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TRUE LIFE: My Emotional Affair by Lindalilian: 3:50pm On May 21, 2017 |
Had I been physically unfaithful to my
husband? No. Had I committed adultery in
my heart? Yes.
About 15 years into my marriage, my
heart started turning cold toward my
husband. He had an odd schedule at
work, and then he spent most of his
leisure hours volunteering at our
church. When I tried to talk to him about
spending less time at church and more
with me and our children, he angrily shot
back, “You’re just trying to hold me back
from doing God’s work.” He then began
punishing me by turning his back to me
in the bedroom.
Feeling lonely and rejected, I confided my
misery to a friend who had called about
an upcoming ministry project. My friend
was kind and
understanding. Unfortunately, no one had
ever told me to guard my conversations
with the opposite sex. The friend was a
man and a very good-looking one at that.
We began talking more frequently. I
thought the conversations were innocent,
even though they now included
discussions about the struggles in his
marriage. Gradually, our phone
relationship escalated to flirting, and his
calls were the highlight of my
week. Neither of us told our spouses.
At church, I noticed that he watched me a
lot. I admit that I enjoyed the attention,
the affirmative words, and the “high” I
got with my schoolgirl crush. If someone
had asked me if I was having an affair,
however, I would have denied it. After all,
there were no private lunches, there was
no secret rendezvous, and there was no
physical touch except for a public hug
now and then or a slight touch of the
hand. Everybody in our church hugged
anyway so no one was the wiser … or so
I thought.
Our emotional affair rocked on for over a
year until the day he said to me, “I think
I’m in love with you.” Honestly, I felt the
same about him, but hearing the words
jolted me into reality. I was so upset
afterward that I looked at myself in the
mirror in shock and cried, “What have I
done?”
I didn’t like what I saw as the Holy Spirit
replayed the ugly truth of my actions back
to me. Had I been physically unfaithful to
my husband? No. Had I committed
adultery in my heart? Yes.
I plowed through days of agony before
finally falling to my knees before God in
surrender. One definition of
relinquishment is “giving up title,
releasing possession or control and
yielding power.” How could I do
otherwise? I had been a Christian for 16
years. My body was not my own. I had
been bought with a price (1 Corinthians
6:20), so it was no longer my will that
counted but His (Luke 22:42).
I confessed to God that I felt nothing for
my husband, but that vows are.........
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