what to do?
married for 16 years , loved my wife for 20 and more years ,suddenly i fell in love with a new woman
just when i thought i never would fall in love i fell
now im lost between the 2
i cant tell my wife (although some times she feels it) , and i cant leave her after all the years she lived with me on sorrows and happiness
and the new woman she loves me and accept me as i am
but i cant marry her and cant have kids from her without going public ,
any advice?

Think wit ur head and not ur heart and dont allow all ur years of xperience and gaind lessons b a waste

lol @ 'falled' in love!

You're a dumb fellow !!! You're lusting after her that's what its called not love .

Why did u cheated on your wife in the first place? Now u have a golddigger whom u think is accepting u the way u are, and making u feels like a superstar. Well talk to your wife if she will participate in the polygamy:

@poster,
You cannot love 2 women at same time,you better stick ur ass with your wife,did you know the meaning of wife?someone that has spend a whole 20 years with you and you want to sacrifice it for some dumb ass woman.man think,think!

this your case get k-leg o

after 20yrs you wan leave the woman shooo dat one go hard o

PUT YOURSELF IN YOUR WIFE'S POSITION. IF YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN HAPPY AND NOT FEEL BETRAYED TO HEAR SUCH NEWS FROM HER, IT'S LEFT TO YOU. WHAT KIND OF A WOMAN/GIRL WOULD BE SO READY TO BREAK UP A HOME SHE DIDN'T HELP TO BUILD IN ANY WAY- A GOLD DIGGER, THAT IS. DON'T ALLOW DE DEVIL TO USE YOUR WEAK POINT TO DESTROY YOU AND TEAR YOUR FAMILY APART. LOVE MY FOOT. PLS DON'T INSULT THAT WORD.

what if you leave your wife for your new love and in the next two or three years you dive in love again with another woman? are you still goin to leave your new love for the newest love, for chr, t sake you are already married & i.e for better for worse, you are one and nobogy should put asunder.

First of all, don't cheat, and secondly, I may be old fashioned but what happened to the sanctity of marriage,
does the whole "til death do us part" thing really not matter anymore?

[size=13pt]hmm lets see
say u started a relationship with the woman that is now your wife when you were 30 som'fin
dated her for 4years and you got married at 30 som'fin
hmm you ve been married for 20 years
makes you wat 50 som'fin
hmmm SUGAR DADDY !!!! [/size]

why spend your eternity in a loveless marriage? you might as well do your wife a favor and file for divorce because you are not honorable for loving someone else while you are married. you may want to speak with a therapist to work out what you are feeling and why which would ultimately help you decide

ummm this woman that accepts you for who you are , what does she know about you ? your wallet ? You want to leave the wife that stuck through everything for someone else and start having kids again after twenty years ,

are u thinking seriuosly you must like wahala . two wives , young kids at 40 + i see you dont intend to live a long peaceful life
goodluck

jkforever:


what to do?
married for 16 years , loved my wife for 20 and more years ,suddenly i fell in love with a new woman
just when i thought i never would fall in love i fell
now im lost between the 2
i cant tell my wife (although some times she feels it) , and i cant leave her after all the years she lived with me on sorrows and happiness
and the new woman she loves me and accept me as i am
but i cant marry her and cant have kids from her without going public ,
any advice?

TELL HER. she will get over it and move on.
better to treat a wound immediately than cover it up til it starts to smell.

most likely, u will not be happy with ur new woman and will regret what u did to ur wife anyways. so maybe u can apply some self control (aka cut all comunication with the new woman) to save ur marriage.

@poster had it been u did not cheat on ur wife u would not have been in this mess. After 20yrs? Don't u think u re a time waster?

Are you really sure you have loved her for 20years or you have been compromising with her? coz my dear if you have truly loved her with all your heart, you wouldn't fall in love with another woman. offcourse you may feel lust, and attraction towards others women but not love. maybe U are just confused sometimes in a marriage for a long time, some people would get tired of the old module they are living in and will be attracted by new things very easily and think they don't love their wife anymore, and make wrong decision and regret after the decision. So listen to your heart, do you really not love your wife anymore or are there any other reasons?

rokiatu:

First of all, don't cheat, and secondly, I may be old fashioned but what happened to the sanctity of marriage,
does the whole "til death do us part" thing really not matter anymore?

not in this era my dear

poster, do you even know the meaning of love cheater