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His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 2:14pm On Aug 25, 2017
Yesterday , I found out from a close younger friend of mine that a particular staff of my my elderly friend who is way older than me has had sex with the man's daughter.. the man's daughter is still a minor and with the kind of friendship I share with him, it has put me in a very difficult situation wether to tell him or not but he will be disappointed if he finds out that I knew something about it and I never told him... His daughter looks innocent and what surprised me more was that , his staff wasn't the one that deflowered her... I am fighting a battle between minding my business and saying nothing or telling my friend about it... The source of this act is also a very close friend of the staff who is also a younger friend to me whom I know to be honest... I would have opened this thread in the romance section where I am more popular but I prefer this section because I know that more parents may get to read about it and give me their honest suggestion...

Lalasticlala, Mynd44, Royalroy
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by squash47(m): 2:16pm On Aug 25, 2017
So whats ur prove that the act actually happened ?
what if the girl denies,the pepetrator denies the act, and the source who told you,dares u not to disclose his identity or else,he will break any relationship u both had...what will u do, when u are left defenceless wit no evidence for justification after reportin to ur boss ?

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by gabinogem(m): 2:23pm On Aug 25, 2017
OP Answer Squash47 Question smiley
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 2:24pm On Aug 25, 2017
squash47:
So whats ur prove that the act actually happened ?
the person that told me , is a honest friend that is also close to the staff in question, apart from that, it's not the first time he has given me info about that particular guy that turned out to be true... I even wish I was never told cos I am also close to the man whose daughter was bleeped... I was told in details how it happened and I believed it.. I didn't want to go into details in the write up above...
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by squash47(m): 2:32pm On Aug 25, 2017
SmellingAnus:
the person that told me , is a honest friend that is also close to the staff in question, apart from that, it's not the first time he has given me info about that particular guy that turned out to be true... I even wish I was never told cos I am also close to the man whose daughter was bleeped... I was told in details how it happened and I believed it.. I didn't want to go into details in the write up above...
Mhen,since u didnot see it,you do not have enough facts and evidence.....moreover,just knw that when u report the issue,you're having 3 enemies for uself
1.the man who did the sex act....no man likes to be exposed
2.the girls moda...no woman wants anoda man to know she has a spoilt child..
3.the girl,her moda will make her see u as a jobless grown gossip..and a stupid man...she may poison u when u visit them in their house.....

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 2:32pm On Aug 25, 2017
gabinogem:
OP Answer Squash Question smiley
I have answered it... Let me explain some things further here...

The Man's wife works in a multi national company, the Man has his private business... The girl in question just wrote her Waec this year... The Staff is also like a son to the man, so he goes to his house on assignment or whenever the need arises.. so, he noticed each time he goes to their house when the daughter is available, she gives him green lights ranging from hugs to touching of his body... The guy in question who is way older than her knew that she was up to something, so visited the house again when he knew that his boss wasn't around and wife of his Boss obviously closes late from work... That was how it started with hugs and other things followed... This is a more detailed way of how it happened according to my younger friend who is also very close to the staff...

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 2:34pm On Aug 25, 2017
squash47:
Mhen,since u didnot see it,you do not have enough facts and evidence.....moreover,just knw that when u report the issue,you're having 3 enemies for uself
1.the man who did the sex act....no man likes to be exposed
2.the girls moda...no woman wants anoda man to know she has a spoilt child..
3.the girl,her moda will make her see u as a jobless grown gossip
you are right .. and the man in question will also see me as his enemy if he ever finds out I knew about his daughter... He is a man that is very open to me... Anyway, I just wish I never heard about this stuff sad
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by squash47(m): 2:40pm On Aug 25, 2017
SmellingAnus:
you are right .. and the man in question will also see me as his enemy if he ever finds out I knew about his daughter... He is a man that is very open to me... Anyway, I just wish I never heard about this stuff sad
you have a right to pretend u didnot hear....if to get money and help urself was what got u close to the man,make sure thats what u are still chasing and making nt snitching and putting urself in danger....telling d truth sometimes,may make u loose a job.

