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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by horlahsunbo225(m): 7:56am On Sep 27, 2017
vicadex07:



lol....u are just one of the numerous guys she is dating....


Thanks
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by horlahsunbo225(m): 7:57am On Sep 27, 2017
Horlohlah:
Since you are convinced all is well,enjoy your relationship bro.
Thanks
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by NigerDeltan(m): 8:05am On Sep 27, 2017
motun2017:
the guy celebrated bday twice in a year ?? i dont get sef

Mttcheeeew...otondo
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by NigerDeltan(m): 8:13am On Sep 27, 2017
Sabrina18:
Why are you killing yourself over her ex?

But seriously what's wrong with people and getting mad over their partner's ex. I hate it when someone is being unnecessarily insecure.

I couldn't care less about my partner's ex, wetin join me and her? so far they are no longer together, it shouldn't bother you and yes I know some ladies are not over their ex and you won't blame them, their ex might be better than the current one.

Let her quit and go meet the better ex and stop wasting somebody's time

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by lenghtinny(m): 8:14am On Sep 27, 2017
horlahsunbo225:
My dear brother it seems you can't date my gf cox per year she uploaded up to 100 guys both on fb and WhatsApp but on my birthday she didn't do so for me and I dont even give a bleep about it.
Dont be jealous
Let go the poo but just make sure she is not cheating on you
I pray that you don't play your penalty to throwing in the end angry
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by ruggedtimi(m): 8:15am On Sep 27, 2017
Erums:
Guys.... Im in a delimma.. Im i reacting toomuch?

I know my gf ex.....

On the 20th of sept she posted on her Facebook wishing the Ex a happy bday in adv and uploading his picture tagging her close friends too....

She was in my house of the 22nd and during the cause of our discussion i told her that i saw her post of her ex on the facebook page.. That is wasnt really nice. Mind u, i said it in a matured and friendly way.

Fast forward to 25th, on her facebook page, i saw she posted the guys pikture double dis time, wishing him a happy bday tagging her close friends also, i also went ahead to check her whatsap status... She also posted his picture there...

Guys dis pissed me off...
I asked a few female colleagues and friends they all gave thier opinion thats either they are bleeping, or theyre back togeda, or they are planning and hoping to get back togeda...

But all the same, i felt insulted for the fact that i told her of my displeasure before...

Guys, be sincere, put urself in ma shoes, And im about to break up with her...

Shes been begging since yesteday. But my heart is stoned, i feel shes fake....

Guys, im i over reacting.... What do u advise...
bro follow ur heart...will advise you to breakup if you feel pains and not okay with she posting her ex pics, if she doesnt show any sign of respect. Trust me this things doesnt end up well if you dig up you will find out they are still meeting obviously. I am talking from experience be wise bro

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by horlahsunbo225(m): 8:17am On Sep 27, 2017
lenghtinny:

I pray that you don't play your penalty to throwing in the end angry
Amen my bro
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Nobody: 8:20am On Sep 27, 2017
NigerDeltan:


Let her quit and go meet the better ex and stop wasting somebody's time
But a guy getting insecure about his girlfriend's ex thinks the ex is better than him, that's how I see it.

I don't think my partner's ex is better than me and that's why I bother about her, if he likes he can wish her all the birthday message in the world, upload all her pictures, talk about her from morning till night to me, e no concern me, because one getting jealous over his/her partner's ex is childish to me.
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by lenghtinny(m): 9:13am On Sep 27, 2017
Sabrina18:
But a guy getting insecure about his girlfriend's ex thinks the ex is better than him, that's how I see it.

I don't think my partner's ex is better than me and that's why I bother about her, if he likes he can wish her all the birthday message in the world, upload all her pictures, talk about her from morning till night to me, e no concern me, because one getting jealous over his/her partner's ex is childish to me.
You don't seem to understand what's going on angry
The issue is not about who is better or who is worse because anything can happen when it comes to hanging around with your old flame.The girl is the one giving him reasons to be suspicious with her attitude.
Insecurity is a form of protection in a relationship and not immaturity. If he doesn't love her or takes her for granted, this issue won't get to him...
Girls are emotionally vulnerable and with the way things are going, it's better he voices out his feelings than bottling it up so that he can safeguard his heart when the truth hits him...
This is one of the reasons why I stay true to my signature, I can't come and go and kill myself...

