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Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by alexjohnson4945(m): 6:12pm On Nov 11, 2016
i would go straight to the point without beating around the bush.

I am so sad as i am writing this article, because i dont know if i can ever trust a woman ever in my life or fall in love again...

i have a gf whom i love so so so much, i show her how much i love her with every single opportunity i have...we both finished serving this year April to be precise and since then we have been job hunting, we finished from the same school, and since then any chance we had to hookup we would and have a great time and try to recover the time that had divided us..

After service, i stayed in Lag and she stayed with her parents in Delta state, on the long run after hussling i finally got a job in Abuja nyanya precisely, i relocated to abuja thankfully i had a friend who lives close to where i got employment so im temporarily staying with him...

So my gf had been in Delta all this while with her parents, job hunting also, one reason why i love this girl so much is because she is a go getter, she isnt like any other girl that depend on her bf or someone else to get her basic needs, she doesnt mind to work to get what she wants. she is intelligent and Hardworking, infact a wife material.

All along i have been applying online for her also to see if we can be lucky to get her a job also, but none has been forthcoming so far.

Now, she called me last week that she got an appointment with someone that said he was gonna give her a job in a bank here in abuja, somewhere in maitama, i was happy for her and she gave me the arrangements on when she would be coming to abuja and i was happy that finally i would see the woman of my dreams...

She came to Abuja last week friday 4th, i was still at work when she touched down abuja, she called me and i told her we would see after the whole interview was done, God how happy i was then...

3pm that same friday she called me and said that she is leaving back to Delta, i was shocked and asked her why, what could be the problem, she said the interview didnt go well as she planned and she had another interview in delta the next day, and her flight was 4:30pm, i was sad, but what could i do, i wished her journey mercies back to delta...

We talked throught on saturday

Now this is where i am shattered.....

On Sunday evening 6th, i was in the kitchen preparing something for dinner for me and my guy, then one of the compound children opened the gate for a car to come in, the compound i stay has tenants and its usually filled during the weekends, so i looked through the kitchen window and looked outside to see my neighbour enter the compound with his car, i was still looking because i saw that he came back with a girl this time around. lucky him i said in my mind..

He parked the car, and came out, then the second door opened and the lady came out, to God who made me i wish i wasnt born to withness this kind of heartbreaking scene, My gf came out of the car, and the man held her and both of them went to the man's apartment....

i was still in the kitchen, i couldnt move or speak, my eyes were filled with tears this is a girl i had made up my mind to marry..

i didnt know what to do , so i just summoned up the courage i had and dialled her phone. she picked i asked her where she was she said she was at home in her room, listening to music, the music coming out of the man's room was the same i was hearing coming out of the phone..

i still could believe it, so i showed my friend her picture on my phone and asked him to go to the man's house to just greet him and familiarize abit and confirm if the girl on my phone was the same in the man;s house...

He came back and confirmed it said she was the one...

Till now i still dont know if i can recover from this....

i hardly eat , i am not facing my new job as i should because they have already issued me my first query...

i need your advice and if you have been in this kind of situation before how did you come out of it.,,.... please help a brother out



im sorry for the long writeup
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by adaksbullet: 6:22pm On Nov 11, 2016
Bus am fill ur sorows and paynes cry eh shocked chei! shocked

Some ppls his wicked o shocked eh! shocked

His am not no whot too say o, cry cry cry cry cry cry cry




Am come, let me tink angry

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by dingbang(m): 6:24pm On Nov 11, 2016
U should have gone down there and met her face to face... instead of whining about it

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Nobody: 6:24pm On Nov 11, 2016
Lol......bro just move on and forget that LovePeddler you call a girlfriend......she's enjoying her life wherever she is now.......don't kill yourself because of a woman.....and a bad relationship shouldn't stop you from falling in love again smiley

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Paulpaulpaul(m): 6:26pm On Nov 11, 2016
Op, congratulations, you just passed the first test.



Face your job, live well & wait

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Nobody: 6:27pm On Nov 11, 2016
Don't beat urself up over an issue u can't help. Of course it's painful, but u have to realise dat life can't always be fair. I will advise dat u have a heart to heart talk with d lady in qquestion, let her know dat u are aware of what happened. Please give her a chance to explain herself, except she has been dis kinda person frm d onset. But if not, forgive her because we are all human.




Please cheer ursef up... Life is too beautiful..

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Nobody: 6:29pm On Nov 11, 2016
adaksbullet:
Bus am fill ur sorows and paynes cry eh shocked chei! shocked

Some ppls his wicked o shocked eh! shocked

His am not no whot too say o, cry cry cry cry cry cry cry




Am come, let me tink angry





Guy, stop being a douche and grow up.

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by pcoolioz(m): 6:31pm On Nov 11, 2016
I am trying to imagine mehn. painful af. It's not easy but move on, if it were me I would just show my face so she knows I nabbed her.

No need for drama and all, you know wassup, you were saved from could have been worse in future like what are the odds it had to be the same compound you stayed she came to?

