sulips:
Though she was wrong but his decision was too harsh, if he really loved her the best was to correct her after the quarrel, or better still report her to someone she look up to for advice.

Saintsammurai:
He was too harsh, he should have invited the lady over or take her out and communicate with her, pour out his mind to her and how her actions made him feel..
maybe she would have realise her mistake and she would had apologise..
breaking up with her is harsh and immature..
no one is perfect, we all have our faults.

phlamesG:
DID HE REALLY LOVE HER?

MR A and Miss B were engaged
Their wedding was 4 months away.
Mr A stays in Lagos and Miss B stays in Calabar.
Miss B went for a seminar in Lagos and decided to pay Mr A a surprised visit at home.
She got to his house around 9pm and met Mr A getting ready to retire for the night.
They were happy to see each other and Miss B decided to spend the night and leave very early in the morning to her Aunty's place.

In the morning, Miss B was already up and ready to move.
Mr A told her to hang on so he can drop her off on his way to the office
So Miss B had a little breakfast while waiting for Mr A to finish up so they can leave.
Mr A was ready and rushed to the dinning to have a cup of tea and few slices of bread as usual.
On getting to the dinning, he realized there was no milk and he checked the flask to confirm if his fiancée had made his tea.
Well, the flask was empty as well.

So he called Miss B to ask what happened.
Miss B responded by asking Mr A if he expected her to manage a tin of liquid milk for two of them.
She said she couldn't manage a tin of liquid peak milk for two cups of tea.
She admitted to have used the whole tin of milk because she doesn't like sugar in her tea as she prefers her tea very creamy and thick.
She further told him to drink mineral with bread if he really had the need for breakfast that morning.
While advising him to always stock his house with enough beverages to avoid such an occurrence as she wasn't ready to start mincing milk.

Mr A told her he was really disappointed she could only think of herself by using the whole tin of milk and not consider him despite seeing that was the last tin in the carton and he lived in an area that had no shops around.
He was aware he had just a tin of milk left in the house and he had planned to go grocery shopping by weekend.
He couldn't do it on weekdays because of his busy schedule at work couple with Lagos traffic.
Since he lived alone and hardly had visitors come around on weekdays, he had chosen to manage that the next day which was Friday so he can do the shopping on Saturday.
She was an unexpected guest and he wasn't aware of her trip to Lagos so the issue of expecting her and making plans for an extra mouth was out of it.
Besides, It hurts to know she wasn't bothered about how he fed as he was living alone and working in a company that took all his time and energy.

This little episode brought an argument that almost led to exchange of bitter words but for the matured way Mr A handled it and readily apologized because he didn't want them to part in anger.
They quickly settled and Mr A dropped her at her Aunty's place, gave her money as usual with lots of hugs and kisses and left to the office.

2 days later, Mr A called her to break the engagement and call off the wedding plans.
Reason: He said the milk issue had opened his eyes to the kind of insensitive and selfish woman he was almost getting married to.
He said it meant just one thing to him, that his wife will not be a good manager of his finances and home so he doesn't need that kind of woman as a wife.

Now everyone thinks his decision is too harsh and the issue so trivial to have led to their breakup, but he has refused to bend.
Some people think he didn't love her enough
Some think he is highly principled.
Well, Mr A has taken his stand and has moved on.

What's your take on this?

paybak:
Mr A really tried.. I'm gon pursue her out of my house like a dog and always cry whenever i see her like i always do whenever i see a snake(either in picture or real life).

You're possessed right, don't you think so?

alphadux1:
Remember:

1. They are not married
2. They did not grow up in the same house.
3. They are two individuals with their own past/history- with different mentalities, upbringing, ideologies etc.

They both have valid points, but at the end of the day, it was childish for him to call off the engagement based on his inference from the incidence. These are regular occurrences you'll have to deal with in marriage and if they are not able to work out their differences then they are not ready because such episodes are inevitable especially at the start of the marriage when they start to see and know things/habits/traits they never knew existed! There are better ways he could have handled the situation and it would have turned out to be a positive learning opportunity for both of them, and bring out the best in them.

If he cannot let go of a tin of milk and keeps reading in between the lines, then my advice for him is to remain single for the rest of his life, he is not ready yet; the day you get married your private space becomes a shared space and you have to learn to manage and/or accommodate each other including the seeming excesses.

I once heard of a case where the lady had lots of comfort in her fathers house and she told her fiance (who was facing some career challenges at the time and was earning under NGN100k monthly) that she will only live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VGC, or Ikeja GRA otherwise she will not leave her fathers house. Eventually, they got a small apartment in Ketu and they are happy. If the guy had walked away on the grounds that her tastes were too high, his actions would probably be justified, but he did not call it off, and she did not get to live in her dream neighbourhood, but they are happy together facing the odds and trying to make ends meet.

alphadux1:
Remember:

1. They are not married
2. They did not grow up in the same house.
3. They are two individuals with their own past/history- with different mentalities, upbringing, ideologies etc.

They both have valid points, but at the end of the day, it was childish for him to call off the engagement based on his inference from the incidence. These are regular occurrences you'll have to deal with in marriage and if they are not able to work out their differences then they are not ready because such episodes are inevitable especially at the start of the marriage when they start to see and know things/habits/traits they never knew existed! There are better ways he could have handled the situation and it would have turned out to be a positive learning opportunity for both of them, and bring out the best in them.

If he cannot let go of a tin of milk and keeps reading in between the lines, then my advice for him is to remain single for the rest of his life, he is not ready yet; the day you get married your private space becomes a shared space and you have to learn to manage and/or accommodate each other including the seeming excesses.

I once heard of a case where the lady had lots of comfort in her fathers house and she told her fiance (who was facing some career challenges at the time and was earning under NGN100k monthly) that she will only live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VGC, or Ikeja GRA otherwise she will not leave her fathers house. Eventually, they got a small apartment in Ketu and they are happy. If the guy had walked away on the grounds that her tastes were too high, his actions would probably be justified, but he did not call it off, and she did not get to live in her dream neighbourhood, but they are happy together facing the odds and trying to make ends meet.