Actually this sounds funny. But that is the truth. I find it very difficult to tell her i love her. I love my wife very much but am ashame to tell her i love you, even on phone. I have every other ways of passing this massage acrossed to her but to use my mouth to say it is very very difficult to me. Please does it mean anything or should i continue to do what am doing?

Yes i did not do any courtship with my wife, we knew ourselves in the church, you knows this brother and sister of a thing. And finally marriage took place. Could this be responsible for my
action?

However i could remember there was a day i said it to her on the oza room


Please i sincerely needs your advice, what do i do?

Thank you.

Dude put your ego aside and just say it. Y'all just make your lives complicated for nothing..sheeesh!.. humans!

Thats why u are a nigerian

It's just a habits which people inculcate. If she normally tells u she loves u, there's nothing wrong with u telling her u love her as well. It is a powerful Four letter word though & it melts alot of women's heart.

bignwa:
Thats why u are a nigerian

My brother u are just been unromantic, uncivilized, unreasonable and all the other uns that negate the good!


what's so difficult in saying this! Right now I want to say u are making ur wife doubt your lobe for her cos u ve never communicated what u feel for her.

come on, confess that love out....cos the words therein can be so powerful. Gather yourself together, give it a try. it's not a thing to be ashamed of.

This is your wife ooo!

Princewell2012:
Actually this sounds funny. But that is the truth. I find it very difficult to tell her i love her. I love my wife very much but am ashame to tell her i love you, even on phone. I have every other ways of passing this massage acrossed to her but to use my mouth to say it is very very difficult to me. Please does it mean anything or should i continue to do what am doing?

Yes i did not do any courtship with my wife, we knew ourselves in the church, you knows this brother and sister of a thing. And finally marriage took place. Could this be responsible for my
action?

However i could remember there was a day i said it to her on the oza room


Please i sincerely needs your advice, what do i do?

Thank you.

it doesn't sound funny...it actually sounds stupid!

gabinogem:
It's just a habits which people inculcate. If she normally tells u she loves u, there's nothing wrong with u telling her u love her as well. It is a powerful three letter words though & it melts alot of women's heart.

Hmmm she usually called me daddy daddy but after some reactions i just surmorned the courage to call her mummy too. am just shy but i love her in my heart. This is not a matter of ego according to what that man up there was saying.

while d problem is dt u see urself as more superior dan her n not up to ur standard dts y it is difficult 4 u to say it. mayb u recently see some couple dt act so romantic n u want to give it a try if urs can b like dem. my advice is dt u should start playing with her like jokin or givin her a smile face bcs as i can see, u hardly laugh with her

gabinogem:
It's just a habits which people inculcate. If she normally tells u she loves u, there's nothing wrong with u telling her u love her as well. It is a powerful three letter words though & it melts alot of women's heart.

Hmm thanks

Telling ur wife how u love and admire her is part of responsibility as a man..

Even if u love her not saying it makes her wonder if actually u do and be mindful that women value wot they hear most times.

Do not give her d opportunity to be taking note if other men do tell her something u are not telling her.. OK

HeOrShe:
Telling ur wife how u love and admire her is part of responsibility as a man..

Even if u love her not saying it makes her wonder if actually u do and be mindful that women value wot they hear most times.

Do not give her d opportunity to be taking note if other men do tell her something u are not telling her.. OK

Thanks

dtruth50:
while d problem is dt u see urself as more superior dan her n not up to ur standard dts y it is difficult 4 u to say it. mayb u recently see some couple dt act so romantic n u want to give it a try if urs can b like dem. my advice is dt u should start playing with her like jokin or givin her a smile face bcs as i can see, u hardly laugh with her

Thats not true. we play at times but am just a very shy person.

kennies12:
My brother u are just been unromantic, uncivilized, unreasonable and all the other uns that negate the good!


what's so difficult in saying this! Right now I want to say u are making ur wife doubt your lobe for her cos u ve never communicated what u feel for her.

come on, confess that love out....cos the words therein can be so powerful. Gather yourself together, give it a try. it's not a thing to be ashamed of.

This is your wife ooo!

Hmm i think i disagree with you. I satisfy her sexually on bed. Well may be thats what you think.

