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Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 7:56pm On Jan 05, 2018
Most parents don't talk about sex in front of their kids because they think it might corrupt them or they might try it, while others do, but the kids who never had sex education often grow curious and ignorant and the price of ignorance is costly on the long run, I don't think sex education is doing more harm than good

what do you think about sex education?

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by delishpot: 7:59pm On Jan 05, 2018
Yes. We already had the talk with the kids.
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:01pm On Jan 05, 2018
delishpot:
Yes. We already had the talk with the kids.
how did you do it and what was their reaction

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by BiafraBushBoy(m): 8:05pm On Jan 05, 2018
Nooo...

Jeez... Like how will I start? No sex talks till any of them gets to13.

Then I can start introducing some lil tips and ***** to them.

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by taylor88(m): 8:06pm On Jan 05, 2018
What's the essence of sex education

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:07pm On Jan 05, 2018
taylor88:
What's the essence of sex education
to educate

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by taylor88(m): 8:08pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
to educate

Then why can't u talk about sex before ur kids
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:11pm On Jan 05, 2018
taylor88:


Then why can't u talk about sex before ur kids
looking them in the eye and telling them how to have safe sex and avoid pregnancy and do funny stuff is so unafrican and uncomfortable, jeez

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by sirBLUNT(m): 8:11pm On Jan 05, 2018
the only sex education i got from my parent is...
"if you impregnate any girl you will know how to feed her and which house you will keep her"

lobatan!

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by delishpot: 8:12pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
how did you do it and what was their reaction

My kids are under 10 yrs old. Every time they as questions about the body we take as an opportunity to talk about it and tell them how those parts should be used. They know babies are a product of sex, they know about vaginal and CS births, They know how sex happens, they know when the right time is for sex, they have a vague idea about menses(thanks to mom) but they aren't too interested at the moment to learn more about it. We do not go all out but we explain the basics and what are the NO NO like not allowing someone touch their privates, they know that as siblings they need to respect each others bodies and boundaries, they know that they can not date or have sex until a certain age, they know about pedophilia and they know that they can come to us at anytime to talk. No topic is sacred, if they ask we talk although from time to time we ask them to give us time to think how best to explain for their level of understanding and we make sure to revisit the topic as much as they will understand.

They are welcome to ask questions and we hope to keep them educated and smart about their sexuality until adulthood. They are honestly not fazed by sex, for them it is just a way of life for adults and biology ie body parts and functions. Although they are confused these days about women having babies without being married. I told them it happens but it isn't the norm but an exception.

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by taylor88(m): 8:12pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
looking them in the eye and telling them how to have safe sex and avoid pregnancy and do funny stuff is so unafrican and uncomfortable, jeez

Then ur not ready till they learn it the horrific porn way from their classmates in school



They'll come back and ask u mummy what's doggie and giving head


Spoon filled with rice go fall from ur mouth

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:13pm On Jan 05, 2018
sirBLUNT:
the only sex education i got from my parent is...
"if you impregnate any girl you will know how to feed her and which house you will keep her"

lobatan!
guess I had it easier than you, mine was the day I woke up to see blood on my sheet, scared asf

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:15pm On Jan 05, 2018
taylor88:


Then ur not ready till they learn it the horrific porn way from their classmates in school



They'll come back and ask u mummy what's doggie and giving head


Spoon filled with rice go fall from ur mouth
ofcourse I will tell them go and ask daddy, besides why would I be having the sex talk when there's a man in the house
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by lilmax(m): 8:16pm On Jan 05, 2018
my dad told me "everything we do gives consequences"

only that statement has been ringing in my head since then... no need for sex talk, it didn't even come up

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by taylor88(m): 8:17pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
ofcourse I will tell them go and ask daddy, besides why would I be having the sex talk when there's a man in the house

Sex talk is now for daddy


Haven't heard child behold thy mother


Mother behold thy child

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:19pm On Jan 05, 2018
delishpot:


My kids are under 10 yrs old. Every time they as questions about the body we take as an opportunity to talk about it and tell them how those parts should be used. They know babies are a product of sex, they know about vaginal and CS births, They know how sex happens, they know when the right time is for sex, they have a vague idea about menses(thanks to mom) but they aren't too interested at the moment to learn more about it. We do not go all out but we explain the basics and what are the NO NO like not allowing someone touch their privates, they know that as siblings they need to respect each others bodies and boundaries, they know that they can not date or have sex until a certain age, they know about pedophilia and they know that they can come to us at anytime to talk. No topic is sacred, if they ask we talk although from time to time we ask them to give us time to think how best to explain for their level of understanding and we make sure to revisit the topic as much as they will understand.

