What are the negative sides of adopting a child

You'r held responsible if anything goes wrong with the child, if the child succeeds in life for sure you enjoy all the credits.

the social stigma associated with adoption is a big problem for many, both for the adoptive parent and the child alike.

if you already have family of your own, how will your adopted child feel as in being accepted especially when she/he wasnt a baby when adopted or even if she was and later find out? you will directly or indirectly create an environment where he/she will feel like an outcast? will your family and immediate family be accepting and supportive of your new child and your decisions?

are you willing to accept the responsibility of raising a child that is not biologically yours? will you be easily ticked off on everything?

do you plan on ever telling the child (if she/he was a baby when adopted), that he/she was adopted? if not, how would you handle the prospect of him/her finding out from others? and the negative stereotypes he/she will likely encounter?

negative side is when their start looking for their biological parent

benincitys:

negative side is when their start looking for their biological parent

^^^ which always happens apparently. However, I believe that when that time comes you should help the child to find their biological parents, its their right to know and decide how they want to take things forward. Children do not belong to us they are of GOd and that's where they end up.

A colleague of mine once told me about her aunt who was a high flyer and delayed childbearing until it was too late. The aunt and husband ended up adopting children. When she died the husband could only ask one question "Oh! what am I going to do with all her children now?" which meant he never considered the children his since they were not biological. How sad, I guess that's the other downside, that the hubby could be resentful deep inside and yet not mention it to his wife.

Another downside close to me is of a friend of mine adopted by a white family. Her biological family is after her now that she is grown up and ofcourse living with a white family she must have money or have access to it. They are up to a lot of drama with this situation. When I say drama I mean literal drama, they even went to report a missing child on television programmes saying that their child has been kidnapped by a white woman, meanwhile there is no such. Her mother who literaly abondened her when she was two days old phoned her sometime and asked her to give her money so she can look after her other children.

Now in this situation as an adopting parent its hard because who have to deal with the drama of psychopathic behaviour and conduct of the biological parents, causing a spectacle in your peaceful life. The adopted child doesnt want anything to do with her biological mother and its her right too.

Ask me if I would adopt a child? YES!

The only cons I can think of is what benincitys said. I guess that is the biggest disadvantage not in all cases but in some.
especially when the child become someone successful. The biological parents usually plan to take him /her away.