I met this girl last year and liked her the very first time I saw her, but we didn't talk until about four months later.
when our friendship began she was so used to using words like ''baby boy, darling, sweety etc''. this was very strange coz I've never been it, neither do I use it for people. But I later discovered that she uses it for people a lot.
the strangest one I experienced was when she said ''sorry darling, sorry dear'' to somebody we all know.

My very point is, shouldn't one be careful of how he/she uses such word?
can one be so free?
I most times frown at people using it for me, especially those who I know are into relationships or so.

IamKashyBaby:


Well, there is nothing wrong with it actually especially when this person is very used to it & besides she's ur friend..unless it came from a stranger, then that's very weird...

she's a close friend.
well, I'm not used to it. I actually don't like it coz it causes unnecessary bonding.
I only allowed hers continue coz I liked her and was in fact hoping for a relationship .....but it seems that's her style anyway

anochuko01:

she's a close friend.
well, I'm not used to it. I actually don't like it coz it causes unnecessary bonding.
I only allowed hers continue coz I liked her and was in fact hoping for a relationship .....but it seems that's her style anyway

If you aren't comfortable with it, you should say something to her to get her to stop. Different strokes for different folks. People use it to show affection, give comfort, force familiarity, or to soften the effect of a harsh sentence.

MissWrite:



If you aren't comfortable with it, you should say something to her to get her to stop. Different strokes for different folks. People use it to show affection, give comfort, force familiarity, or to soften the effect of a harsh sentence.

uhmmmn.
but what about saying ''I'm very sorry'' rather than ''sorry darling''.
my up bringing thought me to always consider the effect of such words on the other person, so I don't give a wrong impression or toil with emotions.

anochuko01:

uhmmmn.
but what about saying ''I'm very sorry'' rather than ''sorry darling''.
my up bringing thought me to always consider the effect of such words on the other person, so I don't give a wrong impression or toil with emotions.

Those terms of endearment have been grossly abused and for some people they're not as weighty as they seem to be for you. Just like your up-bringing has taught you to revere those words, some other people have been brought up hearing them every minute: "sweetie, please pass me the salt" as a stronger appeal than "please pass me the salt". The stereotypical Hollywood agent calls everyone "honey" or "darling" to force familiarity in the industry. You cannot expect people to adopt your view when they are already used to a way of life. The only thing you can get them to do is respect your own sensibilities. And since you're not used to flinging around terms of endearment as carelessly as some people, just tell them to respect your space.

MissWrite:



Those terms of endearment have been grossly abused and for some people they're not as weighty as they seem to be for you. Just like your up-bringing has taught you to revere those words, some other people have been brought up hearing them every minute: "sweetie, please pass me the salt" as a stronger appeal than "please pass me the salt". The stereotypical Hollywood agent calls everyone "honey" or "darling" to force familiarity in the industry. You cannot expect people to adopt your view when they are already used to a way of life. The only thing you can get them to do is respect your own sensibilities. And since you're not used to flinging around terms of endearment as carelessly as some people, just tell them to respect your space.

great reply.
It wouldn't have been my business if I had no feelings for her.
until there's something concrete between us, I'll have to deal with it.

I call all the girls on my contact 'sweetie' except for the too religious one who I address as 'dear'. It doesn't really mean anything to me.

You are smart... It is very wrong.
I actually make it a point to avoid such people.

It is used for psychological conditioning and behavioural remodelling.

I guess i will elaborate later.

writerights:
I call all the girls on my contact 'sweetie' except for the too religious one who I address as 'dear'. It doesn't really mean anything to me.

Exactly! I use those terms a lot on people I'm super friendly with even when there are no strings attached although I'm sensitive to the people I call it as not everyone can relate to it. But generally, I'm trying to tone it down a little as a few of my closest male friends told me that it tends to confuse, create false hope or unsettle the faint-hearted guys. So I don't use it as frequently as before.

