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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by pocohantas(f): 5:53pm On Oct 21, 2017
There are lots of people with plenty self control.
I would never hit a man, except in self defence, even at that...he has to be armed or fully out for me.

It'll take more than a slap or words to bring out the beast in me.

It's understandable if some of you are not like that.
You'll get there...just don't kill anyone before you attain that level of self-control. Kirikiri isn't a nice place to be, neither will this article help that person.

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 5:53pm On Oct 21, 2017
Peachess:

Sorry o, if I judge you wrongly. But I just had to say something cos some abusive/ "prospective abusive" men reading this will take this thread as a justification of their actions.
Walking away is easy, like my parents taught us from childhood how to walk away no matter how provoked we were. Cos if you fight and they find out, it won't be funny at all. It takes practice but it's not impossible.
So no cry again eh

You and i know that a very normal man will not hit his wife, he will happily walk away.
If nothing, but freedom to drink beer for that day wink

The crazy ones are those doing the beating especially when unprovoked.

If a man sees this post as a validation for misbehaving, then he has gone mad!

Thank you, i don clean my eyes now
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 5:54pm On Oct 21, 2017
crismark:
u better shut up if u av ntn to say.... Maybe because u successfully wrote an informal letter or composition for some pry 3 pupil, u started tinking u re brilliant enough to write dis... Please u re nt qualified to write on a very sensitive issue like dis.. jst shut up nd stick to other less sensitive issues..
k
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 5:58pm On Oct 21, 2017
pocohantas:
There are lots of people with plenty self control.
I would never hit a man, except in self defence, even at that...he has to be armed or fully out for me.

It'll take more than aslap or words to bring out the beast in me.

It's understandable if some of you are not like that.
You'll get thee...just don't kill anyone before you attain that level of self-control. Kirikiri isn't a nice place to be, neither will this article help that person.

As ususal, very apt and objective!
One of those who see things clearly.

I told a friend, I see no reason why hot tempered guys should marry.
When they get angry they feel wrecking havoc is the next best thing.

Kirikiri too far na, that is if bullets have not dug holes in him!
Ladies need to beware of their partners too.

Thanks
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Peachess(f): 5:59pm On Oct 21, 2017
Prec1ous:


You and i know that a very normal man will not hit his wife, he will happily walk away.
If nothing, but freedom to drink beer for that day wink

The crazy ones are those doing the beating especially when unprovoked.

If a man sees this post as a validation for misbehaving, then he has gone mad!

Thank you, i don clean my eyes now
Lol, free beer that's why they have potbelly. grin
Your moniker should be crybaby sha, cry cry.
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Daeylar(f): 6:01pm On Oct 21, 2017
Peachess:
What happened to walking away? That's the best thing you can do. The truth is that most people needs anger management classes. From the way you talk (type) it's obvious you're abusive and you're trying to generalize the issue just to make you feel good that all males are like you. I've seen males faced with worse situation than the one you mentioned but they never raise their hand on anyone, they just walked away.
Females are not puppets or toys you own and can mishandle it. That's why I'd always advice female to attend martial arts classes for the purpose of self defense. Remember there's a this line between life and death, you'll know walking away is the best option when you beat someone daughter to death.

Nice
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Nobody: 6:13pm On Oct 21, 2017
Prec1ous:


My brother, I really got tired of that anthem.

Fake men everywhere, where are the real ones then?

You stated it already, you have to be sweet to also get a sweetheart. Garbage in garbage out.

Respect

Pardon me but the remedy to all this brouhaha is simple. Do not develop any emotional attachment or investment in any female/male. Do not see a female/male as indispensable. Above all, expect the worst and hope for the best.

Is my assessment wrong? Because 'emotions' 'feelings' 'expectations' seem to be the common denominator. undecided
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Nobody: 6:14pm On Oct 21, 2017
Absolute nonsense. My dad never raised his hand on my mum, for as long as I can recall, let alone beat her. Not all men are like you.

From primary through secondary school, I've been offended by many of my female classmates in numerous infuriating ways, but I never touched any of them. My sister, my cousins, I've never beaten any of them, because I have a natural aversion for physical violence, not only against women, but against anyone at all.

So, I consider it IMPOSSIBLE for my girlfriend, or in the future, my wife, whose sparkling eyes are enough to make me weak in the knees, to be physically assaulted by me. I base this assertion not on some fantastic wish, but on an INCONTROVERTIBLE FACT of my own life that I have observed throughout my growth, and is never going to change any time soon.

