy-Regulations for Marriage and Wedding in Islaam.
2.Closer than a Garment-Marital intimacy According to the Pure Sunnah.
3.The Fragile Vessels-Rights and Obligations between the Spouses in Islaam.
The books were written by muhammad al-Jibaly and they are very good books. I think each costs about 300 naira.

Bisimillahi Rahmanu Rahim!!

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Salaam.

@Justfash50: Barakallah laka wa baaraka alaikuma wa jama'a bainakuma fi khairin.

@iwaboy: Thank You so much.Jazakallah khair.

@To All My Brothers and Sisters on Nairaland

Jazakallahu Khairan for all the prayers, May Allah bless and Answers all your prayers too.

@justfash

Asalam alaykum,
How was your nikkah day and how's married life? I really wished to attend but a very close relative had hers too that same day at Festac 1st gate.

Happy married life!

Alhamullilah, it was a success.Have of my faith is completed alhamdullilah ( The experience is real,great blissful)

Congratulations Justfash50, walilahilihamdu. May Allah bless your marriage as he has blessed that of Rasulullah Mohammed (SAW), and may He guide you and your spouse to have everlasting relationship and bless you with good children (ameen).

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