richyblink1:


Brotherly, when it's Saturday morning, it's family chores first. Then I can go hang out with the boys much later after assisting my senorita with vital chores.

For the records, i leave home 6:20am every morning and returns by 7pm from Monday to Friday. And once I am home I immidiately start my nanny job (carrying, singing and playing with my girls as we have 5 months old twin girls) till the sleep let's say by 10pm or so depending, knowing fully well that my betterhalf will take over if they wake at midnight/early morning. While I equally sing and play with them Saturdays and Sundays to allow their mother rest.

Trust me, there is no better joy than singing and dancing for my girls daily. In fact I do James bond on wheels daily just to get home on time to play with them before they go to bed. Mind you, I equally wake between 2am and 3am to check on my squard(betterhalf and the twin) incase they are awake or need my assistance.

Joavid:

Not just about you. There are alot of men like you who believe their wife is an automatic laundry woman after marriage. That's why you see washing your own clothes as a big deal.

Maybe it's a cultural thing; I don't care.

but where I come from plus common sense just dictates that your laundry is a personal thing you should take care of yourself.




read that again and ask yourself if you made any sense.

richyblink1:


Brotherly, when it's Saturday morning, it's family chores first. Then I can go hang out with the boys much later after assisting my senorita with vital chores.

For the records, i leave home 6:20am every morning and returns by 7pm from Monday to Friday. And once I am home I immidiately start my nanny job (carrying, singing and playing with my girls as we have 5 months old twin girls) till the sleep let's say by 10pm or so depending, knowing fully well that my betterhalf will take over if they wake at midnight/early morning. While I equally sing and play with them Saturdays and Sundays to allow their mother rest.

Trust me, there is no better joy than singing and dancing for my girls daily. In fact I do James bond on wheels daily just to get home on time to play with them before they go to bed. Mind you, I equally wake between 2am and 3am to check on my squard(betterhalf and the twin) incase they are awake or need my assistance.

zed7:


Nice man. I guess you're newly married. Most men are like that when it's still new. Very soon you'll have more responsibilities and need more money. Then you'll double your hustle, stay out more, socialize more and won't have time and strength to babysit or do chores.
Mature men no longer have time for irrelevant things, they make money and their wives are thankful as long as the needs and even wants are being met . These same women would call you lazy even if you do all the chores but can't provide their needs.

richyblink1:


Don't know what you mean by "mature men". But will still give you a few details.

My dad is 78 but still handles his laundry personally. He was washing my clothes till I finished secondary school, yeah you heard me right. As of having more responsibilities, I have been carrying that for over 12 years now. You know what that entails?

Staying home to assist your family once in a while does not make you immature or have less responsibility like you claimed, rather it helps you bond with your family and keep you on your toes. Trust me, hanging out is something I do almost every weekend, but it mustn't clash with my family time as they are the reason for all the hustle as you claim.

As for doing all the chores and meeting my family needs. I provide 95% of my family needs as well as wants, not minding that my betterhalf is gainfully employed. Providing for your family should not be an excuse to divert your family's attention to your goons. What's the whole essence of the struggle if not family?

Was raised by a man(dad) that cooked and washed my clothes till my secondary school days just because his job is more flexible than mom's. And he has always put us first before and league of friends. So pardon me if I tend to give more attention to my family rather than friends.

Tallesty1:
You don't have to waste time and energy arguing with that girl, she's yet to see the other side of life. It's possible that she washes and irons her boyfriend's clothes but she's here feeling like what she's not to make a useless point.

Ofcourse my laundry is my responsibility but I and my partner are one so my responsibilities are her responsibilities and her responsibilities with exception of child bearing are my responsibilities too.

I am personally not comfortable with sitting idly to wait for someone to cook and serve unless she's like my aunt who doesn't want any male in her kitchen.


@Op, I want to tell you something, there are good men and there are good women but the problem with our generation is that we apply what we read online to our offline life.

I know a friend who goes to her boyfriend's house every Saturday to cook different soups for him that will last him the whole week but she was among those disturbing us with wife not cook hashtag.

Likewise men, many of us do all many works that are considered to be female works but we will never admit it.

Thing is, do what works for your family and be proud of it, it's nobody's business.

Pidgin2:



You're a good man, thank you for this

Pidgin2:


I hope you realize that many people on nairaland are below 16? Once someone has a data enabled phone, he can become a member of this forum, so you don't need to respond to every post. Many of them will do even more for their future wives but will come online and form Iron man

My dad was a professional chef so you can guess how often he made our meals when he wanted to, he could create sauce for dinner with just vegetables.

Read all posts but try responding to only the mature ones. Let the younger ones learn or move on, I don't see any point in arguing

Joavid:
eeerm, ok. This laundry part is what I really don't understand.

Let's assume there's no washing machine.
why should I wash my hubby's clothes? Did I wear it with him?
Is he handicapped?


I'm not his maid, I'm not his mum.


I ain't washing no man's clothes!

Mimzyy:
I'm so sorry, I couldn't help but quote the entire post. Men like you are very rare. You just earned my respect. Most men feel it's out of place or unmanly To Help their woman out once in a while. We are not robots too.

aljharem:
Op you are a good man but trust me it is not in your place to wash your wife's clothes. From experience I would advice you don't do that again unless she is completely indispose for that period and not because of party. Everyone needs to understand their role and where they come in to help. If she is sick etc then help out.

