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I Need Your Help And Advice Please by mhizpinky(f): 7:23am On Jun 26, 2017
I av been with my guy for almost 2yrs now nd we're planning an intro dis year ending.
we're 80% diff in all sense but I like it because I don't really like a man I will tell something and would just say yes to it.
but d case is becoming worrisome, to him I can't say who I am or how he place me. all he want is full satisfaction of sex and nothing more. d moment u talk about marriage den its a case. Fast forward to Saturday morning when I change my status on Facebook to "in relationship with" him. Immediately he saw it he called me to remove it as he doesn't like which I did immediately too
but I don't know d status doesn't change and I was so surprised wen he called me with an angry voice dat y didn't I change d status
dats wen I felt confused
please help me Is it dat he doesn't really love me or is DAT policy or wat?
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Redoil: 7:28am On Jun 26, 2017
The guy is just using u ask a intimacy gadget and in another serious relationship elsware

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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by phlamesG: 7:29am On Jun 26, 2017
It's either of two things-

1: he doesn't see you as wife material, maybe you presented yourself as a sex object. undecided

2: he doesn't value ur relationship, then I'll advice u to look elsewhere, cos for him to get angry over u changing ur relationship status, means he's not even ready to settle down with you.

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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Elkay3: 7:29am On Jun 26, 2017
I'm not so sure if you need others help. I'm sure you only need yourself to help you.

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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 7:34am On Jun 26, 2017
You need help with your English. Any reasonable guy will be ashamed to be with a girl who drops more bombs than Boko Haram does.

mhizpinky:
I av been with my guy for almost 2yrs now nd we're planning an intro dis year ending.
we're 80% diff in all sense but I like it because I don't really like a man I will tell something and would just say yes to it.
but d case is becoming worrisome, to him I can't say who I am or how he place me. all he want is full satisfaction of sex and nothing more. d moment u talk about marriage den its a case. Fast forward to Saturday morning when I change my status on Facebook to "in relationship with" him. Immediately he saw it he called me to remove it as he doesn't like which I did immediately too
but I don't know d status doesn't change and I was so surprised wen he called me with an angry voice dat y didn't I change d status
dats wen I felt confused
please help me Is it dat he doesn't really love me or is DAT policy or wat?
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Lionessza(f): 7:37am On Jun 26, 2017
80 % difference and you're ok with that ? That sounds like too much gap between the two of you, meaning your relationship will likely be full conflicts because you are just too different. You don't have much in common, and he sees you a a sex gadget and doesn't seem to want to go public with you but you still want to continue with this kind of " relationship "? Good luck lady you're going to need it. If I were you I would start looking elsewhere.

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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by mrtomola(m): 7:46am On Jun 26, 2017
No love....
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by uyaima: 7:47am On Jun 26, 2017
My sister,I be woman like u.Abeg take the first and second comment way dem give u 4 here,take do better tin 4 ur life mbok!
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Prec1ous(m): 8:10am On Jun 26, 2017
The Guy loves something about you, but it's not eve enough for him to be fully committed.

He is not really sincere with his relationship with you, you are a stop gap and once someone with what he needs is available, he will jump ship.

This is what you should do...

Begin the withdrawal process, he may be feeling choked.

Begin to explore alternatives like getting engaged in other activities or a job.

Tell yourself he will leave anytime.

If he wants you, he may notice your Indifference and if he doesn't, good riddance.

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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 12:10pm On Jun 26, 2017
Dreamwaker:
You need help with your English. Any reasonable guy will be ashamed to be with a girl who drops more bombs than Boko Haram does.

And somewhere in your mind, you have said something funny
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by NeeKlaus: 1:46pm On Jun 26, 2017
Dreamwaker:
You need help with your English. Any reasonable guy will be ashamed to be with a girl who drops more bombs than Boko Haram does.



So my Guy, where has your grammatical fluency taken you in life so far?? undecided

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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 1:50pm On Jun 26, 2017
vicfuntop:


And somewhere in your mind, you have said something funny

If it was meant to be a joke, I will end my post with "lol" or "haha".

