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Did I Reply In The Right Way? by deemayjee: 10:41pm On Mar 28, 2010 |
[b]My girlfriend told me that her ex invited her for his wedding in May. I know this issue has be trashed out (being invited to an ex's wedding), but i want to know it from the significant other's view. When she told me that and asked me whether she should go or not, all i simply said was "if u feel it is right, u can go, but if u feel it is not right, don't go". i didn't mean to impose her onto anything as the decision is hers, but she told me my statement is really "pregnant" with meaning (what she meant by that was i was indirectly telling her to use her senses to decide whether to go or not, which i wasn't) and that she would not go, cos she doesn't want a situation whereby something like this will occur in the future and i would refer to this issue (my girl is the very jealous type and though she doesn't show it, i know she's not really happy when i talk to my ex, which is not often). this is a guy she told me left her in her dire time of need, when she was in a critical life-threatening situation in the past, and who left her to tend her wounds alone. she had vowed not to date anyother man again in her life b4 i met her. it even took me so much of my time and patience b4 she even agreed for me to take her out on a date. afterwards the guy came running back to her, pleading for her to give him another chance, even calling and talking to her mum to plead with her daughter on his behalf. he later said that he was getting married to his present gf because he was getting older and that forever in his life, he will know he has lost a precious gem. did i reply her right?[/b] |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by Pweety4me(f): 10:53pm On Mar 28, 2010 |
Your girlfriend. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by deemayjee: 11:01pm On Mar 28, 2010 |
Pweety4me: |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by Pweety4me(f): 11:09pm On Mar 28, 2010 |
She's ur gf so dat's an ok response. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by benz190: 11:12pm On Mar 28, 2010 |
poster carry on wif the babe, nothing do her but shes jst Jealous she aint getting married b4 dat stupid ex~ |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by daduke2k(m): 11:16pm On Mar 28, 2010 |
Yes u did. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by eridah2007(m): 12:08am On Mar 29, 2010 |
@poster Yes man,U No get p0blem All is well. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by mamagee3(f): 12:12am On Mar 29, 2010 |
I see nothing bad in the way you responded. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by fubiluv: 10:13am On Mar 29, 2010 |
yea,you are not surrposed to give her a definite answer. Cos if you do that, she might use it against you someday. You gave her options,so she should fill in the blanck spaces. That waz a good answer. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 11:11am On Mar 29, 2010 |
no, that's a wrong answer bcoz i would like my bf 2 tell what 2 do in these circumstances-- as 4 d exbf of ur gf i feel resentment in ur words meanin u wouldn't want her 2 go 2 d wedding-- but the answer u gave her means that u wouldn't like if she goes but u won't oppose 2 her-- and that when she comes back u will be mad at her.--- this is what i read in ur answer-- so think abt it. if u really were'nt borderd abt her going u would have just given a straight answer. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by blackmann(m): 4:48pm On Mar 29, 2010 |
3ndy: Sweetheart, knowing what u ladies are capable of doing, i feel he said the right thing. U Ladies are a complex set creatures and no answer seems to be the right answer, neither yes nor no. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by damnyke(f): 5:03pm On Mar 29, 2010 |
Yes, you gave her the right answer. But it is better for both of you to avoid any unneccessary involvement with your exs. It's not worth the stress. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by na2day2(m): 5:14pm On Mar 29, 2010 |
deemayjee: what more do u want to say, if u step out of the boundaries of what u have already said u will land urself in hot water, so u are good. the decision is hers and she should learn to accept it like that, that is what adults do. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by omega25red(m): 5:17pm On Mar 29, 2010 |
i say that was the right answer you gave her. Maybe she doesn't want to go but needs someone to blame it on when her ex asks which means she might have wanted you to say no. by the way why is she still chatting with an ex who left her in her time of need? |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by agathamari(f): 10:52am On Mar 30, 2010 |
personally i don't believe it is proper to be friends with an ex. she shouldn't be going to his wedding especially not with you being present |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by earlalright(m): 12:55pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
for me, you answered well. www.myspace.com/naijapassion |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 3:46pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
blackmann:this is just the right answer for a blackman, wot do u mean saying?? we are a complex set ok-- no poundin abt that-- but when it comes to relationship we are much more easy to read than it seems-- if his gf was really sure that what she'd had done would'nt create probs for her bf she wouldn't have asked and just say she was going, full mark and stop. but she asked and that meandìs she feels insecure abt he's response-- so i see no reason why he should answer that crap as in "do what you feel like" if i were his gf i would reply "ok i feel (doing) the dj of the wedding is it ok??" nonsense |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by blackmann(m): 3:48pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
why u come dey vex like this? |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by iice(f): 3:51pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
You answered right, just not complete. Women tend to be irrational and like to have validation. She wanted you to make the decision for her roll eyez. If you couldn't make the decision, she wanted you to make it clear that you will not hold it against her if something happens in the future - validation. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 3:52pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
blackmann:y wont i?? the way u describes us seems we're a unique species that comes from the outerspace and always negate happiness 2 men |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by blackmann(m): 3:57pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
3ndy: U inferred the negate happiness part but i never implied that. what i meant is that u ladies are sometimes difficult to understand. No vex ok? Oya give me a hug? U are unique creatures by the way. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 4:01pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
blackmann:i'll just quote u some words "the answer seems never to be the right one" that implies everything on earth my dear brother, anyway, ***shifts a lil bit closer and widen arms** here's ur hug and if it's not enough i'll also add 2 pecks 2 the cheeks |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by blackmann(m): 4:07pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
Well u are a lady so am really not suprised the way u replied. **takes 3ndy in my arms and on her cheeks, on forehead** |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 4:13pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
blackmann:** shifts 2 steps away cleaning herself with a towel** abeg my brother no baf me with ur saliva, i don already shower this mornin', |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by blackmann(m): 4:14pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
haba now, because i dey return ur 2 pecks? which kain dishi be this sef? |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 4:17pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
blackmann:no be because of the peck, na because u get to much spit in ur mouth--- ** still cleanin her self and squeezin' a part of her dress** i fit double the sea level with all this spit |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by blackmann(m): 4:23pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
u see why i said no answer seems to be the right answer to u ladies? i try make amends, now u come dey talk say my mouth dey drool like dog own. which guy will peck a lady on the cheeks and drench her in saliva? what can a man do to please a lady sef? |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 4:27pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
blackmann:i say u do bad thing amendin with a peack?? i no say u drench me with saliva i only say u baf me from head 2 toe, well there are a lot of things a man could do 2 pls ladies and that implies being a man as for starters |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by blackmann(m): 4:33pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
3ndy: U see what i mean now? and ur definition of being a man is. . . . .what? |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 4:35pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
blackmann:u don't need me 2 tell u hw 2 be a man i guess |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by blackmann(m): 4:37pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
3ndy: No i have to ask cos ur definition of being a man may be totally different from yours. |
Re: Did I Reply In The Right Way? by 3ndy(f): 4:42pm On Mar 30, 2010 |
blackmann:have no ideas abt wot u're talking abt |
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