MissJoy29:

Exactly! I use those terms a lot on people I'm super friendly with even when there are no strings attached although I'm sensitive to the people I call it as not everyone can relate to it. But generally, I'm trying to tone it down a little as a few of my closest male friends told me that it tends to confuse, create false hope or unsettle the faint-hearted guys. So I don't use it as frequently as before.

Similarly, some ladies see it as flirting with them especially if the friendship isn't well defined.

Prec1ous:
You are smart... It is very wrong. I actually make it a point to avoid such people.
It is used for psychological conditioning and behavioural remodelling.
I guess i will elaborate later.

?

MissWrite:



If you aren't comfortable with it, you should say something to her to get her to stop. Different strokes for different folks. People use it to show affection, give comfort, force familiarity, or to soften the effect of a harsh sentence.

Sweetie, I think you just found your MrWrite and his rib is still missing.

writerights:


Sweetie, I think you just found your MrWrite and his rib is still missing.

, Darling, are you referring to yourself, or is there someone, T, D & H, hiding behind you?


nice name. Do you write?

MissWrite:



, Darling, are you referring to yourself, or is there someone, T, D & H, hiding behind you?


nice name. Do you write?

Who else but my humble self dear? I'm wondering what becomes of your moniker as soon as we take our vows.

I do. Do you write too?

writerights:


Who else but my humble self dear? I'm wondering what becomes of your moniker as soon as we take our vows.

I do. Do you write too?

Yes, I write too.

I'll look you up in the literature section.

MissWrite:



"Humble", you say.......does that apply to your background as well? Sweetheart, since you mention taking vows I should better inform you that my tastes are far from humble. In fact, I hate all thing humble, humble pie and humblebees; you should consider that before you decide to drop to your knees. (something like that )

Yes, I write too. ^^^tried to show you.

I'll look you up in the literature section.

"Humility" would be the most appropriate word to describe me when family and friends crave to know after whose heart you've dived so deep in love. Allow me into your paradise while I hand you the keys to El Dorado, still being my humble self. And that would be, only if you let our love grow.

I seldom visit the literature section buh since my missing rib has been found to be there looking me up, I'd just be a regular visitor.

writerights:


Similarly, some ladies see it as flirting with them especially if the friendship isn't well defined.

True

MissJoy29:

Exactly! I use those terms a lot on people I'm super friendly with even when there are no strings attached although I'm sensitive to the people I call it as not everyone can relate to it. But generally, I'm trying to tone it down a little as a few of my closest male friends told me that it tends to confuse, create false hope or unsettle the faint-hearted guys. So I don't use it as frequently as before.

that's my point exactly.
except for some friendships where the terms are CLEARLY STATED

writerights:


"Humility" would be the most appropriate word to describe me when family and friends crave to know after whose heart you've dived so deep in love. Allow me into your paradise while I hand you the keys to El Dorado, still being my humble self. And that would be, only if you let our love grow.

I seldom visit the literature section buh since my missing rib has been found to be there looking me up, I'd just be a regular visitor.

MissWrite:




Yes, I write too.

I'll look you up in the literature section.

writerights:


"Humility" would be the most appropriate word to describe me when family and friends crave to know after whose heart you've dived so deep in love. Allow me into your paradise while I hand you the keys to El Dorado, still being my humble self. And that would be, only if you let our love grow.

I seldom visit the literature section buh since my missing rib has been found to be there looking me up, I'd just be a regular visitor.

I think I'll be entitled to the bride price

anochuko01:

that's my point exactly.
except for some friendships where the terms are CLEARLY STATED

Yeah...I get you.

anochuko01:

great reply.
It wouldn't have been my business if I had no feelings for her.
until there's something concrete between us, I'll have to deal with it.

So you knew you would actually end up having to deal with it...

And you are here disturbing some peoples peace?

danchuzzy:

So you knew you would actually end up having to deal with it...
And you are here disturbing some peoples peace?

goan sleep joor