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by ikp120(m): 7:06pm On Nov 11, 2016
***Drives into the thread in my Rolls-Royce Fanta, not Phantom o because I am trying to fathom this mehn***

***Sends text message to lalasticlala***

Lalasticlala you remember say I dey try roast WomanOfRace but e be like say she prefer toasting? But I no get toaster o. Abeg borrow me your own.

***Back to the topic***

Bro take heart cos you know say shiit happens... I was telling a friend yesterday that most things that happen in our lives were not planned by us.
#ShiitHappens

You never planned to fall for her, but you did.
#ShiitHappens

Bro please don't overreact... Just ask her what she is still doing in Abuja... Don't tell her you saw her... Form prophet for her... But make it real but don't blow your cover o... If she lies to you and maintains the lie, take a pic of the car and delete her number... It is called play along... If she calls you again, play along... Did I even say anything? grin

OST, the guy fit be a maga sha

#ShiitHappens


*** logs on to my mtcn account to see if maga don pay***
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Chidonc(m): 7:12pm On Nov 11, 2016
Bros u fuckup big time, u would just got recharge card and visit ur neigbor with it, tell him the aunty he brought signalled u to get it and u would like to give her in person. Thank me later.
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by sweettease(f): 7:33pm On Nov 11, 2016
Chidonc:
Bros u fuckup big time, u would just got recharge card and visit ur neigbor with it, tell him the aunty he brought signalled u to get it and u would like to give her in person. Thank me later.
What is here to be thankful for? undecided



alexjohnson4945:
i would go straight to the point without beating around the bush.

She gave you a really hard blow, you can decide to double the effect by loosing your job or triple it by never loving again, it's your choice. You really should be thankful you have a job now which you can really use as a distraction and be committed to now than before rather than neglect it.
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Chidonc(m): 7:43pm On Nov 11, 2016
sweettease:

What is here to be thankful for? undecided




She gave you a really hard blow, you can decide to double the effect by loosing your job or triple it by never loving again, it's your choice. You really should be thankful you have a job now which you can really use as a distraction and be committed to now than before rather than neglect it.

the looks on her face when he catches her with the other guy before dumping her sorry ass.
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by firstking01(m): 8:08pm On Nov 11, 2016
Hmmmm...what is our hope in the nearest future if all the girls we thought are wife materials are fast turning into olosho?
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by ewaski(m): 8:16pm On Nov 11, 2016
this is pathetic, just thank ur God for exposing that LovePeddler... I know its hard to take, be a man.... move on , the future is bright
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by freshcvvs: 8:25pm On Nov 11, 2016
Chai!

Speechless.
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by schumastic(m): 8:32pm On Nov 11, 2016
have said it n I wil continue to say it,, IS GOOD TO TRUST BUT IS BETTER NOT TO.. Op the only problem you had was loving n trusting completely which is why you are having this emotional n psychological trauma..
don't lose your job over a lady that wasn't meant for you in the first place..
to get out of this is to confront her with the truth n hear the lies she will say n act or crocodile tears she will shed after which, you move on with your life..
just look at it this way, you both r not meant for each other n that's y u were in d kitchen at da time of d day to see things for youself n know the truth about her..next time don't love completely or trust at all...cekhoe come n see part of the reasons I said is not good for a guy to go all that far especially if she is not his fiancee or wife..
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by fergieboy: 8:58pm On Nov 11, 2016
Abeg free the gal jare. Country no easy .. She go meet who go help her get job and she doesn't want u to get in her way hence the big lie she told u..

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by AuroraB(f): 9:01pm On Nov 11, 2016
Am I supposed to believe this Of all the houses in Abuja, your gf ended up in....warram I saying sef *moonwalksouttathread* undecided

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by schumastic(m): 9:05pm On Nov 11, 2016
AuroraB:
Am I supposed to believe this Of all the houses in Abuja, your gf ended up in....warram I saying sef *moonwalksouttathread* undecided

haven't you heard of the saying, this world is a small world

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Diplomaticbeing(m): 9:12pm On Nov 11, 2016
Poor fiction. You can do better.

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Nobody: 9:18pm On Nov 11, 2016
schumastic:
have said it n I wil continue to say it,, IS GOOD TO TRUST BUT IS BETTER NOT TO.. Op the only problem you had was loving n trusting completely which is why you are having this emotional n psychological trauma..
don't lose your job over a lady that wasn't meant for you in the first place..
to get out of this is to confront her with the truth n hear the lies she will say n act or crocodile tears she will shed after which, you move on with your life..
just look at it this way, you both r not meant for each other n that's y u were at d kitchen at da time of d day to see things for youself n know the truth about her..next time don't love completely or trust at all...cekhoe come n see part of the reasons I said is not good for a guy to go all that far especially if she is not his fiancee or wife..
heheheh,I just laugh you, if I tell you my own story, you will be sad, but the thing is moving is part of life ,so don't act like heartbreak is gender specific
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by femarse: 9:21pm On Nov 11, 2016
one of the problem u have is that u don't know that God is solidly behind you rewarding your hard effort and removing all the things that will give you problems in life first of all I want you to know that she did not start what you see happened in your compound that day she has been doing it sinceeeeeeee her undergraduate and u have just been blinded by love all along all the while every time she tells you she is at home she is actually under another man's roof and she has perfect it to the point that she will pick your calls anytime in front of who ever she is with , that way u will never suspect a thing but for God to release even more blessing for you she has to leave the picture that is why you pray and work hard and God show you every sign that this woman is not a part of you but u are too blinded by love to see all those sign
well this God is a loving one and he did not want you to suffer broken home He kuku bring the girl down to your compound to see with your own korokoro eyes what he has been telling you

