Amakavula:
So I was up with all night with my Sister in Norway. She has always said she can't marry a Nigerian man as most are still struggling or too below par financially, not romantic enough and too stuck up on the gender authority issue ; something which she can't deal with. Her man is non of that.

Before you all scream what does she offer, she is a doctor ( sorry I can't remember, it is a special kind, something to do with unborn children dieases and treatment ) but she was lucky to get a placement in Norway and met a fellow doctor too, a fellow from Prague, who is also live in Bergen, Norway.

After speaking with her and her man last night, I want something like her has too. Some willing to concede power in a relationship, and to share.

Haven recently left a crappy relationship with a Nigerian man who I ask to be a little forth coming with his intentions toward me , although he is underemployed I never mind but his lack of care and aggression as anything perceived as a challenge to his manliness. So I dumped him.

But the question is are we ladies demanding too much from you men or you can't just accept ladies as equals?

BenShammer:
Your question is unclear. If you're asking if women have equal say in a relationship, the answer is yes. That's why you discuss things as a couple as opposed to the man making decrees. The truth is poverty and wealth are subjective. In a global sense, majority of Nigerians are poor, when you consider how much would be required to go abroad on vacation, buy a nice car etc. Personally I believe in determining a persons financial status by the purchasing power of the currency he's earning in. In Nigeria you can cook a pot of stew with 1k, convert that to pounds and you'd probably only be able to buy a few mushrooms. Majority of Nigerians are average, if you or your sister can't settle for average that's fine, but we're average because of the economic situation, not because we're lazy or anything.

The ego thing is something that can be worked on. You may not have meant any harm, but he was probably struggling to earn a living and you making snide remarks about his finances would make the average guy a bit snippy.

Amakavula:
So I was up with all night with my Sister in Norway. She has always said she can't marry a Nigerian man as most are still struggling or too below par financially, not romantic enough and too stuck up on the gender authority issue ; something which she can't deal with. Her man is non of that.

Before you all scream what does she offer, she is a doctor ( sorry I can't remember, it is a special kind, something to do with unborn children dieases and treatment ) but she was lucky to get a placement in Norway and met a fellow doctor too, a fellow from Prague, who is also live in Bergen, Norway.

After speaking with her and her man last night, I want something like her has too. Some willing to concede power in a relationship, and to share.

Haven recently left a crappy relationship with a Nigerian man who I ask to be a little forth coming with his intentions toward me , although he is underemployed I never mind but his lack of care and aggression as anything perceived as a challenge to his manliness. So I dumped him.

But the question is are we ladies demanding too much from you men or you can't just accept ladies as equals?

greatnaija01:
MONEY IS NOT STANDARD.......... Its not even CLASS..... many of you ladies are looking for READY MADE when your contents(character) are not MADE READY...... money without character makes marriage a RICH HELL

MIKOLOWISKA:

We are poor because we're lazy guy
Don't beat about the bush