Am in luv wit a man 18yrs older dan i am,he wants 2 marry me but he has 3 kids n d wife is late.Am just 22,if u were in my shoes wat will u do?pls nairalanders talk 2 me.

well, if i got the 1st line of your post very well, you said you are in love with a man, heck! if you love someone, you love everything about that person. his family, his lifestyle, his religion. hope you get my point. if he's got all you want and he treats you like an equal, he does not allow the age gap to surface in the relationship; he treats you like a queen, the kids love you as well and you LOVE HIM too then go ahead: MARRY HIM.

Dvampire tanx but dont u think he'll av a divided attention 2wards me bcuz of d kids?

Dvampire®,.,.,you don kill the matter,you hit the nail on it's anus which is better job man,you are NAFDAC aproved ©

if the kids did not pose a threat when he proposed to marry you, why do you think they would when he has tied the knot finally? see, let me tell you something, be the nice sweet and caring person that you are; i mean those qualities that you displayed that got both of you attracted to each other in the first place, display enough of it - both to the man and the kids. love is not about competition on who get more of the affection or who gets less, it's about complimenting. where one fails, the other assists. in that way, the love grows and the undestanding between partners improves.

Infact,dvampire am very grateful

My Deargirl,

This is my own oppion I think u are way to young to take care of 3 children.

So he is 18 years older then u what do u think will happen after ten years he is growing older and u are getting matured u will be a different woman after ten years do u think he will accept that, why am i asking u this questions, cause i was married to a man who was twenty years older then me.He couldn't accept the fact that i was becoming a woman who makes her own decision.

That is all i want to say to u hope i didn't offend u am just talking about my own experience hope i give u something to thing about.

i think chillbabe has a good point.
you are still very young, three children is a lot of responsibility to take on at your age.
While i won't say don't marry him, i'd say give it a lot of thought, speak with your family about it.
If you finally decide to go ahead with it, then you should have reached a decision to take on whatever comes.
Remember though that marriage should be till death do you part

U are 22 and he's 18 years older than u are,
I don't think its a good idea.
Things might work out ok btw both y'all for now
but it ain't gonna last. . trust me.

don't get caught up in the moment, think hard bout ur decision.

18 yrs .love conquereth all.bt if his kids donot like u,abeg bone luv o.

chillbabe:

My Deargirl,

This is my own oppion I think u are way to young to take care of 3 children.

So he is 18 years older then u what do u think will happen after ten years he is growing older and u are getting matured u will be a different woman after ten years do u think he will accept that, why am i asking u this questions, cause i was married to a man who was twenty years older then me.He couldn't accept the fact that i was becoming a woman who makes her own decision.

That is all i want to say to u hope i didn't offend u am just talking about my own experience hope i give u something to thing about.

Word!

Dvampire:

if the kids did not pose a threat when he proposed to marry you, why do you think they would when he has tied the knot finally? see, let me tell you something, be the nice sweet and caring person that you are; i mean those qualities that you displayed that got both of you attracted to each other in the first place, display enough of it - both to the man and the kids. love is not about competition on who get more of the affection or who gets less, it's about complimenting. where one fails, the other assists. in that way, the love grows and the undestanding between partners improves.

chillbabe:

My Deargirl,

This is my own oppion I think u are way to young to take care of 3 children.

So he is 18 years older then u what do u think will happen after ten years he is growing older and u are getting matured u will be a different woman after ten years do u think he will accept that, why am i asking u this questions, cause i was married to a man who was twenty years older then me.He couldn't accept the fact that i was becoming a woman who makes her own decision.

That is all i want to say to u hope i didn't offend u am just talking about my own experience hope i give u something to thing about.

Great words, think over this before making a final decision.