Popular musician Timi Dakolo decided to air his view about divorce. To him people who get divorced do not have the slightest idea of what for better for worse meant in the first place.

See his instagram post below;


http://m.af1234.com/Af1234/details/timi-dakolo-condemns-divorce-says-marriage-is-not-for-the-incomplete

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Bro marriage no easy.... Its so unfortunate that I no fit get the requirements wey Reverend sister need I for don join them jor because I have tested and trusted something sweet

Timi oh Timi
You get sense ahswear!


I only support divorce on the case of domestic violence and infidelity. Every other one, na una get una sef biko, so choose wisely.

ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!!
its because people RESPECT marriage, and understand that they dont have what it takes to make it work, that they divorce. deluded/desperate people who decide to stay in marriage AT ALL COST, are most oftenly the ones who end up dead at the hand of their partner (either through violence or deadly diseases).

when so many are forced into marriage due to RELIGIOUS/SOCIAL/FAMILY pressure, no wonder they would divorce as soon as they get their senses back.

i hope this man Timi receive abundance of SENSES!

Say that to pastor Chris

Blackhawk03:
Timi oh Timi
You get sense ahswear!


I only support divorce on the case of domestic violence and infidelity. Every other one, na una get una sef biko, so choose wisely.

But he didn't make any sense. There are other justifications for divorce apart from infidelity and domestic violence. Every case of divorce should be judged purely on ITS ON MERITS.

It will always be IMPOSSIBLE to choose INFALLIBLY, no matter how careful or wise you may think you are. Because humans aren't entirely PREDICTABLE, somethings will always be BEYOND YOUR CONTROL.

That man is saying nonsense.

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!!
its because people RESPECT marriage, and understand that they dont have what it takes to make it work, that they divorce. deluded/desperate people who decide to stay in marriage AT ALL COST, are most oftenly the ones who end up dead at the hand of their partner (either through violence or deadly diseases).

when so many are forced into marriage due to RELIGIOUS/SOCIAL/FAMILY pressure, no wonder they would divorce as soon as they get their senses back.

i hope this man Timi receive abundance of SENSES!

He made a point on the part he said marriage is for two complete individuals. Just imagine the kind of society we live in that has subjected women to see marriage as accomplishment. The only thing the average Nigerian girl is thinking, is whom would put a ring on her finger instead of looking out for who they truly are and purpose in life. People with identity crisis picking spouses when they don't know themselves truly well.

Well, there are situations that "For better, or worse" should be overlooked.

ToVictoriaZ:
But he didn't make any sense. There are other justifications for divorce apart from infidelity and domestic violence. Every case of divorce should be judged purely on ITS ON MERITS.

It will always be IMPOSSIBLE to choose INFALLIBLY, no matter how careful or wise you may think you are. Because humans aren't entirely PREDICTABLE, somethings will always be BEYOND YOUR CONTROL.

That man is saying nonsense.

He made perfect sense, did you see where he said two complete individuals should be involved, people that understand what the institution called marriage is all about, people that know what it takes to make a vow. Have you seen the flimsy excuses people give for divorce?

Yeah, some things can get beyond your control but that is where the test of your vows come into play.

Blackhawk03:


He made perfect sense, did you see where he said two complete individuals should be involved, people that understand what the institution called marriage is all about, people that know what it takes to make a vow. Have you seen the flimsy excuses people give for divorce?

Yeah, some things can get beyond your control but that is where the test of your vows come into play.

I know there are people who give ridiculous excuses for divorce, that's why I said each case should be judged purely on its own merits.

By what criteria does a person determine that he and his partner are "complete"? Many people see people they love well enough, that possess the treasures they cherish, even though the person might have flaws they're already prepared to accept and put up with. You might think you've been careful enough, that you've been wise enough----that you have waited long enough and made enough observations to be absolutely convinced that you've made the right choice. But "choosing wisely" is not absolute. You still might have failed. You might have made the wrong judgement. Your partner might one day prove you wrong by doing something that would make your judgement and opinion about her - YOUR REASON FOR MARRYING HER, in the first place - pointless and invalid, showing you that you made the wrong choice.

So, like I said, no matter the precaution you take, no matter how carefully you make your choice, there's still the possibility of choosing wrongly, the consequences of which might warrant divorce, depending on WHAT IS MOST SACRED TO YOU, the kind of things you can never compromise. Your judgement can't be INFALLIBLE. People make mistakes, and they shouldn't be forced to live in hatred, bitterness and disgust, just to put up with what they hate, because some people expect them to have made their choice with absolute perfection.

Benita27:
He made a point on the part he said marriage is for two complete individuals. Just imagine the kind of society we live in that has subjected women to see marriage as accomplishment. The only thing the average Nigerian girl is thinking, is whom would put a ring on her finger instead of looking out for who they truly are and purpose in life. People with identity crisis picking spouses when they don't know themselves truly well.

