Hey guys i lost my virginity to a slut at the age of 19.I feel you guys are d only people i can tel dis secret,after dat incidence i hve never slept with a girl becos i am shy dats was d reason i visited d brothel and i said to my self dat was d last tyme i wil sleep with a grl.Do i do masturbate to ease tention.Becos i stil cant approach a grl and start a relationship.Guys send your comments because i realy need them.because when i see other guys with their girls i get jelouse i am now 2oyrs old in d university.

read ur books.

You went to the opposite extreme, if you're shy, you need to get out there, accept that you will get rejected 99% of the time but the 1% that you do strike lucky, will make you feel like you're on top of the world (if you picked well that is).

Rejection is a normal part of life, do you feel inhibited in other areas too?? Like going for something you really want, like a dream job maybe, a new car etc.

Are you generally a self-inhibiting type of guy or is it just women?

Women love to be approached by guys, the ones who reject you harshly are those who obviously need to to desperately restore their low self-esteem, after all there's no need to be rude.

To lose your virginity in the brothel is your choice,bro forget that life must continue since you said that how can you be ashamed of girls and masturbation is secondary if you like.

continue going 2 prostitutes,there re still many of them 2 come,ewu.

@poster: dis-virgin ur books and u'll c the solution u seek

oloshi, at 19yrs old, read your books and become something useful in life. You have a lot of time ahead of you.

@ poster,

Don't be so hard on yourself, most teenagers your age loss their virginity to prostitutes.

Take baby steps.  Get comfortable by having female friends first.  They can help you master the art of talking to women.  Once you've familiarized yourself with that you can proceed to the pick-up phase.

goodluck  

Wat's wrong wiv u?don't turn into H*mosexual ooo. . . but y d hell would u do wat u did?r there no gurls in ur school?(ok maybe dat's a bad idea)but y was it so compulsory 4 u 2 loose ur virginity?

Pweety4me:

Wat's wrong wiv u?don't turn into H*mosexual ooo. . . but y d hell would u do wat u did?r there no gurls in your school?(ok maybe dat's a bad idea)but y was it so compulsory 4 u 2 loose your virginity?

tis not compulsory, but it is by force

deluxecad:

read your books.

have u read urs?hypocrite.

Na wa o! When are schools reopening na?
@ poster: nairaland is not the place to reveal all your secrets, FYI. For now, please face ur studies, work on having female friends and getting a girlfriend, leave sex alone. It's overrated.

So many guys lost theirs to prostitutes, urs is no big deal. Work on ur shyness and get a girlfriend but know that getting sex from babes is not as easy as getting it from ashewos, different process for both. Nothing wrong with desiring sex while in school as long as u don't allow ur studies to suffer. Getting hooked on having sex with prostitutes is a very very bad thing.

Guy, so u do hav a problem like this and u where making a hell of jest on me. I wil not say anything to hurt u back cos u are already hurt to your aass. Pls Nairaland frends, ask this guy what he said to me cos he does'nt deserv any hlp until he apologises to me.

Hope you are not already housing the "THE MONSTER" go and get tested.

sorry,

abi oooo still have long way to go read hard forget about relatinship for now when you have ladies trip foryou my dear lol

I Hope you used a comdom sha!

@poster sorry Oooo but u 4uck up! tank God I am 16 still a VIRGIN*** Proud to be.

using a prostitute/gigolo is disgusting and pathetic. so what if you were still a virgin at 19, would waiting until you found someone you at least cared about yet alone loved have killed you? or are you one of those self conscious guys who think being a virgin makes you less of a man?

SO THEY HAVE MALE PROSTITUTES NOW cause i find it hard to believe that
u loss your virginity to a female prostitute how why did she rape you? if not then shut
up and move on

hbabe:

So many guys lost theirs to love-peddlers, urs is no big deal. Work on your shyness and get a girlfriend but know that getting sex from babes is not as easy as getting it from ashewos, different process for both. Nothing wrong with desiring sex while in school as long as u don't allow your studies to suffer. Getting hooked on having sex with love-peddlers is a very very bad thing.

Interesting. I always subscribe to having a steady girlfriend, it is not my style to jump from girl to girl, or club to club like a couple of
my friend do - it is f**ked up. And please, dooooont go back to those ashawos again.

MyHonour:

tis not compulsory, but it is by force

@poster clap for yourself

lol

I am sick and tired of agbayas and hypocrites coming here to tell someone to "read his books." This is what irritates me about Nigerians. They are always ready to prove level. They are either older than you, wiser than you, richer than you, or something else. Someone is asking for advise for a particular problem and all some people can write is "read your books." Wtf? Pray tell, if you have nothing to say, why not keep shut. Abi dem use typing on nairaland swear for una people ni?

My guy, I can imagine how u feel and what led u to it. All the pressure from friends and the feeling that you have to do it to cross a bridge in your life. I will say u should decide whether or not you really wan to become sexually active at this stage. If you decide to be sexually active, then, logically speaking, there is nothing bad about visiting a prostitute. I hope I never have to do it. But you are not me and I am not you. If you look at it carefully, you will see that many boyfriends treat their gf as prostitutes. Except this time they add emotions to it. Some of them know they don't love this girl and will never take her down the aisle, yet they remain because of things like attention, emotions, and most of all, SEX. But then, if you feel guilty about it and it is against the morals you stand for, you have an uphill climb, because it is hard, but not impossible, to get out of sex after you get into it. I will advice you start by getting yourself busy with other things e.g an hobby, church etc. Also, something I have realized is, when it comes to sexual relations, usually, it starts from the mind. So be careful about the things you fantasize about, or imagine. Watching indecency will you a lot. And if it is the case that you want to continue having sex, but not with a prostitute, then you have to walk up to a girl and tell her you want to have sex with her. If she says "Yes," you have sex, and if not, nothing spoil. But please don't follow the advises that say you should get a gf because you want to have sex.

which can advice be dis say make he nor get gf?

chei you be scrap

it should be "sex-pedlers" not "love-pedlers" they dont sell love rather sex

I am agree with iceblue. Focus on your study which will give you the opportunity to come up with a solution of your shyness

Also, like to request you to pay visit to your doctor and do a test for STD,