JERRY1925:


u are right.. if she had her opportunity too.. she might not even feel for me.

Exactly

JERRY1925:


can u giv me a clue?
cos i really have no idea what u mean.
its been four years since i last taste what a relationship is all about ..its been a while for me, just started this,
and i really nver expect anything. i tell any girl am with.. hey, meet all men u want to meet, hang out with who ever u want to.. but don't have sex, and if u do always tell me.. that's my rule.. so am really not expecting her to prove anything.. or maybe am not sensible enough to notice.
i just know she promised nevr to cheat..and i think she's true to it.. so i really don't know how to go about her proving her trust.

Don't take words too seriously, if you must move to the next level of your relationship, you must get passed the level of not wanting to make her sad or feeling you owe her your promise instead get to the level where you feel this is the person that has respect, regard and cherish your heart so much that she is ready to go through tough path with you and help you by telling you the truth about how she sees you etc.
All I am saying is that your relationship should get to that extent that you don't have double thought when something goes wrong. e.g
If someone told you he saw your girl cheating. what is your thought before you witness it yourself?

And as for you, if you must thread this path be ready for future challenges like if
-someone brings up the issues of your girlfriend past.
-if the past would oneday come back to affect the future e.g child bearing, psychologically(someone brings a related topic)
-A change of attitude from time to time.

If you don't feel you want all this and still stay then you are Not a MAN for not saying NO but if you do so, you save her time to move on with her live and get over any emotional pain she will go through.

But If you are ready then thread on it like a Warrior. As far as she loves you and you love her.You trust her and she trust you.Nothing else matter much.

As for me I would advise that YOU SHOULD NOT LET ANYONE MAKE THIS DECISION FOR YOU. IT IS YOUR MANLY RESPONSIBILITY but don't be hasty with this DECISION and don't feel you have to be perfect with it.
In all your doing please seek GOD'S WISDOM.

stanliwise:

Don't take words too seriously, if you must move to the next level of your relationship, you must get passed the level of not wanting to make her sad or feeling you owe her your promise instead get to the level where you feel this is the person that has respect, regard and cherish your heart so much that she is ready to go through tough path with you and help you by telling you the truth about how she sees you etc.
All I am saying is that your relationship should get to that extent that you don't have double thought when something goes wrong. e.g
If someone told you he saw your girl cheating. what is your thought before you witness it yourself?

And as for you, if you must thread this path be ready for future challenges like if
-someone brings up the issues of your girlfriend past.
-if the past would oneday come back to affect the future e.g child bearing, psychologically(someone brings a related topic)
-A change of attitude from time to time.

If you don't feel you want all this and still stay then you are Not a MAN for not saying NO but if you do so, you save her time to move on with her live and get over any emotional pain she will go through.

But If you are ready then thread on it like a Warrior. As far as she loves you and you love her.You trust her and she trust you.Nothing else matter much.

As for me I would advise that YOU SHOULD NOT LET ANYONE MAKE THIS DECISION FOR YOU. IT IS YOUR MANLY RESPONSIBILITY but don't be hasty with this DECISION and don't feel you have to be perfect with it.
In all your doing please seek GOD'S WISDOM.

the fact about me is, i really don't care.. i guess i don't even know what I want.. but on like 4year ago wen i was last in a relationship i care a lot about thing's back then.. but these days.. all i do is Observe.. people...I'll try to fight all i feel.. and see if i can.

JERRY1925:


the fact about me is, i really don't care.. i guess i don't even know what I want.. but on like 4year ago wen i was last in a relationship i care a lot about thing's back then.. but these days.. all i do is Observe.. people...I'll try to fight all i feel.. and see if i can.

BTW hope you don't go round telling people about your girlfriend past even brothers and very close friends. Don't do this except on Exceptionally rare cases(e.g Doctor,trusted guidance or when life is involved). It would come back to haunt someday. farewell

stanliwise:
BTW hope you don't go round telling people about your girlfriend past even brothers and very close friends. Don't do this except on Exceptionally rare cases(e.g Doctor,trusted guidance or when life is involved). It would come back to haunt someday. farewell

yea, reason it kills me Somtimes, because i cant talk to anyone about it.. it's just something i have to protect.

JERRY1925:


yea, reason it kills me Somtimes, because i cant talk to anyone about it.. it's just something i have to protect.

Talk to a trusted guidance.

some people like living a private life by not making friends in their own church so that no one will know their ways, person like me a lot of them want to venture into my life but I still keep it private by avoiding them. but no body holy pass o. however you can get it from other churches anyway is allowed.

GloriaNinja:
MOST CHURCH GOERS ARE HYPOCRITES.

SURE

abiolamitodun:

sincerely speaking... work in an hotel ull see their secrets most especially the winners goers

Lol

bamisepeters:
Unlike some selected men who believes they can get their better-half in the house of God, many other men don't look towards that direction due to one or more of the reasons below:

1. Fear of being monitored:

Many men don't like the fact that they are being monitored by a lady. They know that once you are attached with one lady in a particular area she will want herself to dominate everything that revolves around the man.

Even if the lady doesn't care about who the man moves or play with, he himself will want to thread with caution as he will not want to awaken the hanger of the lady he is in relationship with since things we don't even count to be anything may mean a lot to one's partner if not properly checkmated.

2. Pretense among brethren:

As we know that religious can make so many people look innocent, hence, to some men, it is dangerous to choose a wife from the church as you can not know the true character of anyone in the church.

Many takes the house of God as shield, so many things might have been hidden which will need serious familiarity before it can be unraveled.

