ok sir. lol

if i am single and see someone that i think i would like to get to know, then i will go for it. . . . . . . . . even if she was with her parents.

that is very embarassing n prolly not the smartest move. just letting u kno. happened to me yesterday

oyinda.:

that is very embarassing n prolly not the smartest move. just letting u kno. happened to me yesterday

there are many ways to approach people. . . . . look at it as what it is: just a nice person introducing himself in a friendly manner .

@ stillwater
Thank you!!!

Well,

I can see how a group of girls can be intimidating for a guy that isn't completely secure of himself, but then again, how many of us are secure with ourselves.

I know I could and have walked up a group of guys before, usually, you don't have to do anything when you're approaching a group, because they are usually all too busy talking anyway, afterall they are usually eager to see you. When a guy comes to say hi to me and if I'm with some friends, everyone takes a turn, and imagine if there are 4 other girls the guy will only have to speak once out of 5 times and smile occasionally.

Unfortunately for me the problem comes because my friends do not completely reflect my personality, but I think this makes me stand out more, because they realise that I am very different and able to be strong enough to do me, and be completely myself. It's worked before, and I keep my friends and my relationship very separate, ex bfs have never complained about that.

However, this convo was prompted by a guy saying he did have a crush on me, but then he doesn't like girls in a groups, which was a diluted way of saying I hate your friends. I have multiple groups of friends so I don't worry this says more about him than it does the guy.

and?

i wouldnt advise a guy to walk up to a group of girls and start toasting one, unless he has a thick skin.

or am i reading the topic wrong?

They'll definitely analyze him down to a T and women get mouth oh.

So if you're not denzel dont try it unless you like pain.

However, i could be wrong sha.

Body language also play a part in this.
That's why it's good to be observant  . . . . just chill and observe for a few minutes before actually approaching. I call this technique 'scanning'.

tpia.:

i wouldnt advise a guy to walk up to a group of girls and start toasting one, unless he has a thick skin.

or am i reading the topic wrong?

They'll definitely analyze him down to a T and women get mouth oh.

So if you're not denzel dont try it unless you like pain.

However, i could be wrong sha.

You are very correct.
Some guys do that because they want to show this @I'm the MAN' attitude. Apart from that, it's just wrong.
It's better to just pull her to the side and do your stuff.
Some guys just don't get it.

chamotex:

You are very correct.
Some guys do that because they want to show this @I'm the MAN' attitude. Apart from that, it's just wrong.
It's better to just pull her to the side and do your stuff.
Some guys just don't get it.

ur wrong on this one, you start by chatting them all up, stylishly and suavely narrow ur attention to ur mark, you may or may not take her away, it depends, there's no hard and fast rule, u just adapt as u go. . .trust me if u do it right, they'd be the ones asking her later on "wasup wit that guy, he's hot" lol

Adrenaline:

your wrong on this one, you start by chatting them all up, stylishly and suavely narrow your attention to your mark, you may or may not take her away, it depends, there's no hard and fast rule, u just adapt as u go. . .trust me if u do it right, they'd be the ones asking her later on "wasup wit that guy, he's hot" lol

That's what I'm saying . . . . . . I was only replying to her comment about doing it right there whilst the other chicks are there if and when he's ready to sail on. Like you said, there is no fast rule to it and it all depends on the situation and the vibe they are giving at that time.

You just can't go there and pull her to one side immediately, its kinda rude.
I would normally chat with them a lil bit and leave for some minutes. Tell them i'll be right back. You really don't want to act clingy.

When going back the second time, coast is clear, you can then make your move. I'd normally pull her to one side . . . .feel me?

if you look like this guy, no problem.

if you dont, then develop a thick skin