[i][/i]Here is my confusion, our journey of marriage started about 5years ago just 2years after I graduated. When I came across her she had no job but we eked out things with my little earning. A year after our wedding she secured a job in one of the federal government agency. But despite that she was submissive because I earned more than her and I shoulder most the responsibilities, fast forward to last year, she was promoted and her pay was increased with 50k, now our salaries are now equal. Consequent on this she started telling me even without me she can live that afterall she has the wherewithal to take care of herself. The most annoying part is that she started denying me the intimacy that she doesn't even need a man and that I should go and fornicate and ask God for forgiveness. Why I am confused now is that I am not used to that kind of life but now I am considering alternative solution. Please, nairalander, I need your candid advice.

Hmmm

Women of nowadays simply view marriage as business. How many rich women are married? Even the married ones don't respect their hubbys. When you see them calling you sweat names, showing respect and other good things, na you dey foot the bill be dat, otherwise, to hell with you. Have you not heard some ladies saying Linda Ikeji doesn't need to marry because she is already successful? Abeg, most of them are fake.

Prayerfully make her understand that with or without money you are still the head.

Cut am slap next time she run her mouth

The way I dey fear to marry ehhh.. God EPP me oo

bigtt76:
Cut am slap next time she run her mouth

be showing ur colors ooooo

Take her to yaba left , something is wrong with her brain . It needs proper overhauling that requires use of petroleum product.

pussybanger:
[i][/i]Here is my confusion, our journey of marriage started about 5years ago just 2years after I graduated. When I came across her she had no job but we eked out things with my little earning. A year after our wedding she secured a job in one of the federal government agency. But despite that she was submissive because I earned more than her and I shoulder most the responsibilities, fast forward to last year, she was promoted and her pay was increased with 50k, now our salaries are now equal. Consequent on this she started telling me even without me she can live that afterall she has the wherewithal to take care of herself. The most annoying part is that she started denying me the intimacy that she doesn't even need a man and that I should go and fornicate and ask God for forgiveness. Why I am confused now is that I am not used to that kind of life but now I am considering alternative solution. Please, nairalander, I need your candid advice.

take it or live it, she has some people outside giving her sex, may be they satisfy her more than the way you do. even a woman of sixty seventy years dey sex, though little among them don't like sex (2 out of 100) but they would never and ever tell you they don't want sex.

my advice, let her realise that she can no longer stay under your roof without sex, call the attention of her family to it, and get married to another wife chaperly , Chase her away from your custody.

once again she is trying to deceive you that she is loyal to u.

It sounds like a nolly wod movie bt we re living in a crazy world where all things are possible, thats d reason i wont believe or disbelieve ur story

Hmmmm.....Wat do u expect from us? To advise u go Bleep anoda girl outside?

pussybanger:
[i][/i]Here is my confusion, our journey of marriage started about 5years ago just 2years after I graduated. When I came across her she had no job but we eked out things with my little earning. A year after our wedding she secured a job in one of the federal government agency. But despite that she was submissive because I earned more than her and I shoulder most the responsibilities, fast forward to last year, she was promoted and her pay was increased with 50k, now our salaries are now equal. Consequent on this she started telling me even without me she can live that afterall she has the wherewithal to take care of herself. The most annoying part is that she started denying me the intimacy that she doesn't even need a man and that I should go and fornicate and ask God for forgiveness. Why I am confused now is that I am not used to that kind of life but now I am considering alternative solution. Please, nairalander, I need your candid advice.

You Posted a comment in a thread that your gal is loyal. Your moniker will not help with sincere comments from us

Divorce is not an option. . . but don't become the guilty one if it should come.

If I were u walai its over between me and d gal. I swear. U don't need som1 like that in ur life. She dosnt even care about u, saying u can go and comit adultery. Wait till she starts earning more and OK with the number of children she has and she will leave ur sorry ass. I don't even know why u are asking for advice, Can u actually endure shits like that

Why would she do that?
Not good enough.
Sorry!

My brother, once a woman start earning more than you, your life will short by 10yrs. Person no go hear word if she does any contribution in the house.

Single promotion with 50k increment in an FG job? Iffa aslap you eeh, your lying Mohammeded brain will reformat.

Jochabed:
Prayerfully make her understand that with or without money you are still the head.

when i read it i concluded u are CAC,deeper life or mfm...But please try to think from a wider point of view...I know u are smart and mean well but that your conclusion is shabby because money is like salt is to soup in unions.

CaptainJeffry:
Single promotion with 50k increment in an FG job? Iffa aslap you eeh, your lying Mohammeded brain will reformat.

Can you research and have first hand information on salary increase from level 7 to 8 in federal civil job especially security.

Livefreeordieha:
when i read it i concluded u are CAC,deeper life or mfm...But please try to think from a wider point of view...I know u are smart and mean well but that your conclusion is shabby because money is like salt is to soup in unions.

ok.

bros yo wife has been sleeping around even b4 d salary increment, the only difference is that she's bold to tell u sh!t right now....as for the advice I'd say u ditch her ASAP because she a cheating wife. but u know her more than i do anyway.

My brother, another man is in d picture. That respect she refuses to give u is being given to another man on a platter of gold. u need to do some investigation though

This is why we advocate that a man's only value to a woman should not be his wallet. Too many Nigerian men think that they don't need to develop a personality, domestic skills or offer anything else but finances in a relationship. Women are becoming increasingly financially independent, how do you intend to stay relevant if you do not take yourself seriously as a human being who's capable of giving her a partner in life? Someone who is present and capable in daily routine. Someone whose presence makes things easier and more enjoyable; and not more complicated. Men can be liabilities as well. If he's not helping out at home, all she sees is one grown baby she has to cook for, clean after and fvck while she's tired (and God help him if he doesn't even do it right). Things have changed and men need to restructure themselves and redefine their value to women and the home in general. Be useful in more ways than one. To wife and the kids.

If you are lucky to find yourself a woman who is bent on hanging on to the old ways, be sure that she is not just using you as a safety net in case she fails at the ambitions she secretly nurtures.

I sympathize with you, Op. But seems like you got off on the wrong foot here. If she's pushing you away like this, then she might not have much use for you after all. It's either that, or she's filled with a sudden air of self importance and just wants to rub your inadequacy in your face. you have two options: develop yourself to fill a niche in her life or leave. Talk it out with her. If she knows what you are seriously considering, she would re-evaluate her needs, but the outcome might still be the same.

she don get new husband be that nao....money with women Na 5&6