Hi, fellow landers, situation + experience gave me no second choice but to ask this disturbing question I often asked myself on whether or not people still indulge in agape love nowadays. I'm an honest and God fearing guy, in my late twenties and preparing to settle down but the issue is that each lady I hook up with in relationship and try to maintain my faith and keep my cool ends up cheating on me with other guys, the one I'm presently with now claims to be a born again, i love her and i guess she also loves me, in fact we both opted to keep our cools up to our wedding night but it appears that her action has betrayed her supposed intention cos she's already doing the opposite with another guy, at times I would be tempted to make love to her just to satisfy her urge and to stop her from going to seek for it from the other guy but I don't want to betray my faith so I keep my cool, NOTE; I'm not a virgin neither am I looking for a virgin wife, but the truth is that I can't keep on farming while another guy is harvesting my crops, and so curiosity pushed me to ask whether guys/girls still practice agape love in this 21century?

Op, You're the definition of Greedy.

You no wan chop, and you still no want make another guy chop.

chai, that guy stole my spot.
I dedicate this second to comment to the love of my life, the person my Hrt beats for and also the person my girlfriend love the most
In other words, I dedicate it to my very self

I hope this helps Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our heads not our hearts. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline; because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with. In those times, love will not help you. Self control will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life. You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do! But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings and is the great arsenal that do destroy those unhelpful impulses. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love. We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there; but that can only last for just the first 3 - 6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped and it's now your responsibility to make the relationship work, not love's responsibility. Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment. Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that. That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions. Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough. At some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together. You can scale through the trying times by staying focused and committed. The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them

dukeprince50:
I hope this helps Love cannot help you stick to one person all year round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else. Relationships work out mostly because of our heads not our hearts. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline; because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with. In those times, love will not help you. Self control will help you. Emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life. You think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do! But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings and is the great arsenal that do destroy those unhelpful impulses. You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love. We are too fond of loving when it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there; but that can only last for just the first 3 - 6 months of the relationship. After then, you'll realise that the feelings have dropped and it's now your responsibility to make the relationship work, not love's responsibility. Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps them together forever, it's determination and commitment. Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the strong and committed ones do that. That's why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions. Building a relationship is hard work, it's like building a career, It's like pursuing a dream. It's always tough. At some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together. You can scale through the trying times by staying focused and committed. The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them

thanks dear, quite encouraging..

This is serious..

NairalandCS:
Op, You're the definition of Greedy.

You no wan chop, and you still no want make another guy chop.

that isn't greediness brother, and the fact that you can't abstain from sexual immoralities should not blur your mind to think that everyone else cannot. A piece if advice for you brother; Risk all it takes to stay out of evil.

dukeprince50:
chai, that guy stole my spot.
I dedicate this second to comment to the love of my life, the person my Hrt beats for and also the person my girlfriend love the most
In other words, I dedicate it to my very self

Lol.. he didn't steal your "spot" what is meant to be is bound to be.
meanwhile, what's your take in respect to the topic above?

Lalas247:
This is serious..

yes! quite serious, so what's your answer to the question?

Chibest2000:

yes! quite serious, so what's your answer to the question?

Need to eat first ... I need calories to type it out

Lalas247:

Need to eat first ... I need calories to type it out

Lol.. don't be a glutton, have you existed all the calories in your system?

Lalas247:

Need to eat first ... I need calories to type it out

Lol.. don't be a glutton, have you existed all the calories in your system? I hope to see your answer when you might have filled up.

Bro, agape love is rare to find, very rare, u just need to upgrade ur operating system for now, and I pray you get your heart desires

FemiEddy:
Bro, agape love is rare to find, very rare, u just need to upgrade ur operating system for now, and I pray you get your heart desires

Thank God they are just being rare and not that they don't exist. a bit relief..

FemiEddy:
Bro, agape love is rare to find, very rare, u just need to upgrade ur operating system for now, and I pray you get your heart desires

Pls wat does Agape love means?asin when ur gal has agape love u..

Plz what is agape love