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by Laralag: 2:41pm On Aug 25, 2017
Op like you said if the said girl is below 18 (that is the age of consent in the Nigeria constitution)and the said man is an adult that means a crime has being committed, treat this like you will treat other crime like robbery theaft or even murder.
My small sage self will say you tell the parents what you know, and let them take it from there

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by gabinogem(m): 2:45pm On Aug 25, 2017
SmellingAnus:
I have answered it... Let me explain some things further here...

The Man's wife works in a multi national company, the Man has his private business... The girl in question just wrote her Waec this year... The Staff is also like a son to the man, so he goes to his house on assignment or whenever the need arises.. so, he noticed each time he goes to their house when the daughter is available, she gives him green lights ranging from hugs to touching of his body... The guy in question who is way older than her knew that she was up to something, so visited the house again when he knew that his boss wasn't around and wife of his Boss obviously closes late from work... That was how it started with hugs and other things followed... This is a more detailed way of how it happened according to my younger friend who is also very close to the staff...
I Think The Girl Likes The Man & Wants To Explore. If You Eventually Report Them, She May Deny The Act...It Will Be Wise You Let It Rest, & If By Chance You Get To Meet The Girl in Question, You Should Just Advice Her Like Your Younger One.... Girls Of Such Age Are Always Adventurous. It Is Wise You Tread Carefully.

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 2:50pm On Aug 25, 2017
gabinogem:
I Think The Girl Likes The Man & Wants To Explore. If You Eventually Report Them, She May Deny The Act...It Will Be Wise You Let It Rest, & If By Chance You Get To Meet The Girl in Question, You Should Just Advice Her Like Your Younger One.... Girls Of Such Age Are Always Adventurous. It Is Wise You Tread Carefully.
thanks...
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 2:53pm On Aug 25, 2017
squash47:
you have a right to pretend u didnot hear....if to get money and help urself was what got u close to the man,make sure thats what u are still chasing and making nt snitching and putting urself in danger....telling d truth sometimes,may make u loose a job.
the man is a friend whom I engage in intelligent conversations, he is someone that is also fascinated by my understanding, he sees me more as an asset, I also learn from him as much as he learns from me too... It's not a friendship based on what I can get from him

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by squash47(m): 2:58pm On Aug 25, 2017
SmellingAnus:
the man is a friend whom I engage in intelligent conversations, he is someone that is also fascinated by my understanding, he sees me more as an asset, I also learn from him as much as he learns from me too... It's not a friendship based on what I can get from him
If so,devise a means that will make innocent afta the whole saga....buh really if it is destined that he will someday find out,then he will. maynot be through u ...a pastor can relay it to him through prophecy
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 3:02pm On Aug 25, 2017
squash47:
If so,devise a means that will make innocent afta the whole saga....buh really if it is destined that he will someday find out,then he will. maynot be through u ...a pastor can relay it to him through prophecy
thanks bro... Maybe, it's because I feel that my friend should be open enough to tell me when he knows about something bad/negative concerning me... Anyway, I just regret hearing such... I hate to be in this type of situation..
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by Giddyperson: 3:07pm On Aug 25, 2017
I want you to tell the man. Only because I want you to come back and tell us what later happened cheesy

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 3:23pm On Aug 25, 2017
Giddyperson:
I want you to tell the man. Only because I want you to come back and tell us what later happened cheesy
hahahhah... I think I am still undecided...
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by WeNoGoDie(m): 3:38pm On Aug 25, 2017
SmellingAnus:
Yesterday , I found out from a close younger friend of mine that a particular staff of my my elderly friend who is way older than me has had sex with thia man's daughter.. the man's daughter is still a minor and with the kind of friendship I share with him, it has put me in a very difficult situation wether to tell him or not but he will be disappointed if he finds out that I knew something about it and I never told him... His daughter looks innocent and what surprised me more was that , his staff wasn't the one that deflowered her... I am fighting a battle between minding my business and saying nothing or telling my friend about it... The source of this act is also a very close friend of the staff who is also a younger friend to me whom I know to be honest... I would have opened this thread in the romance section where I am more popular but I prefer this section because I know that more parents may get to read about it and give me their honest suggestion...