So, OP, you're wrong. Not every man is a potential wife beater!

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by laliga01: 6:24pm On Oct 21, 2017
MhizzAJ:
A man that doesn't speak out when u offend him but bottles it up is a very dangerous man...I strongly agree

I see no reason why a man should hit a woman no matter what

Some men just lack self control..They should know when to walk away from situations that will bring out the beast in them...

I hate this word " no matter what". I dnt support domestic violence but using the word no matter what on a lady gives her the green back up that she can do anyhow.
Both men n women should apply wisdom in their affairs.

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 6:31pm On Oct 21, 2017
Blackfyre:


Pardon me but the remedy to all this brouhaha is simple. Do not develop any emotional attachment or investment in any female/male. Do not see a female/male as indispensable. Above all, expect the worst and hope for the best.

Is my assessment wrong? Because 'emotions' 'feelings' 'expectations' seem to be the common denominator. undecided

Exactly, the lesser the attachment and investment, then there will virtually be no expectation.
Thus no reason for anyone to hurt another.

Your assessment is the BEST SOLUTION ACTUALLY!

But in relationships and marriage, there will always be attachment and investments.

This then raise another argument, is marriage worht all this hassle?
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 6:34pm On Oct 21, 2017
ZandhaZaraZ:
Absolute nonsense. My dad never raised his hand on my mum, for as long as I can recall, let alone beat her. Not all men are like you.

From primary through secondary school, I've been offended by many of my female classmates in numerous infuriating ways, but I never touched any of them. My sister, my cousins, I've never beaten any of them, because I have a natural aversion for physical violence, not only against women, but against anyone at all.

So, I consider it IMPOSSIBLE for my girlfriend, or in the future, my wife, whose sparkling eyes are enough to make me weak in the knees, to be physically assaulted by me. I base this assertion not on some fantastic wish, but on an INCONTROVERTIBLE FACT of my own life that I have observed throughout my growth, and is never going to change any time soon.

So, OP, you're wrong. Not every man is a potential wife beater!

This is your rreason "because I have a natural aversion for physical violence, not only against women, but against anyone at all."

Pray you do not meet nyone, male or female who will test your survival instinct!

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by majekoam(m): 6:39pm On Oct 21, 2017
Prec1ous:

I wasn't going to read the text because of the generalization you made in the title but i thought for the sake of objectivity let me go on.
If all men are potential wife beaters then aren't all women potentially husband beaters? it just takes the right situation.

Firstly. I have personally had situations where some friends and I, both male and female were at a lounge and a female came to join us. We got to talking and for some reason she said I bet you are the kind of guy that can lay his hands on a woman. I am a broad guy (Sports player type), so maybe she assumed because of that that i would be a wife beater, fortunately i didnt have to defend myself. My female friends their were the ones who defended me...I didnt say a word. To top it all off she started to slap me on the head (Ridiculously ironic)/ whether playful or not I told her that I dont like it and she should stop but she kept on doing it. My female friends sat watching because they knew that i dont like it as we have discussed it before and I feel if a man shouldnt do it neither should women. Once again they came to my aid and told her to stop. Only then did she stop. So why did she continue to do so when i asked her openly to stop?....There are so many double standards so if you are going to write up something you should be thorough.

"There was also a post that reads like this:
A woman hitting a man isn't cute at all
I really don't support that

All am trying to say is that hitting a woman is unacceptable
Men are physically stronger than women..So men should learn to walk away"
"
Check the tone of the different paragraphs. The first paragraph (against women beaters) is a slap on the wrist ("I DONT REALLY SUPPORT THAT" ). The second against men is a total condemnation ("HITTING A WOMAN IS UNACCEPTABLE" ). They are both Unacceptable.


Secondly My Guy, If all men are potential wife beaters then there is no need for a classification system.

Thirdly:
"- A man who loves you too much to the point of obsession and jealousy will hit you, because he wants to correct you.". I personally disagree. He will hit you because he is possessive. He sees women as an object he owns. There is no correlation between violence and love. If you're thinking about the relationship between parents and children then it differs. That is discipline because the children might not be able to understand what the parent is trying to communicate with them.

