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Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Coolioo(m): 12:14pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Kayceenaz: I was really hoping you would provide a really convincing argument for marriage instead of this. For instance, how are those who opt for marriage any better than those who don't or how will society be adversely affected without marriage or how is the human race better off than other mammals as a result of formal marriage? Hit the nail on the head and don't play around semantics. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Coolioo(m): 12:47pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
sonnie10: mansapost: Kayceenaz: Brother, I think what they are trying to say is that with all your efforts on concise writing and all, you make it appear like you are trying to show off or like you are writing a term paper or like you are a presenting to a group of business executives. When writing for the pubic, it's always a good idea to loosen up and write as explicitly as possible. My two kobo. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by djon78(m): 1:37pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
The days we are in many no longer subscribe to marriage because the creator and originator of marriage was God. But many when going into marriage neglect God who created the institution and as not surprising many marriages hit the rocks. To succeed in marriage seek God, get to know God. Until God opens your eyes and gives you revelation of what marriage is meant to be, you will never know. Intact living/cohabiting with your fellow human being can be a horrible affair, but because marriage transcends that, it teaches you patience, not being selfish, caring and genuinely showing concern towards your partner. Marriage is not a child's play, but if you truly understand its meaning and do it rightly, you will definitely reap the rewards and benefits. It will be very enjoyable for you. There are those who are having wonderful marriages despite all the terrible things we are hearing today, because they worked on themselves and were better partners to their spouses thereby yielding good fruit. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Nobody: 2:49pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
mansapost: I think you are right though. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Kayceenaz(m): 3:44pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
djon78:I really fancy your submission. Marriage is truly no child's play. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Kayceenaz(m): 3:46pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Coolioo:I highly appreciate your opinion. Note taken. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Coolioo(m): 5:44pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Kayceenaz:� My pleasure. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by DarkRebel69: 7:18pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
It's silly, if not ignorant, to claim that man cannot do without marriage. The survival of the human specie hinges on copulation, and not marriage. I've always seen it in this way: Sex is the consummation of the gentler human emotions; romance is the higher form of sex; and marriage the higher form of romance. Notwithstanding, marriage is not indispensable. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by DarkRebel69: 7:22pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
sonnie10: Do learn to appreciate what is good. This sort of petty blackguardism wouldn't take you far in life. And as far as I'm concerned, the OP's work was quite simple enough to grasp, so it must indeed be that your brain is one hell of a blunt contraption. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by sonnie10: 8:37pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
DarkRebel69: I have constrained myself from replying to folks in this thread but this is going to be an exception. Not because you have said anything worth my time, all I intend to do is to constructively present my observations regarding the article. Let me be clear, I maintain my position that the style of writing is not impressive and would not pass as creative writing. Its an attempts to hide the writer's flaws. However, he can't get away with this. The article lacks the basic substance of an expository work. First, there is no statement to define his position. The writer has not taken any stance, rather unnecessary big words are used. In addition, the opening paragraph did not state any social or empirical significance of the topic. Basic elements of effective writing is missing. The article lacks clarity. A good writer would brainstorm and come up with concepts related to the topic. Those concepts are then defined using well grounded and accepted body of knowledge. The whole idea of writing is to add to human knowledge, to teach your audience what they never knew. The way you do that in a short article like this is to present about three sub questions about the topic, which your readers would naturally ask, and then make a strong defense. In your defense, evaluate the evidence you present. How accurate are they? What are the supporting facts and figures? Have they been evaluated and found credible? Introduce questions and use short sentences to get your audience more curious. Quote credible sources and give convincing examples. Finally, restate you position and formulate a question for further inquiries about the topic. Then end with a powerful submission and keep the topic open for more discuss. N/B This lecture you are getting for free cost me thousands of dollars and lots of sleepless nights, so appreciate it. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by DarkRebel69: 9:24pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Here, this was your initial comment: sonnie10: In that post you remarked about his "style of writing", and not, as suggested by your rejoinder to my post, whether he was able to do justice to the topic or not. There's a marked distinction between a writer's "style of writing" and the "content" of a writer's work. And it was in response to your critic of the former i.e. "his style of writing", that my comment was directed at. Style of writing entails a writer's diction, syntax, grammar, etcetera – all in which the OP did fairly well . "Style" ("elocutio" in Rhetoric) is quite different from "Content" ("inventio" in Rhetoric). If you knew all that then you wouldn't have typed this long and unneccesary essay below, rambling about nothing. sonnie10: 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Kayceenaz(m): 10:05pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
sonnie10: If I did all that, you would probably be the first person to rush in here to complain that it is too academic and lengthy. I have already been criticized for that. I attempted to be concise and precise while expressing my own view on the subject, which makes it not absolutely necessary to quote sources; the alternative perspective is mine. I am the source in this case. Also, I take exception to your unfounded allegation that my article is devoid of a thesis. Here is the build up to it: "These fairy tale ribbons that adorn the entire event somewhat opens the gate for complacency to stroll in. Although the couple may be quick to refute it, a misconception of marriage thus surfaces and mental preparedness for the life-long task ahead is substituted with getting overly relaxed. This piece is opposed to that disposition and argues for an alternative consideration." I ab initio articulated my position which is an alternative consideration of the conception of marriage, and my conclusion "replace with a realistic alternative perspective" supports my thesis. Although I like the writing template you outlined, prudence and experience say there is a place and time for such. Do you even think my post would make front page for the umpteenth time if I abided by your blueprint to the letter? Nairaland is in no short supply of witty, well-versed moderators and for this article to end up on the front page amidst competition from thousands of other posts/articles, it means I'm indeed doing something right. Perhaps, you have just declined to see it, too. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Kayceenaz(m): 10:26pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
DarkRebel69: Although marriage not being indispensable may be practically subscribed to by some people, not everyone does same. Most times, when marriage is termed "dispensable" and "overrated," there is a connotation that it is the general view which is so erroneous. I usually don't hesitate to embolden that. Sometimes, when one enquires to understand the basis of their assertion, it is discovered such proponents are actually ignorant of what marriage really entails. While some join the chorus in order to sound trendy, others helplessly bask in their inadequate knowledge. It is an unfortunate situation and part of the reasons for the warped interpretation of marriage that is being circulated. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Kayceenaz(m): 10:28pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
DarkRebel69:I just hope he turns a new leaf. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by Kayceenaz(m): 10:37pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
DarkRebel69:He seems not to know what he wants to say and says what he does not know, and yet claims to be a "constructive" critic. Nevertheless, I commend him, Sonnie10, for trying to be one. |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by dangotesmummy: 10:13pm On Sep 07, 2017 |
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Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by dangotesmummy: 10:13pm On Sep 07, 2017 |
Kayceenaz:exactly |
Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by miarhpe: 6:33am On Sep 08, 2017 |
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Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by dangotesmummy: 7:06am On Sep 08, 2017 |
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Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by miarhpe: 11:33am On Sep 08, 2017 |
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Re: Marriage And The Happily Ever After Syndrome: An Alternative Perspective by dangotesmummy: 11:49am On Sep 08, 2017 |
miarhpe:I'll check later |
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