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Erums(m): 9:34am On Sep 27, 2017
ruggedtimi:
bro follow ur heart...will advise you to breakup if you feel pains and not okay with she posting her ex pics, if she doesnt show any sign of respect. Trust me this things doesnt end up well if you dig up you will find out they are still meeting obviously. I am talking from experience be wise bro


Thanks bro... Im a kinda guy who doesnt really have time for dig ups.. Cos imma a busy guy... You show me signs i move afar
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Erums(m): 9:43am On Sep 27, 2017
tosyne2much:
Lemme think from another direction


I think the lady in question doesn't have any regard for you. I mean, a little thing like this has ruined many relationships and it will continue to ruin it.

How would a lady upload the pictures of her Ex and will keep tagging her village people for whatever reason without prior informing her current boyfriend about it l? I think it's all shades of wrong and the fact that you can tolerate such a thing doesn't mean every other guy will tolerate it.

OP, I don't think you're overreacting because it's perfectly normal to feel insecure towards such a thing, and I know that all the people castigating you are only being hypocritical

To each his own opinion




Thanks pal... I believe im not over reacting... Infact im on a right course.... I dunt wanna start saying some tins here anyways... But for this... Im hurt abt it... Cos if i show my displeasure on sometine and its repeated... It goes beyond just mere friendship.... Its disrespect... And that no man tolerates from a woman

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Erums(m): 9:47am On Sep 27, 2017
Ayoolajumoke:
Op, I know you won't take this advice because it seems you love the lady than she seem to love you.

I will say, don't go back to the relationship because she has placed more value on her ex than you, which is totally a bad signal. An ex is supposed to be an ex.


Thnks dear.... I really have taken a decision to quit.... Tnks for been concerned

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Erums(m): 9:54am On Sep 27, 2017
rasojie:
OP take this advice. sit her down and define the relationship. my gf was like that too. at first she did not want to do the total breakup thing cos the ex was in another state. I didn't want to rush her , I wanted her to do it on her own accord since we are already having a good time. until I notice that she had the boldness to just pick the guys calls in my presence and talk for like 10 mins. then I sat her down and she finally broke up with the guy. fast forward 3 months, I noticed the guy still calls her well I don't have a problem with that.. but I noticed they still talk for long.. Na there I cut chain oooo. I am a guy and if an ex is still giving me this kinda audience I know she isn't really over me and I can have her sometime. well she realy cut off the guy finally. but now I told her I don't give a fvck if she does anything with anybody again.. I think she has defined the relationship now for herself and she knows the boundaries.
I take it that you really like the babe that's why e dey pain you. yes it is normal to feel that way. sit her down and let her know you won't tolerate it any more


Sometimes... I smell pretence in her... Shes quick to cry wen corrected or scolded... But i hv lost feelings for that... I dnt bend no more... I really dont wanna seat... Cos i already list trust i was really trying to build....

She jeeps asking ne.. Do u trust me... I dnt reply.. Cos i was waiting for an event to trust... But dis.. Cbt trust nomore... I got to move on

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Erums(m): 10:02am On Sep 27, 2017
MISSCONGENIALITY:
You really need to free your babe. This is what gave me cold frets about my relation of over 4yrs.
He started feeling insecure and suspects me each time he calls and I fail to pick or sends a message and I fail to reply.he even calls to ask me to tell him ignominious cheating on him. I've never cheated on him not because of him though, but because I don't liken it when people humbled from one relationship to another. I have better things to do that think about who to cheat with.
He even gets jealous of my girl friend cos we spend a lot of time together. We don't live in the same city but each time I tell him I'm with my girlfriend hé feels bad about it. Recently I've been thinking of cheating but I told myself no one Wil push me into doing what I don't want to do


What I'm trying to say is that when you display insecurity I a relationship, he kills it because you will start counting things you shuldnt count and cause your partner unjustly. So op, if you love her, give her some breathing space but if you don't love her, end the relationship and and stop pushing her to go and cheat by always monitoring her.

