MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR SMALL BOYS! !!!!!!
I used to interpret the saying "Marriage is not for small boys" to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years.

I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage?
Beaming, she retorted; My son, the expectations you bring into marriage will either spell its doom or success. I married my husband without expectations of enjoying his money or buying cars for me, but with time, my patience, hard work and God-fearing attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses, taking care of our children and all that.

You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.

So, I married without high expectations from my husband but simply to make him happy always.

Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first to get up from bed and the last to go back to bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them, prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot water for him to bath. I iron his clothes he would take to work, kiss him and wish him the best in his daily endeavours.

I asked my old woman, so then what does the man do in return? She laughed all heart and hearty and replied; You see, this is the mistake you young ones make in marriage.
YOU DO SOMETHING FOR YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE AND EXPECT SAME REWARD FROM HIM OR HER, THIS IS WRONG!

When it becomes your attitude to only please your husband or wife always, the other person responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn't rattle.

She continued, my son, never carry "how rich or poor your family is" into marriage. After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman.

Love only compels/leads would-be couples into marriage but it doesn't sustain marriage. Rather, understanding, patience, communication and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage. High expectations are the symptoms of divorce in marriages.

Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a mother, a business partner, God fearing person etc. You cannot get all your expectations in one person. With time and depending on your relationship, you may get some. So minimise your expectations in marriage.

To cut the long story short, as too many cooks spoil the broth, she concluded on the mistakes a couple should resist at all cost in marriage:

1) Never say you have made your wife or husband somebody from a nobody. It hurts. God only used you as an agent for transformation, give the glory to God.

2) Let the man be head of the home no matter the financial, economic, physical and emotional health situation prevailing in the couple's life whilst the woman exercises diligence in the use of the tongue.

3) Having children should not be the ultimate objective in marriage. They are given to enhance your marriage. When God delays in giving you a child, have every reason to live a happy marital life.

4) Sex is a major morale booster after a hard day's stressful life. Try to be sexual beings and not "Angels" in that marriage

5) Resort to God often and less to men to solve your marital disputes.

6) Let the women " Make up" their characters much more than they make up their body.

Indeed, marriage is not for small boys because small boys struggle to forgive, demand everything speedily, lack the patience to wait, have so many friends etc.

Make every effort to let that marriage work and may God help us.

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Written by @Isaac Owolabi #IsaacoMedia

Nice reading!!!

this is what I call Oro Agba.....that's what most of our women will say whenever they have any disagreement with their husband.....if not for me the won't be here...or I suffered with him so much, or I did a lot in his life .....this kinds of words does not go well with men...na some women mouth dey pursue them for them husbands' house....

cant wait to get married

This is awesome. Very insightful.

DrinkLimca:
I'm scared of marriage.. can i ever settle down? Its still unclear..

You na sEer now u go done see am by now

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Beautiful

Emeraldgist1:
cant wait to get married

ok, let's get married tomorrow

Emeraldgist1:
cant wait to get married

And you can't find it on nairaland

IamKashyBaby:


So now there's a concoction for LONGER MARRIAGE LIFE eeehn..

True that life had no defined template, but an understanding of what is required to navigate through is what matters. In our individuality, one needs to find out what works for them and their home, and they should always strive to be better than how they were yesterday

Emeraldgist1:
cant wait to get married

that's great....am ready, are you?? remember the op's words o.

TheKINGSLAYER:

that's great....am ready, are you?? remember the op's words o.

i never ready still young o

free2ryhme:

And you can't find it on nairaland

i can find on nairaland ,some did

Gofwane:
ok, let's get married tomorrow

Gofwane:
ok, let's get married tomorrow

tomorrow is too fast joor

Emeraldgist1:










tomorrow is too fast joor

time waits for no one. All that matters is the luv we have for each other.

Gofwane:
time waits for no one. All that matters is the luv we have for each other.

love ke!..which kind love be dat??

Gofwane:
time waits for no one. All that matters is the luv we have for each other.

love ke!..which kind love be dat??

Emeraldgist1:




love ke!..which kind love be dat??



love ke!..which kind love be dat??

the one we shared even before coming to earth. We were so in love

Gofwane:
the one we shared even before coming to earth. We were so in love

eehhh u and who uncle?.....

Emeraldgist1:





eehhh u and who uncle?.....

uncle?

So you are now calling me uncle? When you were busy chopping my money you didn't know i was your uncle. Abi?

Gofwane:
uncle?

So you are now calling me uncle? When you were busy chopping my money you didn't know i was your uncle. Abi?

ah which kind uncle sef be dz......which money i chop?ehn
uncle go and sleep

Interesting

Emeraldgist1:




ah which kind uncle sef be dz......which money i chop?ehn
uncle go and sleep

ok let's go to the other room and sleep together.

Gofwane:
ok let's go to the other room and sleep together.

ehn??...me i dont know d other room o

Emeraldgist1:



ehn??...me i dont know d other room o

don't worry just follow me i will take you there

Gofwane:
don't worry just follow me i will take you there

i dont follow someone to a place i dont knw

Emeraldgist1:



ah which kind uncle sef be dz......which money i chop?ehn uncle go and sleep

You know he is teasing you.
Boring girl

I will marry Evaberry next month, come and beat me

TheManofTomorrow:
You know he is teasing you.

Boring girl

ah lively uncle u must be .....

TheManofTomorrow:
You know he is teasing you.

Boring girl

ah lively uncle u must be .....

Emeraldgist1:



i dont follow someone to a place i dont knw

you seem like a lady still in her teens. How old are you?

Gofwane:
you seem like a lady still in her teens. How old are you?

#smile#.....and who told u am a teen...nt a teen o

Gofwane:
you seem like a lady still in her teens. How old are you?

#smile#.....and who told u am a teen...nt a teen o