Hi Room,

Can u marry someone ur friend once dated and u know about their relationship.

Waiting for comments.

If u love the person enough to consider a life-long commitment, then y not?!!

dont tell me the only reason u'll reconsider the marriage is because ur friend dated the person?!, wahala

whats d point - why not?

if am feeling him , why not, after all i didn't suck the same breast with the friend so what the heck ,

Hell no! cause his presence will always hunt me. The thought of having had affairs with my wife will be too strong to forget.

No

well i dont know i don't think i can do such a think dat is y i don't be dat close 2 my friendz boyfriendz or x's

I don't think i can, even if i try my mind would not be at ease if am with her and then suddenly my friend walks in.

Don't tell me u won't feel unrelaxed about that.

Well I can't. It's  never a good idea. I will feel am caring a second fido in the presence of my friend. But the girls no problem is still the same thing.

No I cant!

I speak from experience. I have a girl I love and would want to marry. She loves me also. Thing is, my friend went out with her first during our youth service years. This friend then was also talking about things he did with the girl with the boys. I shagged her like this and like that kind of stuff. Now after service year,I ran into her at Abuja and we became good friends and lovers. She has a very good job and is drop-dead gorgeous.  She is hoping that we will get married but thing is, I can't. She is everything I want but each time I close  my eyes, I remember everything my friend said he did with her. Note, they were actually living together then. Funny enough, we don't discuss service year for obvious reasons. I'm uncomfortable with that. I'm still very much close to my friend, her former boyfriend. Most ladies might  think it is not a problem. Let me tell you it's a huge problem for 90% of the guys. Initially, we all pretend as if we can handle it but the truth is we can't. Understand, I didnt know things will get to the level they are now. She is a nice girl but I can't marry her maybe with her former boy friend being our best man.

Then leave her alone if you wanna continue to be childish and dont lead her on.

Ofcourse I will leave her. I know I am not childish just that I cant handle it beyond boyfriend/ girlfriend stuff. I didnt plan to go out with her. It just happened remember.

well you allowed it to go on long enough for her to think that marriage was in the story.

what's the reason for your friend and her not being together anymore anyway

Well, my friend plays around. it was just service year fun for him while it lasted

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but pp do.i have wickness

and wats wrong in that? wat if u got married to someone and somehow u end being friends with one of her exes.

There goes the difference between the sexes. Most ladies dont care while most guys do.

While we never really talked, me and the guy used to say hi every once in a while. but he always used to tell her that he thinks I'm the ONE person that can snatch her from him.

Well, I confirmed his fears and I'm loving every minute of it.

Itz very ok to marry ur friends ex, it takes maturity to do it though, Personally, I think the whole "best friends code" is stupid--Itz d code where bestfriends don't date/marry their each other's exs,
One man's junk is another man's treasure.

yep even sister seff

NaijaProf:

I speak from experience. I have a girl I love and would want to marry. She loves me also. Thing is, my friend went out with her first during our youth service years. This friend then was also talking about things he did with the girl with the boys. I shagged her like this and like that kind of stuff. Now after service year,I ran into her at Abuja and we became good friends and lovers. She has a very good job and is drop-dead gorgeous.  She is hoping that we will get married but thing is, I can't. She is everything I want but each time I close  my eyes, I remember everything my friend said he did with her. Note, they were actually living together then. Funny enough, we don't discuss service year for obvious reasons. I'm uncomfortable with that. I'm still very much close to my friend, her former boyfriend. Most ladies might  think it is not a problem. Let me tell you it's a huge problem for 90% of the guys. Initially, we all pretend as if we can handle it but the truth is we can't. Understand, I didnt know things will get to the level they are now. She is a nice girl but I can't marry her maybe with her former boy friend being our best man.

Then break up with her now instead of leading her on, how would you feel if someone is currently doing same to your sister?