hello people,
A friend of mine has a female friend (just friends) whom father died recently,
my friend is thinking of buying the coffin as his own part of contribution to the burial.

He is just a friend and the family members dont even know him.

What would be your advise in this case??

dgb4:

hello people,
A friend of mine has a female friend (just friends) whom father died recently,
my friend is thinking of buying the coffin as his own part of contribution to the burial.

He is just a friend and the family members dont even know him.

What would be your advise in this case??

If he is a husband or husband-to-be it might sound OK but a mere friend common,ask ur friend to give the girl the money he intends to use get the coffin.It is in most places,the first son/daughter that gets the coffin when the old man dies but if the family asked his girl to get a coffin for the dad,he STILL shouldnt be the one to buy the coffin,he shld give the cash to the babe,let her do the purchase herself. _{u cant cry more than the bereaved.}

Its not worth it

Just buy the Coffin, why is that an issue?

Is your friend ok? That's an insult for a non-relative to step in and offer to buy a coffin to the deceased's family. It's what family members do.

nooooooooooo

he should just give money instead.

God bless u all for ur contributions.
After series of interaction with him, he opened up that he might marry the girl. But i dont think this is the right approach to follow the marriage since he hasnt proposed yet and the deceased & family dont know him.
more advise pls. Thanks

Why doesn't he just give them a cow or drinks for the after party?

he's 'just a friend' & he want6s 2 buy d casket

i bet there'es an ulterior motive

I dont see anything wrong in that.
If they are friends and he wants to help and contribute the casket, there is no big deal.
God bless the dude jare.

chaircover:

I may be wrong but I think I heard somewhere that traditionally in Yoruba land it is the in-laws that buy the casket, but even if this is true, the guy isn't married to the lady yet.

So what?
The man just wanna be nice enuf to buy the casket
So lemme ask this, what if the guy say, here is the money for a casket and the lady buy the casket, will that some kinda taboo as well?

BTW . . .2 years down the road, i am sure the dude could now say, he bought the casket, cos in all honesty, he did.