now how to come out of it
the only way out is the job God has given you but now u want to loose it with this sillyness the job should take your time all the time
work more than necessary every time the thought comes in don't entertain it push it out immediately
it's kind of sweet to entertain such thought on your heart and feel the pain but best bet is as they come in push them out straight away and filled them up wit something else
she is one of those things that got to go for better things to happen
and about loving again don't worry about it don't think about it don't block your mind about it just be open minded and smile all the time when the right one shows up no one will tell you before loving again

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Nobody: 9:35pm On Nov 11, 2016
Well, I already believe evwryone is capable of shii... Just pick yourself up and move on. Concentrate on your Job for now. A better woman meant for u will come along with time
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Nobody: 9:37pm On Nov 11, 2016
schumastic:
have said it n I wil continue to say it,, IS GOOD TO TRUST BUT IS BETTER NOT TO.. Op the only problem you had was loving n trusting completely which is why you are having this emotional n psychological trauma..
don't lose your job over a lady that wasn't meant for you in the first place..
to get out of this is to confront her with the truth n hear the lies she will say n act or crocodile tears she will shed after which, you move on with your life..
just look at it this way, you both r not meant for each other n that's y u were at d kitchen at da time of d day to see things for youself n know the truth about her..next time don't love completely or trust at all...cekhoe come n see part of the reasons I said is not good for a guy to go all that far especially if she is not his fiancee or wife..
I don't agree with u Sir
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Viking007(m): 9:49pm On Nov 11, 2016
Your story is too painful to be true. But You've got no choice than to move on. Trust nobody.
Sorry.

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by mofeoluwadassah: 10:33pm On Nov 11, 2016
U shld av confront her immediately nd nt av make it cold,bt naw dat u didnt confront her immediately she wil deny d act,i tink it too late naw,u jxt av 2 move on man nd dont allow her 2 destroy ur life.

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Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by schumastic(m): 10:48pm On Nov 11, 2016
Nma27:
I don't agree with u Sir
in what way ma n why don't you agree with me
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by schumastic(m): 10:50pm On Nov 11, 2016
cekhoe:
heheheh,I just laugh you, if I tell you my own story, you will be sad, but the thing is moving is part of life ,so don't act like heartbreak is gender specific
madam v seen it all n my story us more or less like the op but a lil diff seven yrs no b beans but that aside, we all v our share in all this drama called love n trust..v learnt, understood more about it n moved on with my life...so you see why I stand with my opinion the other time on that thread, is base on my experience n what v learnt over the years
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by sashishalom(f): 12:05am On Nov 12, 2016
Shit...you should thank God u avoided getting married to a slut...

You dont need to Tell her what you saw..just break up with her,it'll hurt her more...

No matter the promises the guy must hv md to her, she shouldn't have given in...

Try and concentrate on your job...

BTW sharp girls go de call dier bf wey de another state to know where im know to avoid going to those places if they get parole for there..

I feel ur pain op...its not going to be easy but you've got to brace up...
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by EQUALROGHT: 1:20am On Nov 12, 2016
SO PATHETIC MAN HEATHBREAK PASS HEATH BREAK. ITS REALLY A TRAUMATIC SITUATION WHICH U NEED TO HANDLE WITH CARE.ITS A DILUTED POISON THAT KILLS GRADUALLY.U MUST FORCE UR SELF TO B MORE COMMITTED TO UR JOB, GO EARLY ND COME BACK LATE .LISTEN DONT KEEP IT TO YOUR SELF CONFRONT HER WITH YOUR QS AND IF SHE DARE LIES DELETE HER NO BC SH IS A HYDRAHEADED MONSTER BT IF SHE PLEADED GUILTY AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS ACCEPT HER BACK IF U STILL LOVE HER ND WATCH OVER HER CAREFULLY.DONT STAY ALONE ITS WELL BRO
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Nobody: 1:35am On Nov 12, 2016
ewwwwwwww I understand this situation perfectly


choi op move on God just saved you from karashika lol move on bro dont kill yourself over someone who doesn't give a fvck about you! but this is really really sad
Re: Please! I Need Your Help And Advice, Im Confused,sad And Downcast.. by Frankicent(m): 2:17am On Nov 12, 2016
damn really painful send me a pm we gonna help you.

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