Lalasticlala, Mynd44, Royalroy

As long as a minor is involved, you have full moral obligation to tell the dad about it. Supposing its your own daughter.

No girl of that age in her right mind will willing give consent to such an act. The men would have manipulated her or coerced her knowing she'll be scared to talk.

Please by all means help this innocent girl. Most of them grow up being traumatized by these experiences.

If you shot your mouth your underage daughter or one in your family could be a victim someday.
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 3:41pm On Aug 25, 2017
WeNoGoDie:


As long as a minor is involved, you have full moral obligation to tell the dad about it. Supposing its your own daughter.

No girl of that age in her right mind will willing give consent to such an act. The men would have manipulated her or coerced her knowing she'll be scared to talk.

Please by all means help this innocent girl. Most of them grow up being traumatized by these experiences.

If you shot your mouth your underage daughter or one in your family could be a victim someday.
the fact that she is a minor also pricked my conscience more even though she wasn't a virgin when the staff had sex with her but it's no excuse to have sex with a minor... I am in a very tricky situation sad
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by WeNoGoDie(m): 5:13pm On Aug 25, 2017
SmellingAnus:
the fact that she is a minor also pricked my conscience more even though she wasn't a virgin when the staff had sex with her but it's no excuse to have sex with a minor... I am in a very tricky situation sad


She wasn't a virgin doesn't mean she gave consent to the first man that defiled her. She's a victim.

We see the stories all over Nairaland and on the media how innocent little underaged girls of 7, 8,9 years etc are being defiled by neighbors, cousins, uncles when no one is around to protect them.

Some less unfortunate ones even cry, bleed or die from the unfortunate act. So even if you aren't sure it happened tell the dad or mum to so they take precautions and protect their child.

If you want to avoid making enemies and implicating anyone buy a registered number or register one yourself, then send the dad or mum anonymous text message from that number narrating that men are defiling their daughter without mentioning names. Then throw away the sim card afterwards. You have helped deliver an innocent soul in bondage.

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 5:27pm On Aug 25, 2017
WeNoGoDie:



She wasn't a virgin doesn't mean she gave consent to the first man that defiled her. She's a victim.

We see the stories all over Nairaland and on the media how innocent little underaged girls of 7, 8,9 years etc are being defiled by neighbors, cousins, uncles when no one is around to protect them.

Some less unfortunate ones even cry, bleed or die from the unfortunate act. So even if you aren't sure it happened tell the dad or mum to so they take precautions and protect their child.

If you want to avoid making enemies and implicating anyone buy a registered number or register one yourself, then send the dad or mum anonymous text message from that number narrating that men are defiling their daughter without mentioning names. Then throw away the sim card afterwards. You have helped deliver an innocent soul in bondage.
thanks... I actually like this your suggestion...
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by WeNoGoDie(m): 5:37pm On Aug 25, 2017
SmellingAnus:
thanks... I actually like this your suggestion...

Send the text messages several times both to the dad and to the mum and make sure they actually received the messages before you throw away the sim card else nothing has been done.

You can also choose the option of calling the with unknown number pretending you are a Stranger that witnessed or heard about the daughter being defiled and want them to take precautions.
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 5:38pm On Aug 25, 2017
WeNoGoDie:


Send the text messages several times both to the dad and to the mum and make sure they actually received the messages before you throw away the sim card else nothing has been done.

You can also choose the option of calling the with unknown number pretending you are a Stranger that witnessed or heard about the daughter being defiled and want them to take precautions.
although I don't have the Mum's number but I have his number...
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by obo389(m): 7:13pm On Aug 25, 2017
Bros smellinganus, when you say minor, how old?
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 7:30pm On Aug 25, 2017
obo389:
Bros smellinganus, when you say minor, how old?
less than 18 years... If I am not mistaken around 16 years I suppose...
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by Collins4u1(m): 7:32pm On Aug 25, 2017
WeNoGoDie:


As long as a minor is involved, you have full moral obligation to tell the dad about it. Supposing its your own daughter.

No girl of that age in her right mind will willing give consent to such an act. The men would have manipulated her or coerced her knowing she'll be scared to talk.

Please by all means help this innocent girl. Most of them grow up being traumatized by these experiences.