I never stated i monitored her.. Infact i give this gurl space... Like serious space to do what she wants with her frnds... I dnt display insecurities cos im a freestyle peraon.. Same way i dnt play games and i g8ve proper respect to female folks.... But in all dese.. It doesnt close my eyes wen i sense a danger



Now why do u think shes you... As u said.. You were thi king of cheating recently.. Now its a two way tin... You cheat or you dnt...

An immediate ex spells a sure danger... Dnt ignore
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by LoRdCaT(m): 10:05am On Sep 27, 2017
IamLEGEND1:
I go give two different pieces of advice, pick anyone that suits your personality:
As wetin she do dey pain you, just get ready to pack up. You don't trust the girl & she on her part doesn't value your opinion, even less so your feelings.
Find the nearest dust bin & drop her there...... Move on to bigger & better yanshes.

BUT!
Me as I dey so I no give_fuck about this kyn nonsense.
She can be smashing the ex on the side for all I care...... As long as the services she provides me remain steady, then she can post the pictures of the whole guys on her street and wish them happy birthday.
When time come, I pack up and bolt out of her life faster than gala sellers holding your N930 change in traffic..... Or she gets tired first and breaks up with me...... Win-win situation either way.

There may come a day when I become true to my feelings, a day I will see my girl with another guy and get jealous, but it is not this day.
MA NIGGA grin
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Erums(m): 10:05am On Sep 27, 2017
Sabrina18:
Why are you killing yourself over her ex?

But seriously what's wrong with people and getting mad over their partner's ex. I hate it when someone is being unnecessarily insecure.

I couldn't care less about my partner's ex, wetin join me and her? so far they are no longer together, it shouldn't bother you and yes I know some ladies are not over their ex and you won't blame them, their ex might be better than the current one.

Exactly u made a piont... Bt i never stated im bothered abt her ex... I said im bothered abt her, her loyalty, respect towards the relationship and so on... Did u see where i stated i and her ex had any encounter.... NO... Dnt jyst talk out of sentiments.... Would you as a girl tolerate your man.. Uploading his immediate Ex picture everywhere and still claiming shes with you...

Make una dey fear God

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Erums(m): 10:09am On Sep 27, 2017
Sabrina18:
But a guy getting insecure about his girlfriend's ex thinks the ex is better than him, that's how I see it.

I don't think my partner's ex is better than me and that's why I bother about her, if he likes he can wish her all the birthday message in the world, upload all her pictures, talk about her from morning till night to me, e no concern me, because one getting jealous over his/her partner's ex is childish to me.


Im not jelous of him... I dnt bleeping know him, i just know him in pictures cos she once showed me.... This is between me and her... Get ur talk straight
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by IamLEGEND1: 10:28am On Sep 27, 2017
LoRdCaT:
MA NIGGA grin

Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 10:53am On Sep 27, 2017
Erums:


I never stated i monitored her.. Infact i give this gurl space... Like serious space to do what she wants with her frnds... I dnt display insecurities cos im a freestyle peraon.. Same way i dnt play games and i g8ve proper respect to female folks.... But in all dese.. It doesnt close my eyes wen i sense a danger



Now why do u think shes you... As u said.. You were thi king of cheating recently.. Now its a two way tin... You cheat or you dnt...

An immediate ex spells a sure danger... Dnt ignore
well I'm just trying to put myself in her shoes. It hurts when you have someone you respect and trust so much but that same person doesn't trust you simply because you are congenial. I'm a sanquine and you know how sanquine flow with people easily. But I've never cheated even though he keeps talking about cheating. Sometimes I think he really wants me to cheat. But told myself that even if you must end today, it won't be because I cheated cos I've decided not to cheat. It's good I'm doing for myself not cos I'm aftaid it will end my relationship. Marraoges end not to talk of relationships.
But if you love her you need to wait till you are sure. Not all ex become enemies after break up. Some people are better just friends you know.
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Dreament(m): 11:22am On Sep 27, 2017
op don't mind all these people saying u are feeling insecure and bin childish. from what I observed from ur write up, that girl doesn't HV respect for u and she doesn't value the relationship. assuming she does she would HV upload the picture the second time after warning her the first time. is like she value her ex more than u. such girls can by very sturborn. that's they normally start before u knew it she will reconcile with her ex after wasting ur time. any girl that really value her relationship will cut off some tins that might post a treat to the relationship especially an ex. op sit the girl down and talk to her if she doesn't change show her the exist door because u deserve better
. so that she can HV the free chance to be uploading her ex pictures every minute. she even went ahead be tagging her friends that is indirectly bringing urselfworth down before them.