To be fair you have written many good points. There are clearly major problems in society with domestic abuse but please dont generalize. Its better you say "Characteristics of men who may become potential wife beaters". Many women who may have had a negative experience or are naive may feel all men beat their women black and blue. That is not the case. You may affect someone's destiny....
Just my opinion.
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 6:41pm On Oct 21, 2017
majekoam:
Prec1ous:

I wasn't going to read the text because of the generalization you made in the title but i thought for the sake of objectivity let me go on.
If all men are potential wife beaters then aren't all women potentially husband beaters? it just takes the right situation.

Firstly. I have personally had situations where some friends and I, both male and female were at a lounge and a female came to join us. We got to talking and for some reason she said I bet you are the kind of guy that can lay his hands on a woman. I am a broad guy (Sports player type), so maybe she assumed because of that that i would be a wife beater, fortunately i didnt have to defend myself. My female friends their were the ones who defended me...I didnt say a word. To top it all off she started to slap me on the head (Ridiculously ironic)/ whether playful or not I told her that I dont like it and she should stop but she kept on doing it. My female friends sat watching because they knew that i dont like it as we have discussed it before and I feel if a man shouldnt do it neither should women. Once again they came to my aid and told her to stop. Only then did she stop. So why did she continue to do so when i asked her openly to stop?....There are so many double standards so if you are going to write up something you should be thorough.

"There was also a post that reads like this:
A woman hitting a man isn't cute at all
I really don't support that

All am trying to say is that hitting a woman is unacceptable
Men are physically stronger than women..So men should learn to walk away"
"
Check the tone of the different paragraphs. The first paragraph (against women beaters) is a slap on the wrist ("I DONT REALLY SUPPORT THAT" ). The second against men is a total condemnation ("HITTING A WOMAN IS UNACCEPTABLE" ). They are both Unacceptable.


Secondly My Guy, If all men are potential wife beaters then there is no need for a classification system.

Thirdly:
"- A man who loves you too much to the point of obsession and jealousy will hit you, because he wants to correct you.". I personally disagree. He will hit you because he is possessive. He sees women as an object he owns. There is no correlation between violence and love. If you're thinking about the relationship between parents and children then it differs. That is discipline because the children might not be able to understand what the parent is trying to communicate with them.

To be fair you have written many good points. There are clearly major problems in society with domestic abuse but please dont generalize. Its better you say "Characteristics of men who may become potential wife beaters". Many women who may have had a negative experience or are naive may feel all men beat their women black and blue. That is not the case. You may affect someone's destiny....
Just my opinion.

TRUCKLOAD OF RESPECT!!!!!!

I LEARNT TOO

THANK YOU
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by ndubueze92(m): 6:43pm On Oct 21, 2017
Peachess:

Martial arts is good cause you can use for self defense, maybe you're being attacked or kidnapped, you can defend yourself.
Most of the points you mentioned are painful but shouldn't make you beat her. Play her game, don't allow her siblings to come to the house too, call her mum a witch too. I love pay backs cos I can't wait for karma to do her job.
I don't support women that call their MILs witches, same way I don't support women that brings dispute (like barring her husband's siblings from the house) in their husband's family. Because before he even knew her, they've always been in life during the good and the rough time. But a lady has a say in the way her child should be disciplined, a spank in the ass of a young child his OK. As they grow up, advice works better.
I'm completely thrilled by the way you danced around your points, defending your stance.
Exchanging words with her, helps no one......
meeeee, am a core disciplinarian, some women these days have imbibed the western ways of treating kids as if they're adults...
I would really like to marry someone that would later use me an example "... he never raised his hands on me". I will adopt the walk away approach....
Buh sometimes you may walk away and walk into something that courts your attention
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Nobody: 6:46pm On Oct 21, 2017
Prec1ous:


Exactly, the lesser the attachment and investment, then there will virtually be no expectation.
Thus no reason for anyone to hurt another.

Your assessment is the BEST SOLUTION ACTUALLY!

But in relationships and marriage, there will always be attachment and investments.

This then raise another argument, is marriage worht all this hassle?

I don't know about anyone else or you, but i strongly believe you can do same in relationships and marriage. As far as you are dutiful as a partner and you do all that to make her/him happy. I see no reason how emotions or attachment are needed to achieve these things.

