willanderson:
A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because they refused giving them sex, some have even turned into a intimacy gadget just to keep their man!
Let me be very blunt here.....havin reason dis before dat guys leave ladies,girls all bcus of sex,well Sex might not be the reason this guys walk away
Remove sex from a relationship and most girls don't have anything else to offer their man!! No extra oil at all!
And the EXTRA OIL here is character!
Most girls do not have extra oil to sustain any relationship while many brag about self worth and some useless virginity they threw to the dogs even before they start developing breasts!
Aside sex ,what do you have to offer to a man?
Can you support him spiritually?
Can you support him physically?
How about mentally?
All you do is demand money for bags, shoes, clothes and outings! Making him spend unnecessarily!
What are you even bringing to the table??
Have you ever sat him down, and help him plan about his future?
Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide in?
how many times has he come being in a state of dilemma seeking advice from you? Or yhu think he is some semi god who doesn't have any problem at all??
Try to be a woman that a man will always regret losing for the rest of his life...
Be that woman that your man can never afford to lose to another man!
Build your man to your taste...
And stop looking for a ready made husband when you re not a ready made wife!

MissRaine69:
I have answered this thread enough times I have earned earned the right to say
I offer a lot more than just the vagina ......

willanderson:
A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because they refused giving them sex, some have even turned into a intimacy gadget just to keep their man!
Let me be very blunt here.....havin reason dis before dat guys leave ladies,girls all bcus of sex,well Sex might not be the reason this guys walk away
Remove sex from a relationship and most girls don't have anything else to offer their man!! No extra oil at all!
And the EXTRA OIL here is character!
Most girls do not have extra oil to sustain any relationship while many brag about self worth and some useless virginity they threw to the dogs even before they start developing breasts!
Aside sex ,what do you have to offer to a man?
Can you support him spiritually?
Can you support him physically?
How about mentally?
All you do is demand money for bags, shoes, clothes and outings! Making him spend unnecessarily!
What are you even bringing to the table??
Have you ever sat him down, and help him plan about his future?
Has he ever seen you as someone he can confide in?
how many times has he come being in a state of dilemma seeking advice from you? Or yhu think he is some semi god who doesn't have any problem at all??
Try to be a woman that a man will always regret losing for the rest of his life...
Be that woman that your man can never afford to lose to another man!
Build your man to your taste...
And stop looking for a ready made husband when you re not a ready made wife!

connectpoint:
I wonder why it's so easy for we-men to see the 1,000 flaws in women and not see the bright sides... I employ all men to seek for the good in women, the anti-women posture in this our generation is beginning to worry me...

feelgoodInc:
when you marry them, they deny you sex too.

feelgoodInc:

because 1000 flaws outweighs 1 good thing.

RaggedyAnn:
Again with this topic?


You're evading the fact that most guys (of a certain age) are only after sex. And you're now making this about the girl; challenging her to convince the guy to go for something else on her shop window. Like trying to convince a customer to buy a beautiful shirt since you don't have the shoes he really wants. While some, more indecisive shopper, might go for it, others won't. You can be the most spiritually supportive person in the world, a single-minded guy will never be distracted from his ultimate intention. He might regret leaving you later in his life (when he has learned to value other attributes in a woman), but it doesn't change the fact that he left you today because sex was off the table.

This isn't about what girls have to offer, but what do guys really want offered?


What do guys want from a relationship apart from sex? Make a list and go shopping; if you don't find it on the shelves, don't buy. Walk away. It's not a crime to only want sex; it's the only thing you might have use for at the moment. But don't claim a girl has nothing to offer in a relationship, in general, just because you value nothing else about her apart from sex. That is your matter; not hers. Each woman brings her own specific lot to the table. If you don't recognize what it is, then you probably have no need for it. Don't go into a liquor store hoping to find tampons. But liquor isn't useless.

Now to the biases. I'm a woman so that's a natural bias that cannot be diminished to zero; I can't help seeing things this way from where I stand, anymore than you can help your vision from the stand point of a man. If you're standing on the left side of a neutral point, even the things exactly in the middle would seem to be on the right to you. No one can claim any objectivity here, so I'm not trying to invalidate your opinion. I'm only saying what it looks like from this angle.

Inanna:
Oh will you shut up already?! Just look at the dirty things looking for extra oil. First of all, what do y'all demand for in a relationship? With that your filthy engorged organs, you all go into a relationship looking for just one thing. You do not care about any other thing. You should also ask yourself what you bring into a relationship apart from STDs and body odour. Don't even say money because really that's nothing.
You think it's only you that wants extra oil? women also want men that'll be spiritually, emotionally and otherwise supportive towards them. The earlier you understand this, the better.

Inanna:
Oh will you shut up already?! Just look at the dirty things looking for extra oil. First of all, what do y'all demand for in a relationship? With that your filthy engorged organs, you all go into a relationship looking for just one thing. You do not care about any other thing. You should also ask yourself what you bring into a relationship apart from STDs and body odour. Don't even say money because really that's nothing.
You think it's only you that wants extra oil? women also want men that'll be spiritually, emotionally and otherwise supportive towards them. The earlier you understand this, the better.

feelgoodInc:

you're saying this based on the guys or men you've dated, you know that. when you start paying for dates then I'll reconsider.

Inanna:
Oh will you shut up already?! Just look at the dirty things looking for extra oil. First of all, what do y'all demand for in a relationship? With that your filthy engorged organs, you all go into a relationship looking for just one thing. You do not care about any other thing. You should also ask yourself what you bring into a relationship apart from STDs and body odour. Don't even say money because really that's nothing.
You think it's only you that wants extra oil? women also want men that'll be spiritually, emotionally and otherwise supportive towards them. The earlier you understand this, the better.

You don't know me. Stop basing your statements on fallacious assumptions

feelgoodInc:

you're saying this based on the guys or men you've dated, you know that. when you start paying for dates then I'll reconsider.

marvin902:
seriously speaking they have nothing to offer..
remove sex from the equation and you will see nothing
they just know how take..
and when your oil well drys they move on

ikeepitreal:
a lot more, but they lack the capability.Especially girls from Nigeria.

Inanna:
You don't know me. Stop basing your statements on fallacious assumptions

connectpoint:



I disagree... It depends on the time we fall in love, for example, when you fall in love during teenage years, sex takes a vital spot, because both parties are not ripe for relationships..Just sharing lives without the negatives is one immense advantage i see although we all are suspicious about one another draining the real value that relationship in its natural sense ought to cater for...If for nothing, it's worth finding out, all this female bashing ehn...Musicians bash them, movies bash them,comedians bash them, abeg o...

feelgoodInc:

assumptions based on your statement, note that.