A GROWN UP

Please if you find a man that does all of this, give me a call because I think such a man is not on planet earth .

**yawns** so what qualifies you for all that? Some of you girls are just dreamers.

A man can pretend to do all that useless things you measured but after marriage, everything changes. That is were you know the kind of a man you really married for life. As for me, I will never do such a thing. If both are meant to be together, nothing will come between them.

Tales by moonlight

embassyme:

      A GROWN UP

[b]
(10) A healthy relationship begins with two people who come together already completed, mature and ready for the great responsibilities that come with love. Simply, it is not a woman's job to raise her man. Your Mr. Right should not rely on you to be his life mechanic -- you're not there to fix his financial, psychological or emotional problems. He needs to have healed his mistakes and hurts of the past and now be solid and whole so that he is able to face new challenges confidently when they arise, as well as be a strong support system for you.
(9) TO FEEL HOT!
Assuming you are putting in the effort to maintain your appearance, it is your man's duty to lust after you – to remind you that you've got it going on. From complimenting you on an outfit to noticing a new haircut to a for-no-reason-at-all "you are so beautiful" reminder message, your guy should make you feel gorgeous.

(BELLY LAUGHS.
While your man doesn't need to be a stand-up comedian, he should be able to spike your days with a dose of laughter. Life can be hard, and your guy needs to be someone who is dedicated to turning your cloudy days blindingly sunny. We all know laughter is the best medicine, and having it as a primary ingredient in a relationship recipe is critical to its short- and long-term health.

(7)PRIORITIZATION.
No matter how in-demand your man is, you should be No. 1 on his speed dial, and never should he bypass a call from you for someone else.  It is key for you to know that you can count on him for anything and everything, always. This doesn't mean that he shouldn't have a life -- he should. It just means that he should be looking out for yours.

(6)GREAT intimacy.
There is no excuse for a man not deliver in the bedroom,  if he wants to. After all, there are plenty of tutorials in the form of indecency, magazine how tos or girlfriends willing to be tour guides to help them get it right. Living a sexually unsatisfied life isn't living at all. If a man isn't willing to put forth the effort to learn what it takes to turn you on, it is time to turn him off.
(5)BUTTERFLIES, STILL.
When apart for a few hours or a few weeks, for no pinpointable reason, reconnecting with your man ought to give you the warm-and-fuzzies, even after countless kisses, unlimited hand-holds and hugs galore.  Maintaining the butterfly feeling is proof that your guy is putting forth the effort to keep romance alive.

(4)FREEDOM.
Freedom is an excellent indicator that your man trusts you. Freedom comes in many forms – freedom to have a girls-only weekend in Mexico, freedom to explore a new career, freedom to be alone – all of which circle back to your man trusting your decisions and giving you space for your own growth.

(3)UTTER ADORATION.
Inside and out, every quirk, every "flaw", every everything about you should be understood and adored by your man. Never should you feel the tendency to be a chameleon, adapting to what you think he wants you to be. You should already be everything he needs. A good guy will go the extra mile to make you feel great about your insecurities.

(2)A SAFE PLACE TO BE 100-PERCENT YOU.
In a healthy relationship, you should feel safe, liberated and loved enough to be who you are – all the dimensions of your being – all the time,  figuratively unclothed. So if that means you are a buttoned-up badass by day and someone who dances around singing into a hairbrush by night, so be it. A forever-guy will not only allow it, he will love it.

(1)PATIENCE, GENEROSITY AND CONSIDERATION.
These are the triplets of kindness, each one of equal importance. Patience means he can deal with tension calmly and productively, looking at life's challenges as opportunities to teach and to learn. Generosity of mind, spirit, heart, wealth, time – anything you want to share (even dessert!) – your guy must want to share equally with you. And finally, your man should be considerate of your feelings, your time and your goals. He should be considerate of how his decisions impact you.

Tack these demands onto your mirror and use them as affirmations. The right man will come along when you have the courage to stand your ground. Hey, it's your life and your every happiness, right?

[/b]

This one na Contract? Abeg where is the Part that you perform so we can seal the Deal

[size=13pt]whatever happened to the root of all evils[/size]

[size=20pt]money !

money !!

money !!!
[/size]

googles:

[size=13pt]whatever happened to the root of all evils[/size]

[size=20pt]money !

money !!

money !!!
[/size]

Funny, as they say, the public opinion is mostly wrong,

It's Actually power, It Corrupts especially when in excess,
Check out that cute Guy,
That intelligent Dude/Gal,
That Connected Person around you.

As long as the Power is there and in Excess, The is evil baby,

then what shd we ask for,





s*x s*x and s*x all day

women seem to think its a contract where their part is to be born beautiful and our own is to start to do all manner of things to keep them happy. delusional specie

Bollocks!!!

girls of NL , it's all good and well for you to av a list of qualities that you desire in a life partner but it goes deeper than just sitting on ur @$$ to come up with a "must have" list . 

if you as an individual do not have those same qualities in urself that you desire in a partner then ur just living in a fools paradise b'cos such a man IF & WHEN you find him will never be attracted to you since you are not " bringing anything " to the relationship 

Kgdavid:

women seem to think its a contract where their part is to be born beautiful and our own is to start to do all manner of things to keep them happy. delusional specie

LMAO   i hear you my  broda  ;  there has to be an effort from both ends of the table !

See why I don't let my sisters read Cosmo woman?

Give all these things to a woman and become a mugu for life while she goes on philandering with another man she fancies. Nonsense!!Utter Rubbish!!!

^^
Your're 1000% correct my broda. Any wimp that goes through all that sh***t to please a love-peddler should be castrated. Nonsense!

Kgdavid:

women seem to think its a contract where their part is to be born beautiful and our own is to start to do all manner of things to keep them happy. delusional specie

Right on point bruv. Except that most of them are not even born beautiful! Nor do they acquire beauty or have beauty thrust upon them throughout their frivolous lives. Yet they expect a man to do the impossible to please them. These silly, lazy, delusional species make me sick. They think having a pair of droopy mamary glands and an 'oval office' (and nothing else) qualifies them to be treated like the Queen. Thrash.

filani:

girls of NL , it's all good and well for you to av a list of qualities that you desire in a life partner but it goes deeper than just sitting on your @$$ to come up with a "must have" list . 

if you as an individual do not have those same qualities in urself that you desire in a partner then your just living in a fools paradise b'cos such a man IF & WHEN you find him will never be attracted to you since you are not " bringing anything " to the relationship 

Very good point.

Was this write -up stolen from Cosmopolitan or something? It sounds like something I made the mistake of reading before . . .

U can only attract pple of d same callibre as u. If u want a gud frend den be a gud frnd. Opposites dnt attract

Op one thing that strikes out about us guys is that no matter how hard or stuborn we are, there is allways someone that we give in to even if we dont want to admit it. There are guys that do all these stuff, its just that the ladies often take such guys for granted. Dont know y!!