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by tosyne2much(m): 12:54pm On Sep 27, 2017
Erums:



Thanks pal... I believe im not over reacting... Infact im on a right course.... I dunt wanna start saying some tins here anyways... But for this... Im hurt abt it... Cos if i show my displeasure on sometine and its repeated... It goes beyond just mere friendship.... Its disrespect... And that no man tolerates from a woman
Even if you don't break up with her, henceforth, please don't be too emotionally attached with her because these are warming of dangers
Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by tosyne2much(m): 12:59pm On Sep 27, 2017
Dreament:
op don't mind all these people saying u are feeling insecure and bin childish. from what I observed from ur write up, that girl doesn't HV respect for u and she doesn't value the relationship. assuming she does she would HV upload the picture the second time after warning her the first time. is like she value her ex more than u. such girls can by very sturborn. that's they normally start before u knew it she will reconcile with her ex after wasting ur time. any girl that really value her relationship will cut off some tins that might post a treat to the relationship especially an ex. op sit the girl down and talk to her if she doesn't change show her the exist door because u deserve better
. so that she can HV the free chance to be uploading her ex pictures every minute. she even went ahead be tagging her friends that is indirectly bringing urselfworth down before them.
Thank you jawe my brother

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by Zhahovic(m): 1:19pm On Sep 27, 2017
But seriously...even if she is still friends with her ex....I don't think its right uploading his pix and tagging her friends on Facebook...
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She's passing a subconscious message....that she still has feelings for the guy....
..
At least a simple " happy birthday dear " on the guy's wall would have sufficed.
..
You should show respect to the love U have for your partner not just in real time but also on social media...
..

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by veraiyke(m): 1:40pm On Sep 27, 2017
MISSCONGENIALITY:
You really need to free your babe. This is what gave me cold frets about my relation of over 4yrs.
He started feeling insecure and suspects me each time he calls and I fail to pick or sends a message and I fail to reply.he even calls to ask me to tell him ignominious cheating on him. I've never cheated on him not because of him though, but because I don't liken it when people humbled from one relationship to another. I have better things to do that think about who to cheat with.
He even gets jealous of my girl friend cos we spend a lot of time together. We don't live in the same city but each time I tell him I'm with my girlfriend hé feels bad about it. Recently I've been thinking of cheating but I told myself no one Wil push me into doing what I don't want to do


What I'm trying to say is that when you display insecurity I a relationship, he kills it because you will start counting things you shuldnt count and cause your partner unjustly. So op, if you love her, give her some breathing space but if you don't love her, end the relationship and and stop pushing her to go and cheat by always monitoring her.
Serious!

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 3:02pm On Sep 27, 2017
veraiyke:
Serious!
seriously, I'm talking from experience. You won't really understand.

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by BumbleBee007: 3:02pm On Sep 27, 2017
I don't think you're over reacting. Truth is, they re either sleeping together behind your back or planning on reigniting their old romance. And yes, It's disrespectful of her!

The choice is yours bro!!!

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by BumbleBee007: 3:10pm On Sep 27, 2017
Btw...most women dont get over their Ex ..[/quote]

Word!!!

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by BumbleBee007: 3:16pm On Sep 27, 2017
toastedbread:
once it's a threelationship, start padding your heart like the budget.

This is a funny piece that has a STRONG message underneath! grin

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Re: Me Vs My Girlfriend Vs Her Ex... (serious Matters) by BumbleBee007: 3:20pm On Sep 27, 2017
tosyne2much:
Lemme think from another direction


I think the lady in question doesn't have any regard for you. I mean, a little thing like this has ruined many relationships and it will continue to ruin it.

How would a lady upload the pictures of her Ex and will keep tagging her village people for whatever reason without prior informing her current boyfriend about it l? I think it's all shades of wrong and the fact that you can tolerate such a thing doesn't mean every other guy will tolerate it.

OP, I don't think you're overreacting because it's perfectly normal to feel insecure towards such a thing, and I know that all the people castigating you are only being hypocritical

To each his own opinion



Well said!

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