Well, there are situations that "For better, or worse" should be overlooked.

marriage can only be for 2 individuals when both these individuals can think/act for themselves, but sadly in this day and age, there are still people who need the acceptance of their parents/pastor/friends/family before they can get hitched with their chosen one. THATS the reason why there are so many divorce in AFRICA, along with desperation, money and staus.

when mothers are brainwashing their daughter (from their childhood) about marriage being their only way out in life OR in order to get favours and finances through bride price, then no wonder so many deluded women are seeking to get married at all cost. Marriage is synonymous with Happiness in Africa, and thats why so many women want to get the MRS status, and flaunt it in everybody's face. so, many are desperately getting married to DONKEYS in order to get that Mrs status, and when they realise that they are in fact miserable rather than happy then pick race. same with men who want to have a family (since its the ultimate status) and pick any low down biatches/donkey around to marry, in order to have kids, and only after marriage realise that these have made a grave mistake and also pick a race. yet some deluded person will ask these confused women (and men) to stay married at all cost.... highly laughable!

Who's this one thats jes talking about marriage upandan as if he's the god of marriages??

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MrBrownJay1:


marriage can only be for 2 individuals when both these individuals can think/act for themselves, but sadly in this day and age, there are still people who need the acceptance of their parents/pastor/friends/family before they can get hitched with their chosen one. THATS the reason why there are so many divorce in AFRICA, along with desperation, money and staus.

when mothers are brainwashing their daughter (from their childhood) about marriage being their only way out in life OR in order to get favours and finances through bride price, then no wonder so many deluded women are seeking to get married at all cost. Marriage is synonymous with Happiness in Africa, and thats why so many women want to get the MRS status, and flaunt it in everybody's face. so, many are desperately getting married to DONKEYS in order to get that Mrs status, and when they realise that they are in fact miserable rather than happy then pick race. same with men who want to have a family (since its the ultimate status) and pick any low down biatches/donkey around to marry, in order to have kids, and only after marriage realise that these have made a grave mistake and also pick a race. yet some deluded person will ask these confused women (and men) to stay married at all cost.... highly laughable!

The exact point you just made is what he meant by "Two complete" individuals should get married with the hopes that this would reduce the rate of divorce but this person's comment counters his reason for saying that "Two complete" persons should get married.

ToVictoriaZ:
But he didn't make any sense. There are other justifications for divorce apart from infidelity and domestic violence. Every case of divorce should be judged purely on ITS ON MERITS.

It will always be IMPOSSIBLE to choose INFALLIBLY, no matter how careful or wise you may think you are. Because humans aren't entirely PREDICTABLE, somethings will always be BEYOND YOUR CONTROL.

That man is saying nonsense.

Humans are complicated being. You made a nice point, BTW.

ZandhaZaraZ:
I know there are people who give ridiculous excuses for divorce, that's why I said each case should be judged purely on its own merits.

By what criteria does a person determine that he and his partner are "complete "? Many people see people they love well enough, that possess the treasures they cherish, even though the person might have flaws they're already prepared to accept and put up with. You might think you've been careful enough, that you've been wise enough----that you have waited long enough and made enough observations to be absolutely convinced that you've made the right choice. But "choosing wisely" is not absolute. You still might have failed. You might have made the wrong judgement. Your partner might one day prove you wrong by doing something that would make your judgement and opinion about her - YOUR REASON FOR MARRYING HER, in the first place - pointless and invalid, showing you that you made the wrong choice.

So, like I said, no matter the precaution you take, no matter how carefully you make your choice, there's still the possibility of choosing wrongly, the consequences of which might warrant divorce, depending on WHAT IS MOST SACRED TO YOU, the kind of things you can never compromise. Your judgement can't be INFALLIBLE. People make mistakes, and they shouldn't be forced to live in hatred, bitterness and disgust, just to put up with what they hate, because some people expect them to have made their choice with absolute perfection.

You dey mind Timi?
He won't face his work, if 2 people say they want to have a divorce then let them do so, who made him judge and jury over their matter? Imagine him saying shallow and impatient generation. Such arrogance. Is he in the marriage with them? Does he know their struggles?


Nigerians sabi give people rules and regulations sha. Do this like this, do that like that, not minding if it's what works for you or not.
Nigerians also judge people a lot and find it extremely hard to mind their own business.

Daeylar:



You dey mind Timi?
He won't face his work, if 2 people say they want to have a divorce then let them do so, who made him judge and jury over their matter? Is he in the marriage with them? Does he know their struggles?

Hehehe. Here comes the final verdict.

ZandhaZaraZ:
Hehehe. Here comes the final verdict.

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Daeylar:

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Seen it. Their matter don tire me as well.