So my friend just called to tell me this bad news.

She's been dating this guy for over a year now and he has proposed.
Turns out he left for another state to hustle and things were going fine, he promised to do the introduction this year and so on.

Along the line, she demanded that she needed some money to start up a business which he agreed to.
After giving her the money, things started to change.
He stopped calling and texting as usual.

Then one day out of nowhere, he tells her she should manage the business very well that he has settled her.
My friend was shocked by those words, what does he mean by settled her?
She asked him to explain further and he said he was no longer interested in the marriage, he's not ready to get married and she should take the money for the business as a form of compensation for wasting her time.

Now she's torn, heartbroken and confused. She claims she can't even continue with the business because he was the one who inspired her to give it a try and now without him it's not the same.

She still loves him and is ready to give him back every thing he spent to setup the business just to have him back.

My question now is, why invest so much into someone if he didn't want to rip the fruit..who does that..

The title of your thread is misleading...

Well, back to the topic. ShÌt happens and there's no point crying over split milk, dude is probably seeing someone else so he's lost interest in her you. It's quite hard to maintain a LDR in my opinion. She You should just move on already.

menh, him try oo, settle her self unto person serve oga 4 7yrs, ur frnd shld move on, a failed relationshp is beta dan a broken marriage.

kateskitty:
So my friend just called to tell me this bad news.

She's been dating this guy for over a year now and he has proposed.
Turns out he left for another state to hustle and things were going fine, he promised to do the introduction this year and so on.

Along the line, she demanded that she needed some money to start up a business which he agreed to.
After giving her the money, things started to change.
He stopped calling and texting as usual.

Then one day out of nowhere, he tells her she should manage the business very well that he has settled her.
My friend was shocked by those words, what does he mean by settled her?
She asked him to explain further and he said he was no longer interested in the marriage, he's not ready to get married and she should take the money for the business as a form of compensation for wasting her time.

Now she's torn, heartbroken and confused. She claims she can't even continue with the business because he was the one who inspired her to give it a try and now without him it's not the same.

She still loves him and is ready to give him back every thing he spent to setup the business just to have him back.

My question now is, why invest so much into someone if he didn't want to rip the fruit..who does that..

Why should she collect money from him to start a business...
Is she an orphan
The main reason why your friend is sad is because she has lost her source of livelihood(her 'fiance')

Op did any body die?

Sadly, during all this time, he discovers a side of this babe that turned him off.... Why would she want to give the money back now?! As if the money is the issue?! Its just compensation for her

Abeg, this your title is misleading. Why not say,'My Friend's Fiancé just called it off' or something along that line?

Anyways, when I read she demanded..., she did wrong there. A lady shouldn't be making demands on a man she ain't married too. Even in marriage sef, a lady shouldn't be demanding from her husband.

Tell her ndo ooo from Jashar.

She had berra keep the business if she ain't got nothing else at hand though....

Your title ehhhh , I was mourning the man before I opened the thread sef.


Wooz wooz wobi, tell her to hold on to her money and continue with the business biko. If she dares return it, she don lose for both ends be that because I'm sure, dude won't take her back.

Hmmm am just calming myself down nawa oh .op please don't try that again I mean using lost in this situation.

if i had not read the full story, i would think her fiance die or sometin like.

well, the guy feel remorseful dat's why he invests in her so d lady won't loose in both ways.

Pls Let Start Using Our Brain When Givin Threads Title. See Has My Heart Cut Sha, With Wetin Dey Ground Sey Dem Beat Juvetus. U Wan Kon Make Matter Worst Again. Take Ur Time Oh!!!

kateskitty:
So my friend just called to tell me this bad news.

She's been dating this guy for over a year now and he has proposed.
Turns out he left for another state to hustle and things were going fine, he promised to do the introduction this year and so on.

Along the line, she demanded that she needed some money to start up a business which he agreed to.
After giving her the money, things started to change.
He stopped calling and texting as usual.

Then one day out of nowhere, he tells her she should manage the business very well that he has settled her.
My friend was shocked by those words, what does he mean by settled her?
She asked him to explain further and he said he was no longer interested in the marriage, he's not ready to get married and she should take the money for the business as a form of compensation for wasting her time.

Now she's torn, heartbroken and confused. She claims she can't even continue with the business because he was the one who inspired her to give it a try and now without him it's not the same.

She still loves him and is ready to give him back every thing he spent to setup the business just to have him back.

My question now is, why invest so much into someone if he didn't want to rip the fruit..who does that..

check well, something about her turned him off. Ask your friend to tell you the truth.

I can't marry I girl who's already a liability even before the wedding. Kudos to the guy, he just relieved his self of that burden

jashar:
Abeg, this your title is misleading. Why not say,'My Friend's Fiancé just called it off' or something along that line?

Anyways, when I read she demanded..., she did wrong there. A lady shouldn't be making demands on a man she ain't married too. Even in marriage sef, a lady shouldn't be demanding from her husband.

Tell her ndo ooo from Jashar.

