I wish to let you into a man's head as he's falling in love with a woman. It's a process that's so alien, so strange, that I'm afraid you've got to experience it to believe it. But it's as real as recession and high prices....

Sometimes, a guy will meet a gal and think nothing of it. Maybe she's a co-worker, classmate, or his buddy's friend. She gets mentally categorized as "Female, acquaintance, feelings neutral". Then, he gets to know her better. If they mesh personality-wise, something fascinating happens in the man's mind. He starts to notice things about her appearance - pleasant things.

It starts small - one day he realizes he likes looking at the curve of her nose, or where her ear lobe meets her face.
It's nothing he can put his finger on or describe, really...just that looking at that part of her makes him feel good. He starts wanting to do that more. Then, he notices an expression she makes - could be her genuine belly-laugh, or the way she furrows her brow in concern - and he gets a little flutter in his chest.

They stay friendly for awhile, get to know each other better.
Then, one day, she hugs him goodbye....and he can't stop thinking about it. He plays it over and over in his head - the feel of her breasts through two shirts, her arms around his back, her smell...he finds these little mental movies of her playing unbidden when he's driving somewhere, squeezing out his other usual daydreams.

Shortly thereafter, the guy realizes that whenever he looks at this woman, he feels good. He likes her lines, her curves, her sounds and smells...
It's like she's gradually turned from a black-and-white photo into a 3D color movie with surround-sound - a perfect movie that makes him feel good. He starts wondering what he can do to keep her around, to make her happy. He realizes that he likes looking at her more than any other human being in the world.

To him, she is perfect and beautiful.
A man in love with a woman doesn't see her objectively. There is a filter there, or some kind of participatory illusion. He does not see who you see in the mirror. He is seeing someone beautiful and perfect and sublime, and it's one of the most powerful things in his life.

Go watch a happy old couple that's been married for decades. Watch the man's eyes. Sure, he may appreciate some young woman's ass in yoga pants or whatever...but watch his eyes when he's looking at his spouse. If you're paying close enough attention, you can almost see the filter click on when his gaze settles on her. In that moment, he's not seeing the same frumpy empty-nester that you or I see - he's seeing something wonderful.

No beans. If I hadn't lived this stuff, I wouldn't believe it either. But it's true. or what do you think??

ghettowriter:
I wish to let you into a man's head as he's falling in love with a woman. It's a process that's so alien, so strange, that I'm afraid you've got to experience it to believe it. But it's as real as recession and high prices....

Sometimes, a guy will meet a gal and think nothing of it. Maybe she's a co-worker, classmate, or his buddy's friend. She gets mentally categorized as "Female, acquaintance, feelings neutral". Then, he gets to know her better. If they mesh personality-wise, something fascinating happens in the man's mind. He starts to notice things about her appearance - pleasant things.

It starts small - one day he realizes he likes looking at the curve of her nose, or where her ear lobe meets her face.
It's nothing he can put his finger on or describe, really...just that looking at that part of her makes him feel good. He starts wanting to do that more. Then, he notices an expression she makes - could be her genuine belly-laugh, or the way she furrows her brow in concern - and he gets a little flutter in his chest.

They stay friendly for awhile, get to know each other better.
Then, one day, she hugs him goodbye....and he can't stop thinking about it. He plays it over and over in his head - the feel of her breasts through two shirts, her arms around his back, her smell...he finds these little mental movies of her playing unbidden when he's driving somewhere, squeezing out his other usual daydreams.

Shortly thereafter, the guy realizes that whenever he looks at this woman, he feels good. He likes her lines, her curves, her sounds and smells...
It's like she's gradually turned from a black-and-white photo into a 3D color movie with surround-sound - a perfect movie that makes him feel good. He starts wondering what he can do to keep her around, to make her happy. He realizes that he likes looking at her more than any other human being in the world.

To him, she is perfect and beautiful.
A man in love with a woman doesn't see her objectively. There is a filter there, or some kind of participatory illusion. He does not see who you see in the mirror. He is seeing someone beautiful and perfect and sublime, and it's one of the most powerful things in his life.

