My scan showed 5 months pregnancy.hubby was there with me. We knew the pregnancy was 4 months so for what it's worth, scan doesn't give actual term of pregnancy. I pray ur child will be ur splitting image so God saves ur wife. Those saying do DNA, u think its kobo kobo. Op said they are restrained on cash.

MemphisRaynes:


On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days.

This is a very sensitive matter, you have to tread with caution so that you will not regret whatever step you take. Based on this calculation, the pregnancy is yours. I wish you did not challenge her and wait till the baby is born. You would have done the paternity test without her knowledge. You have blown it out and you will do a lot of fence mending when the baby finally belongs to you. There are certain things one should not do once it has to do with the paternity of a child. Either baby is yours or not your relationship with your wife will never be the same again. Women can forgive but they too don't forget. Be prepared for anything that comes out of this. I wish you the best.

Just relax that baby could be yours! I personally don't trust all this machine stuff called scan. Make peace with your wife and wait until the baby is born. The baby could be your, scan aren't 100% accurate. God bless your home, amen!

The op sounds like a weak man with no backbone that's why his wife can threaten him to make his life miserable over legitimate concerns and even be receiving calls freely from another man in his presence.
Warn your wife seriously to never repeat that rubbish of using dearie or luv when chatting with another man, that is a huge slap on your face and you should be the one angry with her not her threatening you after disrespecting the sanctity of your union.
For now don't show any remorse for suggesting the baby isn't yours, you were justified to suspect her after seeing that chat. Just stop mentioning the dna and paternity issue and after the baby is born you go behind her back to confirm paternity.

Sorry bros, you are in an unfortunate situation. The doubts are justified. Just be patient and watchful. The truth shall manifest. Wisdom is the principal thing. It's still possible your wife may be innocent. But she needs to learn from this experience and guard her young home from spoilers with caution and responsibility.

hmm

FOUR WORDS BRO Never trust a woman.

If ur doubting, you should have done DNA test on the baby in secret

Tell her u have a traditional practice (ORO) in ur family that she must do before she w deliver and failure to do it can lead to her death or something else. U w see what will happen before her delivery.

What is the DNA test for?? oya go do am chap chap

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

My advice to you will be to first of all,
Stay Calm
Allow the baby to be delivered and actually go and do a paternity test when the baby is born.

Your wife has to realise that even if you are the real father of the baby, she has cheated on you.
It is bad of her not to feel remorseful for what she has done by flirting.
Please find someone she is accountable to and thrash that out.

Lastly, please pray very well.
Things like these are hard for men to get of their chest.
I must confess.

DNA Test is 100k... just save money and be sure Pls after she has given birth. pet her till then and do it secretly. Only DNA Test can help you

All these cooked up stories. What kind of training is she having with a Gynecologist? Is she one too?

MemphisRaynes:
Dude. Please do not call my wife that. If you got no help to offer, then just read and learn.

I don't think you need help,you have already called your wife a cheat by suspecting her already so allow we the panel of judges to handle this your case in peace

DNA test is N100k. It involves you swabbing a cotton bud inside the babies cheek, then you swab another inside your cheek, then take it to the DNA laboratory for testing. Do a google search for the nearest one in your city, or some labs give you the option of sending the DNA sample (cotton bud) to them by courier.

Goodluck.

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

Calm down.

Let her give birth and try to do DNA.

He doesn't have to tell her, he can do it in secret.

Prettyhurts:
MemphisRaynes your wife is 7+weeks gone. Depending on your wife period length and ACL(average cycle length). Let's assume her period length is 5/6days and her ACL 25/26days and the last time she saw her AF was 16May, that means her first day was 10/11/12. So calculate from then or you can use an online pregnancy calculator. She'll be due February.
Meanwhile you met her on her fertile stage and not safe period

You can show her this thread, she's highly welcomed
https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high

You should've queried her based on the message you saw. I wonder how she'll feel when you do DNA test and the baby is actually yours.

we dont know either

Good luck man....

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

U SEEM STUPID WITH UR STORY LINE. AFTER UNCOVERING A GREAT DECEIT U ARE STILL MAKING EXCUSES FIR UR FAKE LOVER WIFE. MY FRIEND DON'T BE DECEIVED. U HV TWO OPTIONS. WAIT HER DELIVERY AND SEND HER PACKING OR DISCHARGE HER NOW. REM. HER FRIEND IS A GYNECOLOGIST WHO CAN MANIPULATE RESULTS THRO FRIENDS OR SYMPATHETIC FOOLS. UR WIFE WAS EATING YAM REGULARLY WITHOUT CAUTION DURING TRAINING. WOMEN DON'T JUST GET PREGNANT OVER NIGHT. HER SYSTEM HAD BEEN OILED OR LUBRICATED hormonally TO GET IT IMPLANTED WELL. SHE IS CRYING CROCODILIANS STYLE.

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

Bros, you need to calm down until the baby is born. You have already shown your wife your doubting her, which is your first mistake. My wife for example does not have 'safe period'. She got pregnant for my second child just immediately after her period. Safe period is not for everyone.
Do a paternity test when the baby is born.

please where are the women right Fighters, this guy needs your advice. I'm here to read reasonable advises from y'all since we know y'all to be the ones to slam a man when things go south about gender. Biko we waiting for y'all
Nah so dem go avoid this thread like flee

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

the chat still doesnt mean, she and her gyne mighy be friends, and the "our baby" terms he used still doesn't mean, he probably said it in joking way die to their closeness....

anyway, give ur wife d benefit of doubt for now and wait till d child i born then go do a dna test

Bros, my candid opinion is to e calm till she put to bed. Just behave as if you have forgotten this issue and don't forget to do your scan after the delivery.. The sms's you saw and other conversation are pointing to the facts that she is cheating on you, no doubt but exercise Patience. Do not let her threat get you scared except you are in control of our home I.e financial responsibility.

OP, listen to me very well, if you don't carry out a paternity test on the child when born, you may end up spending your youthful years training another man's child.

If this happens despite the technology around, you'll be the greatest fool of this century.

By the way, hope you guys noticed a pattern on this thread? The ladies are trying to convince him that the foetus is his and pushing him into accepting it.

Truly, these hoes aren't loyal!

Hope y'all know that a DNA test is a big deal in Nigeria. Only a handful of medical centres in Nigeria can actually carry out a DNA test and it's damn expensive. If the o.p is not well-to-do but is really serious about it, he should start saving towards it.

May you not find your better half after marriage.
My prayer for you all.