She had berra keep the business if she ain't got nothing else at hand though....

I had to look up the name of the poster after reading the comment. I saw Jashar. I said hmmm...

I thought when you said lost ... You meant the fiance died

Op, u bad o

On seeing 'lost' I thought d person died ni o

kateskitty:
So my friend just called to tell me this bad news.

She's been dating this guy for over a year now and he has proposed.
Turns out he left for another state to hustle and things were going fine, he promised to do the introduction this year and so on.

Along the line, she demanded that she needed some money to start up a business which he agreed to.
After giving her the money, things started to change.
He stopped calling and texting as usual.

Then one day out of nowhere, he tells her she should manage the business very well that he has settled her.
My friend was shocked by those words, what does he mean by settled her?
She asked him to explain further and he said he was no longer interested in the marriage, he's not ready to get married and she should take the money for the business as a form of compensation for wasting her time.

Now she's torn, heartbroken and confused. She claims she can't even continue with the business because he was the one who inspired her to give it a try and now without him it's not the same.

She still loves him and is ready to give him back every thing he spent to setup the business just to have him back.

My question now is, why invest so much into someone if he didn't want to rip the fruit..who does that..

Sometimes people fall out of love. Could be due to different reasons .... however unacceptable the reason might sound. In the same vein, people invest to much emotions, finances, and all sorts into relationships with the intention of 'ripping the fruit' as you put it but it just doesn't pan out that way.

He goofed for saying he was 'settling' her for wasting her time (u can never actually settle all that time spent) but yeah... People can fall out of love.

Best to take some time off, pull self together, and move on. Better a failed relationship than a failed marriage.

Cheers

obyrich:
I had to look up the name of the poster after reading the comment. I saw Jashar. I said hmmm...

Nwannem... what's 'hmmming' you oo?

What I do?

That guy is a good guy. He has conscience.

desquad:
I can't marry I girl who's already a liability even before the wedding. Kudos to the guy, he just relieved his self of that burden

I can't o.

Shh I think say na die the fiancé die. If she can't continue the business make she bring d money make I help am keep am and OP before I forget next time make sure you choose your title correctly.

Eeyaa extend my sympathy to "your friend". Atleast the young man has conscience, some dudes will just walk away and pretend nothing happened.

Don't cry much, I mean tell your friend not to cry much over spilled milk.

jashar:





Nwannem... what's 'hmmming' you oo?

What I do?

Nothing o. Only Jashar fit talk like that.

kateskitty:
So my friend just called to tell me this bad news.

She's been dating this guy for over a year now and he has proposed.
Turns out he left for another state to hustle and things were going fine, he promised to do the introduction this year and so on.

Along the line, she demanded that she needed some money to start up a business which he agreed to.
After giving her the money, things started to change.
He stopped calling and texting as usual.

Then one day out of nowhere, he tells her she should manage the business very well that he has settled her.
My friend was shocked by those words, what does he mean by settled her?
She asked him to explain further and he said he was no longer interested in the marriage, he's not ready to get married and she should take the money for the business as a form of compensation for wasting her time.

Now she's torn, heartbroken and confused. She claims she can't even continue with the business because he was the one who inspired her to give it a try and now without him it's not the same.

She still loves him and is ready to give him back every thing he spent to setup the business just to have him back.

My question now is, why invest so much into someone if he didn't want to rip the fruit..who does that..

She demanded for her settlement...
I can only imagine how she asked when you say demanded.

She should manage the business well otherwise she'd be broke and single.

P. S. The title of the thread made me think he died

kateskitty:
So my friend just called to tell me this bad news.

She's been dating this guy for over a year now and he has proposed.
Turns out he left for another state to hustle and things were going fine, he promised to do the introduction this year and so on.

Along the line, she demanded that she needed some money to start up a business which he agreed to.
After giving her the money, things started to change.
He stopped calling and texting as usual.

Then one day out of nowhere, he tells her she should manage the business very well that he has settled her.
My friend was shocked by those words, what does he mean by settled her?
She asked him to explain further and he said he was no longer interested in the marriage, he's not ready to get married and she should take the money for the business as a form of compensation for wasting her time.

Now she's torn, heartbroken and confused. She claims she can't even continue with the business because he was the one who inspired her to give it a try and now without him it's not the same.

She still loves him and is ready to give him back every thing he spent to setup the business just to have him back.

My question now is, why invest so much into someone if he didn't want to rip the fruit..who does that..

Change the heading, I was thinking the guy died.

Nah wah ooh. op, please try and modify the title of the thread, as its misleading. Or its your intention?.

obyrich:
Nothing o. Only Jashar fit talk like that.

mbok, you know me before?

and I thought he died

Screw.love! It's an equivocator. The only mirage or if you will fallacy of misplaced theory nature created to ignite our desire to procreate and noture our off spring.
Love is nothing outside that.
My advice for her is , let her get her business right , if for nothing, just to show him later on in life that she wasn't as fvcked up as he thought she was..
She was designed to do just fine without nobody. Okay?