Go watch a happy old couple that's been married for decades. Watch the man's eyes. Sure, he may appreciate some young woman's ass in yoga pants or whatever...but watch his eyes when he's looking at his spouse. If you're paying close enough attention, you can almost see the filter click on when his gaze settles on her. In that moment, he's not seeing the same frumpy empty-nester that you or I see - he's seeing something wonderful.

No beans. If I hadn't lived this stuff, I wouldn't believe it either. But it's true. or what do you think??

OP I really don't know you, but if you constructed this writeup, you're intelligent

This is so Apt!

Reading this made me want to give love another chance but no, never again.

Eeyah!

What a brilliant piece. But why do men experience this & still cheat? Or does the little man there have the power to erode all these?

Really nyc write up op. Dose Bleep bois feel nothing lyk dese though

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asif I didn't read your long story...

Good gracious! Op you're intelligent if this was written by you. From the write up its obvious you've once had a girl who meant the world to you. The same feeli applies to the females too, although you know we like initial gra gra (ladies' forming)

darbeelicous:
love is a scam...... prove me wrong!!

Babe its not a scam. Some people just tend to use love as a means of deceiving innocent and unsuspecting persons. If you find that person who could do anything for you, you'd be so amazed. You might even apologize to love for calling it scam.

darbeelicous:
love is a scam...... prove me wrong!!

You're wrong! The article is a proof!

with the way things are going nowadays...

it's so risky to love someone 100%

what then is the fun of being in love...

without putting your whole heart to it...

all because of the fear of being heartbroken...

some guys or most guys are fvck boys because...

they are kind of on a revenge mission...

taking out their frustration on other girls...

because one particular girl once shattered their heart...

I just feel LOVING SOMEONE IS USELESS IF THAT SOMEONE DOSENT LOVES YOU BACK IN THE SAME PROPORTION...

OP, see..

Op wer u dey since
Dats a nice write up dere
Am a living witness

mattiecute:
Really nyc write up op. Dose Bleep bois feel nothing lyk dese though

Sorry

debspauly:
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asif I didn't read your long story...

Smsh

hinky:
Eeyah!

Your such a damsel

bayocanny:
Smsh

what at least am not lying ..

darbeelicous:
love is a scam...... prove me wrong!!

Funny signature

and for your write-up,

Love isn't scam... Love is real as Fvck!!

debspauly:
what at least am not lying ..

Well, its good that you aren't lieing. Good morning to u

Your intelligence is my common sense.

bayocanny:
Well, its good that you aren't lieing. Good morning to u

lolz good morning how was your night..

debspauly:
lolz good morning how was your night..

Sleepless night I must say but am good..hope u slept good?

Op you made a lot of sence
I too have had these feelings in past
I taught it was strange I didn't like her at first but her love gradually grew on me
Now seeing her makes me so happy

Thanks op nice write up

So nice op, u are making me remember when I was in love.
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mattiecute:
Really nyc write up op. Dose Bleep bois feel nothing lyk dese though

Yes it's a nice and true piece. As for the "bleep bois", they did...and still do. Only they've come to learn to be otherwise. A little leaven they say.........

bayocanny:
Your such a damsel

well... thanks

hibiscus76:
OP I really don't know you, but if you constructed this writeup, you're intelligent

Victornezzar:
Op wer u dey since
Dats a nice write up dere
Am a living witness

greyboy5000:
Op you made a lot of sence
I too have had these feelings in past
I taught it was strange I didn't like her at first but her love gradually grew on me
Now seeing her makes me so happy

Thanks op nice write up

Dunno why some people just can't be honest. And for the rest of you don't you know how to use google again?

OP is a fraud!: http://loveumentary.com/whats-it-like-to-be-in-love/

SmartyPants:




Dunno why some people just can't be honest. And for the rest of you don't you know how to use google again?

OP is a fraud!: http://loveumentary.com/whats-it-like-to-be-in-love/

OK thank you bro
But it was nice of the op to share it on nairaland

greyboy5000:
OK thank you bro
But it was nice of the op to share it on nairaland

No it was not nice of him. He changed small parts of it in order to make it seem like something original, and when people asked or inferred that he wrote it he did not once properly attribute the source.

So dishonest. And as you can see from his username, he is a writer of some sort, so he is likely trying to garner some publicity by using someone else's work.

Awful.