Personally, i will be honest, i just came to this resolution so havent tried it out in any relationship yet. But i tried it out on a close fam, which is as close as any man can get and it's very useful, illuminating and stable and far more in control. Plus if you can do it to your fam, someone born of another woman should not be hard. undecided
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Nobody: 6:47pm On Oct 21, 2017
Prec1ous:


This is your rreason "because I have a natural aversion for physical violence, not only against women, but against anyone at all."

Pray you do not meet nyone, male or female who will test your survival instinct!
Are you changing the subject? I thought we were talking about wife-beating and domestic violence? Where does "survival instincts" come into that? How have the women being battered threatened their husbands' survival instinct? I'm a living thing who know's he's not long for this world if he spends most of his time smelling the roses, so I understand reality quite well, and know when I'm supposed to defend myself and fight for my survival.

But beating a woman for "running her mouth", impaling my ego, or hurting my feelings is insanity to me. There's no reason why I should hit my wife, or anyone at all when she, or they haven't physically assaulted me, or made any such attempt.

Striking back in self-defence is not wife-beating in the real sense, so I wonder what that has got to do with this.

Your argument was that ALL men are potential animals who may beat their wives for flimsy reasons that have done nothing to threaten their "survival instinct", and the point of that post was to prove you wrong.

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by biggace(m): 6:50pm On Oct 21, 2017
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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by majekoam(m): 6:53pm On Oct 21, 2017
Prec1ous:


TRUCKLOAD OF RESPECT!!!!!!

I LEARNT TOO

THANK YOU

NO problem Bro. I was once the same and someone corrected me.
Its good where your mind is. Educate people. Its the only way we can all improve.

I wanted to ask one thing. Do you think there are ladies out there who see the signs of a woman beater before the relationship becomes serious but still continue?
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 6:54pm On Oct 21, 2017
Blackfyre:


I don't know about anyone else or you, but i strongly believe you can do same in relationships and marriage. As far as you are dutiful as a partner and you do all that to make her/him happy. I see no reason how emotions or attachment are needed to achieve these things.

Personally, i will be honest, i just came to this resolution so havent tried it out in any relationship yet. But i tried it out on a close fam, which is as close as any man can get and it's very useful, illuminating and stable and far more in control. Plus if you can do it to your fam, someone born of another woman should not be hard. undecided

I just love the way we have created a sub discussion.

I feel it will be hard to go emotionless in a relationship or marriage, will it not be best if it never materialize?
You need to love your partner na dget attached, right?

To me, this is the principle on which the recent wave of "babymamaism" and contract marriage is borne.

I will try this experiment of yours, i am only worried of the long term effect like a boring marriage and a sadistic spouse.

What do you think?
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Peachess(f): 6:57pm On Oct 21, 2017
ndubueze92:
I'm completely thrilled by the way you danced around your points, defending your stance.
Exchanging words with her, helps no one......
meeeee, am a core disciplinarian, some women these days have imbibed the western ways of treating kids as if they're adults...
I would really like to marry someone that would later use me an example "... he never raised his hands on me". I will adopt the walk away approach....
Buh sometimes you may walk away and walk into something that courts your attention
I'm not dancing around my point, I'd always defend what I stand for.
Good choice you made (walking away stuff)
Your children go too chop beat, you've not given birth to them yet and you're already planning how to beat them. Beating doesn't really change a child, spanking is enough. Then as they grow older talk to them. They'll respect better instead of fear.
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 7:00pm On Oct 21, 2017
ZandhaZaraZ:
Are you changing the subject? I thought we were talking about wife-beating and domestic violence? Where does "survival instincts" come into that? How have the women being battered threatened their husbands' survival instinct? I'm a living thing who know's he's not long for this world if he spends most of his time smelling the roses, so I understand reality quite well, and know when I'm supposed to defend myself and fight for my survival.

But beating a woman for "running her mouth", impaling my ego, or hurting my feelings is insanity to me. There's no reason why I should hit my wife, or anyone at all when she, or they haven't physically assaulted me, or made any such attempt.

Striking back in self-defence is not wife-beating in the real sense, so I wonder what that has got to do with this.

Your argument was that ALL men are potential animals who may beat their wives for flimsy reasons that have done nothing to threaten their "survival instinct", and the point of that post was to prove you wrong.