Also, you cannot know the true attitude of the women till familiarity sets in which some churches might not even allow. You are seeing someone everyday, yet, you have not known the person in and out let alone someone you meet may be once in a week and even for few minutes.

3. Leaders Interference:

To so many of our men of God, once they sense that two adults are trying to get familiar with each other they try to interfere which is good not just for them but for the growth of the church as whatever happens will rather count for or against the church.

Most men don't want to go too far to the extent of making the leader to know about the relationship at the early stage as they might not have the intention to stay till death do them apart. Therefore, to avoid interference of any pastor, the man prefer to look for his kind of lady outside the church.

4. Fear of over spirituality:

It is almost a general belief that women serves God more than men. Some men don't want to look at any lady let alone approaching her in the church as they are afraid of having a complete SU who will take everything concerning church as priority at the long run.

Being spiritually filled is good but in this century there is need for caution so as not to open the eyes of your spouse to the world.

It is when some women are too spiritual they start monitoring the cloth they wear and every other thing that they apply for them to look attractive forgetting that they need to be in their best form to be relevant to their husband and that they can still apply everything and still look decent.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/12/4-why-most-men-look-outside-church-for.html

I'll keep watch over this thread...

The ladies want a bad boy that will be gud for her...the guys want a gud girl that will bad for him....if u know wat I mean...that's hardly found in d "brethren"

GloriaNinja:
MOST CHURCH GOERS ARE HYPOCRITES.

Gloria we know. Just like as you and your friends can be hypocritical in other phere of life. Lota humans are hypocrite not just people going to church...

ImaIma1:
There is really nothing like outside or inside the church because the people that go to church don't live there.
They are actually the people you meet on the road, office, neighbourhood, etc.

Finally, I found someone who spoke my mind on this thread.

Almost all Nigerian ladies/girls we see, interact with and date in the club, class, office, neighborhood etc belong to one religious group or another, so the term church girl is quite useless in this context.

Martin0:




haha ah ahaha na WA ooo

Na so na!

gypsey:
Na so na!

OK. oooo

Martin0:


OK. oooo

how far? e be like say you dey bussy dis days

gypsey:
how far? e be like say you dey bussy dis days

ñ
nna eh nor be small busy ooo like this so, na bayelsa ar dey ooo but are go try finish up with everything this week then ar go beging get time for NL again.

Martin0:



ñ
nna eh nor be small busy ooo like this so, na bayelsa ar dey ooo but are go try finish up with everything this week then ar go beging get time for NL again.

No wahala! hustle comes first, Nairaland is full with Rubbish! Nowadays anyway!

gypsey:
No wahala! hustle comes first, Nairaland is full with Rubbish! Nowadays anyway!

yes ooo how ur nwa 21 na

bamisepeters:


4. Fear of over spirituality:

It is almost a general belief that women serves God more than men.

Source: http://www.bamisepeter.com/2017/12/4-why-most-men-look-outside-church-for.html

Oga bamisepeters reverse this statement. Men serve God more than woman. Woman are church goers, looking for solution to problems.

Martin0:



yes ooo how ur nwa 21 na

she is fine now, i saw her yesterday! she invited me to her birthday the 8 of march she will be 22

gypsey:
she is fine now, i saw her yesterday! she invited me to her birthday the 8 of march she will be 22

eheh good for her oo

Martin0:



eheh good for her oo

And she still insists that she is lesbian!

gypsey:
And she still insists that she is lesbian!

haha ah ahahah na WA ooo ar never See lesbian wey dey fucvk preek oooo why her own con differ? abi anyway na her life sha, but wait oo u tell her anything?

Martin0:




haha ah ahahah na WA ooo ar never See lesbian wey dey fucvk preek oooo why her own con differ? abi anyway na her life sha, but wait oo u tell her anything?

yes! i did, but i am not sure she dey fucvk preek! oo! ar never see am wit man before o! how you take kno say she dey fucck preek?

gypsey:
yes! i did, but i am not sure she dey fucvk preek! oo! ar never see am wit man before o! how you take kno say she dey fucck preek?

hian wetin una talk?

u told me na.

sha u say na to fucvk and go she be!

Sard:

Finally, I found someone who spoke my mind on this thread.

Almost all Nigerian ladies/girls we see, interact with and date in the club, class, office, neighborhood etc belong to one religious group or another, so the term church girl is quite useless in this context.

Yeah i keep hearing this argument. Whether you meet them in church or at work, they are who they are.

Martin0:



hian wetin una talk?

u told me na.

sha u say na to fucvk and go she be!

i tell am say my cousin martin0 wan befriend am.

yes! na wetin she tell me oo! i come ask her why she dey like man Again, she say some times too she dey like man, she say she be bisexual

2. Pretense among brethren:

As we know that religious can make so many people look innocent, hence, to some men, it is dangerous to choose a wife from the church as you can not know the true character of anyone in the church.

Many takes the house of God as shield, so many things might have been hidden which will need serious familiarity before it can be unraveled.

Also, you cannot know the true attitude of the women till familiarity sets in which some churches might not even allow. You are seeing someone everyday, yet, you have not known the person in and out let alone someone you meet may be once in a week and even for few minutes.



MO ti choir member / usher to n se Olosho

DanielGb:

Oga bamisepeters reverse this statement. Men serve God more than woman. Woman are church goers, looking for solution to problems.

issokey boss

no more wife material in church, just how's wearing scarfs.

ubunja:
i love threads like this...really.
OP nice one. men go outside coz thats where the freaky sluts are. and to fvck a church gal the freaky way porn has trained us will bring God's curse on u coz u just poluted His child.
good post bro.when u find time can u do a post on why sluts come to church to retire? an indepth post.
thanx

my guy on point....
you nailed it,...