Lol, I understand where you're coming from. At some point in my life I was like that ( prideful and stupid ) and thought showing you that I love you should satisfy you , there's no need to be all "oh baby I love you so much" . The problem here is that you are being selfish to your partner without even intending to. Some people, infact I think most prefer to hear those words to " validate " what you have or to know you're both on the same page. Start saying it more with texts , add a bit of naughtiness there as well . When you say it to her face don't just say it when she expects you to, say it when you really mean it and feel it and she will appreciate it .

Lionessza:
Lol, I understand where you're coming from. At some point in my life I was like that ( prideful and stupid ) and thought showing you that I love you should satisfy you , there's no need to be all "oh baby I love you so much" . The problem here is that you are being selfish to your partner without even intending to. Some people, infact I think most prefer to hear those words to " validate " what you have or to know you're both on the same page. Start saying it more with texts to , add a bit of naughtiness there as well . When you say it to her face don't just say it when she expects you to, say it when you really mean it and feel it and she will appreciate it .

Thanks. may be i will start by sending an Sms

Princewell2012:


Thanks. may be i will start by sending an Sms

Lol, pleasure.

OP, be like say your village people dey use your picture take fan themselves ooo

Why on earth will you be verbally starving your wife of your love? Sounds ridiculous

You are not inlove with her yet !
Don't force it ! Trust me when you are infact you wont even know when it comes out .
You seff will be in shock like wtf yup that's how it goes it's a feeling u can't keep in no matter what ...

So my dear you are not inlove with her just the idea and obviously you got history as per "brother n Sis " for church

Lalas247:
You are not inlove with her yet !
Don't force it ! Trust me when you are infact you wont even know when it comes out .
You seff will be in shock like wtf yup that's how it goes it's a feeling u can't keep in no matter what ...

So my dear you are not inlove with her just the idea and obviously you got history as per "brother n Sis " for church

hahahahahahahahah na wa oooo I hope say op hear this one

I am wondering why most Nigeria men are unromantic. Op,start watching India movies.

Honestly op u don't love yr wife as u claim.... Becos if u do u wldn't have being asking this kind of questn. I wonder how u 2 got married self. Let me mind my business jare

it might not mean anytin 2 you bt might mean a world 2 her

Princewell2012:

Thats not true. we play at times but am just a very shy person.

How the hell would u be shy of yr wife... Op your matter weak me

Princewell2012:


Thats not true. we play at times but am just a very shy person.

wait ooo is she truely your wife?have u both sex?Do u both communicate steadily,play,joke around and even does she tell u she loves u aswell?

cerowo:
Honestly op u don't love yr wife as u claim....
Becos if u do u wldn't have being asking this kind of questn.
I wonder how u 2 got married self.
Let me mind my business jare

wait on behalf of the op don't you think there are some factors that bring in shyness into relationship or marriage..

Princewell2012:


Hmmm she usually called me daddy daddy but after some reactions i just surmorned the courage to call her mummy too. am just shy but i love her in my heart. This is not a matter of ego according to what that man up there was saying.

I understand & I believe with your actions she certainly will see the Love you have for her. As for me I prefer the love thing should be seen more In action than in words.

gabinogem:
I understand & I believe with your actions she certainly will see the Love you have for her. As for me I prefer the love thing should be seen more In action than in words.

Princewell2012, this post sums it all.

Love in better expressed in action than in empty words. Continue to show her how much you love her in your deeds. Christ showed the Church how much he loved her not in plenty words, but in CHOOSING to die for her.

[quote author=Martin0 post=58311326]wait on behalf of the op don't you think there are some factors that bring in shyness into relationship or marriage..[/quote ]
Not in this case... For crying out loud they are nw married nd possibly with kid(s) if am nt mistaken , and they nw engage in things that doesn't warrant shyness...so i dnt get y op shld be shy to his wife

"I love you" has been thrown around in so many ways that it might have lost its meaning sef.
But between husbands n wives,it matters.
Your deeds around d house and attitude towards her count too. Since you know deep down that you really love her,saying it shouldn't be hard then. You can always surprise her with that massage, cook her special dish n serve her in bed, send sms n voicenotes when she least expect it etc...
Bro, just try somewhere but make sure you mean it o.
Good luck.

[quote author=cerowo post=58313427][/quote]hahahahaha ok oooo

Action speaks louder than words