The post was not about wife beating in that sense, it was about correcting a common saying "real men do not beat their wife".
Read my disclaimer first, every man can beat a woman(romantic or not) and i highlighted your own reason why you will not do that.

all in all, i feel you have aired your view and their is no point flogging it.
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Nobody: 7:04pm On Oct 21, 2017
Prec1ous:


The post was not about wife beating in that sense, it was about correcting a common saying "real men do not beat their wife".
Read my disclaimer first, every man can beat a woman(romantic or not) and i highlighted your own reason why you will not do that.

all in all, i feel you have aired your view and their is no point flogging it.
Alright.
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 7:06pm On Oct 21, 2017
majekoam:


NO problem Bro. I was once the same and someone corrected me.
Its good where your mind is. Educate people. Its the only way we can all improve.

I wanted to ask one thing. Do you think there are ladies out there who see the signs of a woman beater before the relationship becomes serious but still continue?

Yes,

- When a man is trying to be overly controlling especially in situations where the lady knows what she is doing and want, i think that is a red flag but some of them call it love.

- Some mistake obsession and fanatism as attention and concern, it will backfire.

- Some ladies see how the man acts towards others and his quickness to anger but she feels she is safe, only a matter of time till he turns on her.

- Others stick because of money and material gains.

It is common, though some men really change for good, it is just a microsm.

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Nobody: 7:21pm On Oct 21, 2017
MhizzAJ:
A man that doesn't speak out when u offend him but bottles it up is a very dangerous man...I strongly agree

I see no reason why a man should hit a woman no matter what

Some men just lack self control..They should know when to walk away from situations that will bring out the beast in them...
Nonsense. Try rubbish with me and I'll beat you.
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by MichaelBlake40(m): 7:22pm On Oct 21, 2017
majekoam:
Prec1ous:

I wasn't going to read the text because of the generalization you made in the title but i thought for the sake of objectivity let me go on.
If all men are potential wife beaters then aren't all women potentially husband beaters? it just takes the right situation.

Firstly. I have personally had situations where some friends and I, both male and female were at a lounge and a female came to join us. We got to talking and for some reason she said I bet you are the kind of guy that can lay his hands on a woman. I am a broad guy (Sports player type), so maybe she assumed because of that that i would be a wife beater, fortunately i didnt have to defend myself. My female friends their were the ones who defended me...I didnt say a word. To top it all off she started to slap me on the head (Ridiculously ironic)/ whether playful or not I told her that I dont like it and she should stop but she kept on doing it. My female friends sat watching because they knew that i dont like it as we have discussed it before and I feel if a man shouldnt do it neither should women. Once again they came to my aid and told her to stop. Only then did she stop. So why did she continue to do so when i asked her openly to stop?....There are so many double standards so if you are going to write up something you should be thorough.

"There was also a post that reads like this:
A woman hitting a man isn't cute at all
I really don't support that

All am trying to say is that hitting a woman is unacceptable
Men are physically stronger than women..So men should learn to walk away"
"
Check the tone of the different paragraphs. The first paragraph (against women beaters) is a slap on the wrist ("I DONT REALLY SUPPORT THAT" ). The second against men is a total condemnation ("HITTING A WOMAN IS UNACCEPTABLE" ). They are both Unacceptable.


Secondly My Guy, If all men are potential wife beaters then there is no need for a classification system.

Thirdly:
"- A man who loves you too much to the point of obsession and jealousy will hit you, because he wants to correct you.". I personally disagree. He will hit you because he is possessive. He sees women as an object he owns. There is no correlation between violence and love. If you're thinking about the relationship between parents and children then it differs. That is discipline because the children might not be able to understand what the parent is trying to communicate with them.

To be fair you have written many good points. There are clearly major problems in society with domestic abuse but please dont generalize. Its better you say "Characteristics of men who may become potential wife beaters". Many women who may have had a negative experience or are naive may feel all men beat their women black and blue. That is not the case. You may affect someone's destiny....
Just my opinion.
I salute you bro

Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 7:23pm On Oct 21, 2017
Fyi0:

Nonsense. Try rubbish with me and I'll beat you.

Brother, why you Vex na?

No Vex again oh.
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by GOFRONT(m): 7:23pm On Oct 21, 2017
The kind Hotslap wen som Housewife and som Gf dey receive frm their husbands sometimes makes me shed tears....

Then i start to think to ma sef...is it how am gonna one day Slap ma future wife??, i mean is it a compulsory part of a marriage??
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Nobody: 7:25pm On Oct 21, 2017
coolh3ad:


"Any man who tells you that he will never raise his hands to touch you is a full blown liar. I do not have time for all the hypocrites and beta males that will flood this thread, deep down they know what i am saying is the fact!".

