michelin89:

Should we look for a man with ALL of these traits? Cuz this looks like a typical Prince Charming case. Besides Prince Charming needed a heir. How willing was the princess to open up to him?

Pweety4me:

Is that all? dat stuff is simple ooo. . . i think some of our guys have some of these qualities but just don't bring it out much or just don't know how 2 use it hm!i know some of our guys here will be saying or thinking all dis is 4 "Mugun" and all dat but it ain't as long as u don't make an a$$ out of urself and be you! it will work out.

humblemate:

If the majority of men would meet 3/4 or rather all of these criteria, I bet U there would be no single lady who would say that she is still searching for the right guy~

delagasky:

First, i think u should leave God outta this (dont get me wrong, i am a xtian and i know where my God stands), so i have an issue with the obedient xter!!
U cannot define true happiness to just being faithful in your love life!! of cos there are other things tht contributes to someone being happy.
I really want to stick to the topic, but i still should point it out tht, the average guy posseses some or all of these qualities in varying degrees, but if in actual fact, every girl expects every guy to be like this, then there's somtin wrong somewhere.

semid:

Work of copy & paste.

johnnygan:

@topic you got point.

Nautillus:

LONGTHING . . . .

Ujujoan:

I agree with all your points, especially with the last two!

That's my idea of a 'virtous man' . . . wonder if they still make tho[/b]se

I know

spikedcylinder:

Lol. I see someone is living up to their bext romancer name.

na u sabi!!

Ujujoan:

[b]Those qualities she listed are not those of a rocket scientist. They are the basic attibutes of a decent man. Fine God side, but I'm assuming the laws of God can be used as baisc benchmarks for judging a good person.

If you are saying there's no decent man around anymore, then I just might agree with you!

waleski:

I av seen dos exact story lines in a book or smthing either way d poster shuld av listed the nine fruit of the holy spirit so dat we knw dat she is luking 4 d perfect man

iice:

I'm all for Character, self-control and authority

Ebonyeyes:

I can say that all men have these characters but some choose to not show it because they want to appear hard/not a mumu/save face with their cronies in the beer joint etc.

justwise:

Obviously those qualities listed above are ok and many have them, . . the prob is though NOT every woman deserve a man with those qualities, some will not appreciate it, they will take advantage of a man with such qualities.

Its so fustrating to have those qualities only to end up with somebody who will mistake Authority/ Protector to contol freak, Obedient to Mumu, the list can go on.

madlady:



Woh, you really tried .

platinumnk:

u want your man selfish, or u do want him faithful?

platinumnk:

my sister what is so HARD about these traits?
You dont want your main to be faithful to you?
You want your man selfish?
You dont want a man where his yes is yes and no is no?
You want a hot-headed man?
You want a pansy livered man?
You want a broke slob man?

Im really astounded, these qualitites do not make a perfect man- - -  it makes a GOOD one?

Now which ones are hard to have?

michelin89:

1. I am a faithful person, so I demand a faithful man.
2. I am selfish in life and selfless in love. A man like me would be perfect.
3. What? Is he a dictator?
4. I am a hot headed, so I am not the position to start judging people for being hot headed.
5. I speak my mind so I demand an out spoken man. Cowards are generally mumus.
6. Like say me I get money abi? 

stillwater:

Yipppeeee. I'm a good man.

platinumnk:

apparently no nl qualifies

chipmunkey:

Thats a Hasty generalisation that is totally wrong.

chipmunkey:

Abio! Some are not even matures enough to be called a woman.

chipmunkey:

Are you scared? Plat will definately fire back.

chipmunkey:

Are you scared? Plat will definately fire back.

justwise:

If u survived her bashing, then there are too many of them here will not

4llerbuntu:

well its really unfortunate that their has to be a search for all these attributes!! they are supposed to be ingrained in EVERYBODY male and female. its the extras that will now bring attraction.

its crazy sha,sort of like a scenario wherein u come looking for a black man in africa!!!! who come dey there?
its what it is these days!!

NB: most of the guys and gals on NL just say stuff to bring debate anyway, pple (men) are not THAT bad!!!

besides like i always tell folks, u get what u deserve!!! never mind what people tell as stories, u always get what you deserve. its a principle of life!!! if u think your so nice and good and all that and u have been getting wrong partners, u need to do a retreat and really reflect. believe me, God does not pick on you to have bad things.

besides, i dont think i ever met a woman who had not at a point in her life met a guy who absolutely was her mugun, nice and all that, but they always turn them down for the one reason or the other, he is too dry, not suave enuf, not rich enough bla bla, so why complain when u get what u get now?


for men, well suffices to say, sleeping-with half of lagos WILL come back some time, count on it. its just what it is!!!

chipmunkey:

Trust me, it's a piece of cake. Besides i'm too nice to be Bashed. The worst case scenario is for us to become friends.

chipmunkey:

Plat, are you sure you do love us? _{just kiddin.}
Love you lots too, Plenty kisses and hugs this new year.

Hotchyk:

Are there any Nigerian men who have just three of these qualities? beleive me,they are the exact opposite,they SUCK!

Hotchyk:

No way,when I say Nigerian men,I mean the idiots and imbeciles who go around chasing girls and breaking their hearts,as a matter of fact,guys in my family are well-bred,am I am proud to be associated with them.
ciao!