If you shot your mouth your underage daughter or one in your family could be a victim someday.




@WeNoGoDie, i understand your view, but at this present age young teenagers are no longer what they used to be those days, now they are all walking around Hot.
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by sisisioge: 7:40pm On Aug 25, 2017
Well, before she go go carry belly biko tell her papa nicely. Tell him with your most serious tone to pay closer attention to his daughter. You've been hearing some untoward stories about her and boys, most especially one of his staff.He would understand and followup.

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 7:44pm On Aug 25, 2017
Laralag:
Op like you said if the said girl is below 18 (that is the age of consent in the Nigeria constitution)and the said man is an adult that means a crime has being committed, treat this like you will treat other crime like robbery theaft or even murder.
My small sage self will say you tell the parents what you know, and let them take it from there
she is below 18... I think the dad once referred to his daughter as 16 years of age in one of our conversations... (his only daughter)
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by Drjudy007: 10:24pm On Aug 25, 2017
Her virginity or lack of shouldn't be a basis for you informing her parents of this heinous crime. A staff betrayed his employer's trust, and raped his daughter. No minor can give consent. Being a parent myself, I would waste no time in ensuring this is reported immediately.

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by silkytouch(m): 7:05am On Aug 26, 2017
squash47:
Mhen,since u didnot see it,you do not have enough facts and evidence.....moreover,just knw that when u report the issue,you're having 3 enemies for uself
1.the man who did the sex act....no man likes to be exposed
2.the girls moda...no woman wants anoda man to know she has a spoilt child..
3.the girl,her moda will make her see u as a jobless grown gossip..and a stupid man...she may poison u when u visit them in their house.....

Plus the honest guy who told him about it, because he too would be roped into the wahala. I doubt the guy would have told him if he knew it was going to cause so much ruckus.
OP respect yourself and mind your business, you are about to cause yourself more harm than good.

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Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by shege45: 7:13am On Aug 26, 2017
WeNoGoDie:


As long as a minor is involved, you have full moral obligation to tell the dad about it. Supposing its your own daughter.

No girl of that age in her right mind will willing give consent to such an act. The men would have manipulated her or coerced her knowing she'll be scared to talk.

Please by all means help this innocent girl. Most of them grow up being traumatized by these experiences.

If you shot your mouth your underage daughter or one in your family could be a victim someday.
dnt u ever say dat...."no girl of dat age will willingly give consent". i work in a secondary school n if nt dat am a disciplined guy,i wld have scattered mny of ds girls cus they seduce me .i even wonder how dey got to me tru Facebook. dis girl look mature buh nt up to 17.so dnt say dat. d world has changed
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by shege45: 7:17am On Aug 26, 2017
SmellingAnus:
Yesterday , I found out from a close younger friend of mine that a particular staff of my my elderly friend who is way older than me has had sex with the man's daughter.. the man's daughter is still a minor and with the kind of friendship I share with him, it has put me in a very difficult situation wether to tell him or not but he will be disappointed if he finds out that I knew something about it and I never told him... His daughter looks innocent and what surprised me more was that , his staff wasn't the one that deflowered her... I am fighting a battle between minding my business and saying nothing or telling my friend about it... The source of this act is also a very close friend of the staff who is also a younger friend to me whom I know to be honest... I would have opened this thread in the romance section where I am more popular but I prefer this section because I know that more parents may get to read about it and give me their honest suggestion...

Lalasticlala, Mynd44, Royalroy
my father once told me "i hardly made enemies in life because i always mind my business ".My bro,am sure dat guy is nt raping dat girl,na she dey willingly give d guy.i'll advice u let sleeping dogs lie.Let d man find out himself. A word is a enough for d wise.
Re: His Staff Had Sex With His Daughter That Is A Minor. Should I Tell Him? by SmellingAnus(m): 8:51am On Aug 26, 2017
shege45:
my father once told me "i hardly made enemies in life because i always mind my business ".My bro,am sure dat guy is nt raping dat girl,na she dey willingly give d guy.i'll advice u let sleeping dogs lie.Let d man find out himself. A word is a enough for d wise.
I appreciate your advise

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