Brother don't do something you would later regret

Again just an advice. God bless your union

Acidosis:

Who wash your dad's clothes?

richyblink1:

Providing for your family should not be an excuse to divert your family's attention to your goons. What's the whole essence of the struggle if not family?

zed7:


Nice man. I guess you're newly married. Most men are like that when it's still new. Very soon you'll have more responsibilities and need more money. Then you'll double your hustle, stay out more, socialize more and won't have time and strength to babysit or do chores.
Mature men no longer have time for irrelevant things, they make money and their wives are thankful as long as the needs and even wants are being met . These same women would call you lazy even if you do all the chores but can't provide their needs.

Joavid:

the dry cleaners

Acidosis:
I'm very sure a girl somewhere once rejected you because you were a "good" guy.


Not all women appreciate your gesture bruv. Do you know some women consider it a crime for a man to sit at home and do chores while other men are out there hustling? Some women actually love it when hubby leaves home as early as 4am, and return home drunk at 11:30pm. The days he's not drunk, they want him to stay out till 11pm watching La Liga. That's "what makes a man a man", to some category of women.

Don't be surprised your friend's wife may never support your view.

Acidosis:


I like it when you agree with me

Acidosis:


Okay.

Men and women may be equal, but how about the importance of unpaid work? If you avoid the important unpaid work, an outsider will do it, and cash away the family budget.

I think it is even easier to do laundry than cook 2 to 3 meals per day. It is even easier to do both than babysit for years.

Motherhood nor be joke o, better start equipping yourself.

hresso:


Nice dp.

bukatyne:

Well money and time are two directly proportional resources...
When you save money, you spend time; when you save time, you spend money.

bukatyne:


Making your day it would seem

Mimzyy:
I'm so sorry, I couldn't help but quote the entire post. Men like you are very rare. You just earned my respect. Most men feel it's out of place or unmanly To Help their woman out once in a while. We are not robots too.

aljharem:
Op you are a good man but trust me it is not in your place to wash your wife's clothes. From experience I would advice you don't do that again unless she is completely indispose for that period and not because of party. Everyone needs to understand their role and where they come in to help. If she is sick etc then help out.

Brother don't do something you would later regret

Again just an advice. God bless your union

Pidgin2:


I hope you realize that many people on nairaland are below 16? Once someone has a data enabled phone, he can become a member of this forum, so you don't need to respond to every post. Many of them will do even more for their future wives but will come online and form Iron man

My dad was a professional chef so you can guess how often he made our meals when he wanted to, he could create sauce for dinner with just vegetables.

Read all posts but try responding to only the mature ones. Let the younger ones learn or move on, I don't see any point in arguing

Tallesty1:
You don't have to waste time and energy arguing with that girl, she's yet to see the other side of life. It's possible that she washes and irons her boyfriend's clothes but she's here feeling like what she's not to make a useless point.

Ofcourse my laundry is my responsibility but I and my partner are one so my responsibilities are her responsibilities and her responsibilities with exception of child bearing are my responsibilities too.

I am personally not comfortable with sitting idly to wait for someone to cook and serve unless she's like my aunt who doesn't want any male in her kitchen.


@Op, I want to tell you something, there are good men and there are good women but the problem with our generation is that we apply what we read online to our offline life.

I know a friend who goes to her boyfriend's house every Saturday to cook different soups for him that will last him the whole week but she was among those disturbing us with wife not cook hashtag.

Likewise men, many of us do all many works that are considered to be female works but we will never admit it.

Thing is, do what works for your family and be proud of it, it's nobody's business.

aljharem:
Op you are a good man but trust me it is not in your place to wash your wife's clothes. From experience I would advice you don't do that again unless she is completely indispose for that period and not because of party. Everyone needs to understand their role and where they come in to help. If she is sick etc then help out.

Brother don't do something you would later regret

Again just an advice. God bless your union

ade712:


Leave op my brother...

He is still a small boy. His philosophy will be reviewed in the face of adversity!!!

johnson232:

@bold....Of what use is your respect to him on a faceless forum? rubbish!!!!

Common to wash your clothes....women of this generation can't.. Lazy things....
If u are looking for a jobless man to wash your clothes go get a houseboy....guess your father was the one washing your mum's clothes....

richyblink1:


Didn't see this on time, wouldn't have bothered replying you. So you mean having time for your family and assisting the kids with home work as well as helping your spouse are all irrelevant to you?

I pity the woman you end up with. What a statement!!!

Mature man indeed

aljharem:
Op you are a good man but trust me it is not in your place to wash your wife's clothes. From experience I would advice you don't do that again unless she is completely indispose for that period and not because of party. Everyone needs to understand their role and where they come in to help. If she is sick etc then help out.

Brother don't do something you would later regret

Again just an advice. God bless your union

PaperLace:
OP, the only thing you did wrong is posting this on Nairaland. There are lots of sad males here, they don't like to hear that a man helps out in chores. To them, all a man needs to do, to be the HEAD of the house _ is have a dick and provide money.

If helping out in the house,makes your wife lose respect for you,then you should be more concerned about the kind of woman you are married to... because if you lose that so called money tomorrow_you'll see hell.

One even say it's not in your place to wash your wife's cloth. A woman that puts her life on the line every time to have you guys lil ones? Sometimes with complications? Tears?

Some of you have made marriage seem like a battle field, where each party is always trying to exert some authority. Sweet Lord, I can't deal...

The most annoying is after she finish multi tasking, they still expect her to come give it to them hot in bed as if she is a robot, and when she refuses, they exercise their manpower on her.. Ndi ala.. God will never lead me to such a selfish man .

I keep praying that my younger brother upholds the morals my mum taught him as she was never of the school of thought that different gender had a particular household chore to carry out. There were times I washed my dad's car, changed bulbs, generator plugs and oil, screw and unscrew nuts etc..