Mr Oga - I say that all the time and I mean it because it is a vow I made never to hit any woman. I grew up seeing my dad hit my mum like 5 times in a week. It was something I hated with a passion. I boiled with rage anytime it happened. So I made up my mind never to do that I would rather walk out on the lady.

My younger sister (the last born) still uses this against me anytime I use style tell am say "I will give you a dirty slap" out of annoyance. She will tell me jokingly " I know you can't hit me jor".

Don't even say I have not been "over tempted" or dared to do that. I have been pushed to the limit oo but If it's a lady, Bros - I walk away oooo.

I don't know of other guys o but for me oooo. I can't and I will never do that.....NEVER EVER......
You're a sissy

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 7:27pm On Oct 21, 2017
biggace:
grin grin

Brother, I think they can also adopt the husband as a baby, then nurture him till adulthood and marry him.

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Nobody: 7:29pm On Oct 21, 2017
Prec1ous:


I just love the way we have created a sub discussion.

I feel it will be hard to go emotionless in a relationship or marriage, will it not be best if it never materialize?
You need to love your partner na dget attached, right?

You need not marry her for love but for the qualities you looking for in a woman. Like you are looking for a suitable genes that will be competitive in today's world. If you look at it from that angle, it's not about love but breeding, at least that's how i look at it.

Speaking of, don't cheat on her, be a responsible man, husband and father. Consider her dreams, aspirations, concerns and fears. Basically make her feel secure, i don't see how you need to cut your heart out to achieve all these as far as she too knows what she is looking for and game for it.

To me, this is the principle on which the recent wave of "babymamaism" and contract marriage is borne.

Babymamaism doesn't connote a responsible man or woman, hence this doesn't apply. Contract marriage, well, a series of Q&A as well as her pasts should reveal what you may be facing up to.

I will try this experiment of yours, i am only worried of the long term effect like a boring marriage and a sadistic spouse.

What do you think?

Boring in what sense? Random trips to places, seeing a movie together, sex life? I still don't see how emotions or attachments are necessary to achieve these. Please point it out or create a scenario.

Sadistic spouse, same as above, plus courtship should give you an idea the sort of person you dealing with. It's like you will beating, cheating or abusive to her, why will she be sadistic after marriage? undecided


My point is, do not invest or create expectations as we are all humans no one is infallible. It's from this premise that emotional outbursts or irrationality can be expunged.

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Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by Prec1ous(m): 7:39pm On Oct 21, 2017
Blackfyre:


You need not marry her for love but for the qualities you looking for in a woman. Like you are looking for a suitable genes that will be competitive in today's world. If you look at it from that angle, it's not about love but breeding, at least that's how i look at it.

Speaking of, don't cheat on her, be a responsible man, husband and father. Consider her dreams, aspirations, concerns and fears. Basically make her feel secure, i don't see how you need to cut your heart out to achieve all these as far as she too knows what she is looking for and game for it.



Babymamaism doesn't connote a responsible man or woman, hence this doesn't apply. Contract marriage, well, a series of Q&A as well as her pasts should reveal what you may be facing up to.



Boring in what sense? Random trips to places, seeing a movie together, sex life? I still don't see how emotions or attachments are necessary to achieve these. Please point it out or create a scenario.

Sadistic spouse, same as above, plus courtship should give you an idea the sort of person you dealing with. It's like you will beating, cheating or abusive to her, why will she be sadistic after marriage? undecided


My point is, do not invest or create expectations as we are all humans no one is infallible. It's from this premise that emotional outbursts or irrationality can be expunged.

Damn, more wisdom, knowledge and understanding fall on you boss!

This is the kind of engagement and enlightenment that I crave.

Do you know that as simplistic as this comment is, you just cracked an age long Morse code?

In lay man terms, you are saying whatever the relationship, do not let emotion control you.

But my boss, we know guys can handle this "Blackfyre hypothesis", how can it survive from a female perspective where emotion is the strongest point?
Re: All Men Are Potential Wife Beaters - Ladies, Do Not Be Deceived Ever Again! by charlsecy(m): 7:47pm On Oct 21, 2017
MhizzAJ:
I see no reason why a man should hit a woman no matter what
Same as you shouldn't see any reason why a woman should hit a man no matter what.

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