NeeKlaus:

So my Guy, where has your grammatical fluency taken you in life so far?? undecided

My guy it got me my beautiful oyinbo wife grin
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by ChopBellefull(m): 2:05pm On Jun 26, 2017
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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by ChopBellefull(m): 2:06pm On Jun 26, 2017
My dear i gat two hypothetical reasons why e may hv behaved dat way..

1. Maybe he likes u as a sex object but he is not proud of you. I.e he might not like ur looks bt enjoys u privately.

2. He is also likely to want to keep ur relationship off social media. Like me Every one dat cares to knw my babe can knw her off social media nt on social media. If u wnt to knw her i think real life z enuf.

So my advice for u is that... Try and observe the way e treats u outside d bedroom. If he z proud of u outside then u hv no worries. Dnt make urself too cheap to ur guy coz he ll nt value u at all. Always posing urself as hungry for marriage will make him laff at u inside of him.
Be natural
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by peter0071(m): 4:50pm On Jun 26, 2017
move on babe...thats the hard truth
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 4:58pm On Jun 26, 2017
too much negativity comes from ladies on this forum. angry i will advice you wait for advice from sexybbstar, estherfabian or benita27. Make una nor crash people relationship finish o cheesy
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 5:05pm On Jun 26, 2017
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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by YoungBlackRico(m): 5:13pm On Jun 26, 2017
How are we supposed to help you? ...come change him for you?

80% difference yet you stayed put just 'cause "you don't want a guy who agrees with everything you say", lol, just listen to yourself. Well, you knew what you were getting into lady, so enjoy the ride or move on. It's that simple.
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by YoungBlackRico(m): 5:18pm On Jun 26, 2017
thepussyhunter:
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You grin

I saw your crazy comments on that Lefu's thread last night, you're one hell of a crazy commentator/reporter. Got me laughing all through the night, respect man. cool

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Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 5:21pm On Jun 26, 2017
YoungBlackRico:
You grin

I saw your crazy comments on that Lefu's thread last night, you're one hell of a crazy commentator/reporter. Got me laughing all through the night, respect man. cool

Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 5:27pm On Jun 26, 2017
First and foremost. You said the difference between you and the guy is 80%, 80% is way too much of a difference. That's to say you both have little in common which isn't good if you must get married.

Secondly, you said he sees you as a sex object, and for you to be saying this yourself means the only thing this guy does with you on every meeting is "Sex". Dating such guys is really frustrating, you wish he could be doing other things with you but he isn't. I won't be surprised that the only time he calls your line is whenever he wants you around for his sexual gratification. He doesn't love you, just using you for the time being.

Lastly, you don't go about tagging your boyfriend on your social media platform. If he takes you seriously, he would be the one doing that and not you. It freaks most guys out when you're forcing the relationship to be made public 'cause it makes you seem desperate for it. Have some reservations even if you're clearly the one loving more.
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 5:29pm On Jun 26, 2017
redbeans:
too much negativity comes from ladies on this forum. angry i will advice you wait for advice from sexyb.bstar, estherf.abian or benit.a27. Make una nor crash people relationship finish o cheesy
Thanks for the mention. How are you?.
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 5:35pm On Jun 26, 2017
mhizpinky:
I av been with my guy for almost 2yrs now nd we're planning an intro dis year ending.
we're 80% diff in all sense but I like it because I don't really like a man I will tell something and would just say yes to it.
but d case is becoming worrisome, to him I can't say who I am or how he place me. all he want is full satisfaction of sex and nothing more. d moment u talk about marriage den its a case. Fast forward to Saturday morning when I change my status on Facebook to "in relationship with" him. Immediately he saw it he called me to remove it as he doesn't like which I did immediately too
but I don't know d status doesn't change and I was so surprised wen he called me with an angry voice dat y didn't I change d status
dats wen I felt confused
please help me Is it dat he doesn't really love me or is DAT policy or wat?
My dear he doesn't want his main chick to see the update. Too bad. I'll advise u not to put your egg in one basket cos this basket seems to b very leaky
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 5:47pm On Jun 26, 2017
Dreamwaker:


If it


My guy it got me my beautiful oyinbo wife grin


It's good. I am replying a dreamer
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 6:18pm On Jun 26, 2017
vicfuntop:



It's good. I am replying a dreamer

Yes I'm a dreamer too wink
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Fidecoo(m): 6:25pm On Jun 26, 2017
mhizpinky:
I av been with my guy for almost 2yrs now nd we're planning an intro dis year ending.
we're 80% diff in all sense but I like it because I don't really like a man I will tell something and would just say yes to it.
but d case is becoming worrisome, to him I can't say who I am or how he place me. all he want is full satisfaction of sex and nothing more. d moment u talk about marriage den its a case. Fast forward to Saturday morning when I change my status on Facebook to "in relationship with" him. Immediately he saw it he called me to remove it as he doesn't like which I did immediately too
but I don't know d status doesn't change and I was so surprised wen he called me with an angry voice dat y didn't I change d status
dats wen I felt confused
please help me Is it dat he doesn't really love me or is DAT policy or wat?
,, mumu girls, everywhere.
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by Nobody: 6:37pm On Jun 26, 2017
Benita27:
Thanks for the mention. How are you?.
jus there o.. Trying to adjust to the 'change' we were promised.

In btw.. Hope people won't view me as an asslicker? smiley
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by midehill(m): 7:13pm On Jun 26, 2017
itz jes a pity if u break up with him...u r d one DAT still loses Buh my advice 4 u z to leave DAT guy...groom ursef...wear nice cloth...b hardworking...real guys will come 4 u
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by mhizpinky(f): 8:27am On Jun 27, 2017
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phlamesG:
It's either of two things-

1: he doesn't see you as wife material, maybe you presented yourself as a sex object. undecided



2: he doesn't value ur relationship, then I'll advice u to look elsewhere, cos for him to get angry over u changing ur relationship status, means he's not even ready to settle down with you.
phlamesG:
It's either of two things-

1: he doesn't see you as wife material, maybe you presented yourself as a sex object. undecided



2: he doesn't value ur relationship, then I'll advice u to look elsewhere, cos for him to get angry over u changing ur relationship status, means he's not even ready to settle down with you.
phlamesG:
It's either of two things-

1: he doesn't see you as wife material, maybe you presented yourself as a sex object. undecided

2: he doesn't value ur relationship, then I'll advice u to look elsewhere, cos for him to get angry over u changing ur relationship status, means he's not even ready to settle down with you.


1) I didn't present myself dat way. he is d only person I av ever have sex with.
although he complain about my sexual life too dat I am too weak for him but I told him i would change as time goes on
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by mhizpinky(f): 8:39am On Jun 27, 2017
ChopBellefull:
My dear i gat two hypothetical reasons why e may hv behaved dat way..

1. Maybe he likes u as a sex object but he is not proud of you. I.e he might not like ur looks bt enjoys u privately.

2. He is also likely to want to keep ur relationship off social media. Like me Every one dat cares to knw my babe can knw her off social media nt on social media. If u wnt to knw her i think real life z enuf.

So my advice for u is that... Try and observe the way e treats u outside d bedroom. If he z proud of u outside then u hv no worries. Dnt make urself too cheap to ur guy coz he ll nt value u at all. Always posing urself as hungry for marriage will make him laff at u inside of him.
Be natural

2) he z he wants to keep d relationship off media
he always try his best for me ever since we met. in fact he his caring and loving
d only problem I do av with him is dat he doesn't want ppl to know about us
he is not comfortable with it wen I introduce him to my friends or family I knew his broda and sis through a coincidence
I am not hungry for marriage he made d move first
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by mhizpinky(f): 8:41am On Jun 27, 2017
Fidecoo:
,, mumu girls, everywhere.
thank u
Re: I Need Your Help And Advice Please by mhizpinky(f): 8:50am On Jun 27, 2017
Prec1ous:
The Guy loves something about you, but it's not eve enough for him to be fully committed.

He is not really sincere with his relationship with you, you are a stop gap and once someone with what he needs is available, he will jump ship.

This is what you should do...

Begin the withdrawal process, he may be feeling choked.

Begin to explore alternatives like getting engaged in other activities or a job.

Tell yourself he will leave anytime.

If he wants you, he may notice your Indifference and if he doesn't, good riddance.


he always tell me he can't afford a
far distance relationship and dats y he always try his best to b around me
I av a job sis I am a fashion designer and i sell fabrics too and d truth is he gave me more Dan half of my capital
I really appreciate u sis

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