Etinoh:

Guy change d topic.bcus a mare look at it girls won't even read it.though d question are ginue but d topic discurage reader.

Tatase:

I agree!! I was afraid to open it because I know the romance section on NL is the home of the strange and psychotic, but i didn't think it had sunk so low. Suffice to say, I'm glad it hasn't.

@ topic,

I think this is a good question, because there's little I dislike more than over familiarity. I don't think the "period" is necessarily a function of time in days or weeks or whatever. You can ask someone out after talking to them for a whole night or something, if you had that sort of connection.

It's not necessarily how long you've known the person, but how deep or how intense or how comfortable your convo has gotten. If you're flowing with someone in a romantic way, I think you instinctively know. Like if you can talk to them and there are no awkward pauses and there's not a lot of um-ing and you've gotten to that comfort level with them where you can talk freely and be yourself completely without being stilted or feeling like you have to be on your best behavior or something. . . at that point, you know you're "familiar enough to ask them out.

I think a lot of guys compliment a girl once or twice, get her number, call her everyday for a week just to say hello and nothing else of any significance, and then think they're now familiar enough to ask her to be their gf. It's like based on what? You don't really know anything about her and she knows nothing about you except that you call after midnight and say nothing really and then tell her to greet her mom who you don't even know.

y me:

the moment i get used to you
might be days, weeks or months

Tatase:

I agree!! I was afraid to open it because I know the romance section on NL is the home of the strange and psychotic, but i didn't think it had sunk so low. Suffice to say, I'm glad it hasn't.

@ topic,

I think this is a good question, because there's little I dislike more than over familiarity. I don't think the "period" is necessarily a function of time in days or weeks or whatever. You can ask someone out after talking to them for a whole night or something, if you had that sort of connection.

It's not necessarily how long you've known the person, but how deep or how intense or how comfortable your convo has gotten. If you're flowing with someone in a romantic way, I think you instinctively know. Like if you can talk to them and there are no awkward pauses and there's not a lot of um-ing and you've gotten to that comfort level with them where you can talk freely and be yourself completely without being stilted or feeling like you have to be on your best behavior or something. . . at that point, you know you're "familiar enough to ask them out.

I think a lot of guys compliment a girl once or twice, get her number, call her everyday for a week just to say hello and nothing else of any significance, and then think they're now familiar enough to ask her to be their gf. It's like based on what? You don't really know anything about her and she knows nothing about you except that you call after midnight and say nothing really and then tell her to greet her mom who you don't even know.

eina:

@tatase. Well, it depends on the girl cos I know that even after the all night non-stop talk, not every girl will agree that soon. Thats why am asking each lady to state her own time.

@madlady. How often will you see the guy to make three months your ideal period to study the guy?

eina:

@tatase. Well, it depends on the girl cos I know that even after the all night non-stop talk, not every girl will agree that soon. Thats why am asking each lady to state her own time.

@madlady. How often will you see the guy to make three months your ideal period to study the guy?

Tatase:

Hmmm. . . what's the average guy?!?   It's hard to give an estimate because someone might be perfectly nice and a good communicator but you guys just don't click somehow.

E.g. I've met people who we're so in tune that within minutes we're finishing each other's sentences and laughing at the same things without even articulating them, but then on the other hand I've met other people who are nice but we'll never be deeper than maybe friendly acquaintances because we don't "get" each other- we don't share the same humour, ideas of life, way of thinking etc.

So in the latter case, the estimate would be never, because no matter how much we spoke, nothing meaningful would ever be said, it would be likely mostly superficial chit-chat, not much real talk, and so in such a situation it would not be appropriate to ask the girl out, because the connection isn't there.

However, let's say the connection is there, and you have the flirty-flirt going on, and you've kind of hinted at your interest and the girl seems receptive, I'd give it at least a couple of weeks of steady/meaningful communication before making it official, even if the connection is such that you kind of know where it's leading from the first day.