My girlfriend and I have been together for about six months now. We met on LoveMe over a year ago. We started out as friends and eventually got together. She’s a really great girl; smart, understanding, nice, appealing, and more positive attributes.



The problem right now is that she doesn’t know about my three-year-old child that I had with an ex. It’s not like I was trying to hide it from her. I just didn’t get the chance to open up to her about my boy. I also don’t have much opportunity to introduce him to video chat since he lives and stays with his mom most days.



I started hinting at her about children. Maybe she thought I wanted kids or maybe she took it as a sign that I have a kid. My ex-girlfriend’s okay with me seeing someone since she’s already with someone else herself.



She told me I should introduce our kid to my girlfriend as soon as possible. I think she’s right. What if my girlfriend doesn’t like the idea of me having a child with someone else? At least I would know ahead, right?



How do I tell my girlfriend that I already have a son? I want to reassure her that my obligations with my child won’t be a problem for us. I want to give her the assurance that despite the constant communication between me and my ex-girlfriend, nothing will happen. I need help from anyone. Any advice will do.

Tell her now.
She will know sooner or later.
The earlier you tell her the better for both of you.
Just tell her.

tell her "I had A Kid With An Ex-lover"



thank me later

if you intend to marry her, Yes and if reverse is the case No

Anyhow u fit tell her ni oooo...it's better she hears it from u than frm a stranger...by then u should be kissing the relationship goodbye....just like ''ere pari" when Yoruba film end...

Tell her.


Never be ashamed of your CHILD no matter how it happened.

Shame/foolishness is what makes a man maltreat his own CHILD just to be in Favour with the new wife.

Do not let your life be controlled by woman, it is the lowest point in life of a man.

You hiding that fact that you have a CHILD is how the maltreatment starts.

Your CHILD is your SEED and SHOULD love him/her like yourself.

No woman who is not her mother will love her better than you.

Be a wise man not a foolish one trying to stay in favour with a woman.


Tell HER right away, and don't let FEAR rule your mind.

You become a SLAVE the day the fear of your partner leaving you rules your mind.

If she can't accept your son, she doesn't love you. Open up to her. Children are God's heritage, and they must be loved and accepted no matter what.

Is it not women like her that are happy (i.e, happily married) in polygamous homes?

Go to Hausaland, Yorubaland and Urhoboland and see how a man marries multiple women and they all live (happily) together in the same house - sharing everything.

Tell her straight Up!

She may stay,she may leave!!

For me,even if it's a day to the wedding and I find out my husband to be already has a child alive,i will call off the wedding.

My first child must be your first child.
No energy for baby mama drama
Afterall,if na me get pikin before marriage,you will call me old cargo,second hand, slvt,etc

So go ahead and tell her.
If she leaves,you get another lady,afterall you men brag of how numerous and cheap ladies are

Tell her Na, if its me I will stop dating you. Why should you have a boy?

Just say it anyhow U are a man, she wouldn't have a choice