They are welcome to ask questions and we hope to keep them educated and smart about their sexuality until adulthood. They are honestly not fazed by sex, for them it is just a way of life for adults. Although they are confused these days about women having babies without being married. I told them it happens but it isn't the norm but an exception.
shocked oh my God you guys are rare kind of parents, like you aint nigerian, I'd faint before I say it to an innocent kid lol, until I was 12 I used to believe babies were bought from the hospital

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:21pm On Jan 05, 2018
taylor88:


Sex talk is now for daddy


Haven't heard child behold thy mother


Mother behold thy child
that's my personal decision, I don't have the guts jare
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by sirBLUNT(m): 8:22pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
guess I had it easier than you, mine was the day I woke up to see blood on my sheet, scared asf
i learnt everything in school and the internet but i'm gona tell my kids everything they need to know because they deserve to know..if you dont tell them that "uncle will tell them"

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:24pm On Jan 05, 2018
sirBLUNT:
i learnt everything in school and the internet but i'm gona tell my kids everything they need to know because they deserve to know..if you dont tell them that "uncle will tell them"
true though, but I'd have their dad do it, I will just be there for support cheesy
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by sirBLUNT(m): 8:33pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
true though, but I'd have their dad do it, I will just be there for support cheesy
you better summon the courage to tell them oo what if their dad is one hell of a busy man? moreover children are more closer to their mum mostly so it will easier for you to tell them..
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 8:43pm On Jan 05, 2018
sirBLUNT:
you better summon the courage to tell them oo what if their dad is one hell of a busy man? moreover children are more closer to their mum mostly so it will easier for you to tell them..
lol ok
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by greatgod2012(f): 8:59pm On Jan 05, 2018
op, a very interesting and educative thread here!

Believe me, there's nothing difficult here, just take their ages into consideration and advance in your teaching of the right thing before they're wrongly taught by wrong set of people!


How do you start?

No matter how young they are, start by letting them know the real names of their privates, not all these useless names like kokoro, toitoi, my something and all that. Teach and let them have confidence in calling out the real name of their privates. From there, there will always be series of reports and questions, try as much as possible to answer rightly, without calling white black for them. Teach them the functions of their privates, the vaginaaa used for urinating and popping out babies, the peniiis used for urinating and planting babies into mummy's womb through the vagina, and so on. With this, your sex education job will be becoming easier as each day passes.

Another example, sometimes, a boy might be playing with his siblings using cracked voice, just ship it in while playing that a time is coming when he wouldn't need to fake that cracked voice but it will come naturally as he's approaching adolescence, etc.

For the girls, let your girls know what sanitary pads are used for and how it looks like and don't forget to let her know that, very soon, she too will be using it monthly...... and so on.

My sister, it's not as difficult as you're looking at it jare, just make sure you're your kids' friend and confidant and you'll be jisting like real friends.



Any other question, holla!

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by sirBLUNT(m): 9:03pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
lol ok
you're somehow very innocent when you were young oo...you thought babies where bought in the hospital? well i actually thought babies come out from the stomach lol
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by delishpot: 9:08pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
shocked oh my God you guys are rare kind of parents, like you aint nigerian, I'd faint before I say it to an innocent kid lol, until I was 12 I used to believe babies were bought from the hospital

LOL, I am Nigerian I just believe that as soon as a child starts asking, it is time to tell them like you teaching biology, Of course there is the occasional ewws and laughter and whatever but they pick important info. At 2 my daughter and I talked about crushing and how it was okay to crush but that as time went on, she will have to get a hold of herself and use her big girl brain more.We still talk about falling in love from time to time. she also learnt about kiss and tell guys and why it is important to be good friends with a boy she may crush on LOL. We as parents are doing our best. I grew up in a home where if you asked what penis and vagina was, a strong slap would re arrange your teeth in your mouth grin My lil cousin in those days was almost killed because he wrote Toto in his book. I don't want to raise ignorant kids. I can say we started when they were 2 yrs old. I forgot to add, we treated the gay topic last week. Gosh no thanks to one show on FOX. my 6 year old asked how do gays get sex? I told her they touch each others peepee since they both have only peepee. Hahahaha, I no know how to explain that one now o. Make I no explode her head. But I think I will tell if they ask again.

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 9:09pm On Jan 05, 2018
sirBLUNT:
you're somehow very innocent when you were young oo...you thought babies where bought in the hospital? well i actually thought babies come out from the stomach lol
very innocent, I can't forget the day I had to go and see my newborn kid sis in the hospital, dad took me and when I came and saw many newborns crying I was more than convinced they were on sale, coming to meet mum she showed me a very fair and hairy baby and I was like wao, you choosed the prettiest, see laughter everywhere

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 9:12pm On Jan 05, 2018
greatgod2012:
op, a very interesting and educative thread here!

Believe me, there's nothing difficult here, just take their ages into consideration and advance in your teaching of the right thing before they're wrongly taught by wrong set of people!


How do you start?

No matter how young they are, start by letting them know the real names of their privates, not all these useless names like kokoro, toitoi, my something and all that. Teach and let them have confidence in calling out the real name of their privates. From there, there will always be series of reports and questions, try as much as possible to answer rightly, without calling white black for them. Teach them the functions of their privates, the vaginaaa used for urinating and popping out babies, the peniiis used for urinating and planting babies into mummy's womb through the vagina, and so on. With this, your sex education job will be becoming easier as each day passes.

Another example, sometimes, a boy might be playing with his siblings using cracked voice, just ship it in while playing that a time is coming when he wouldn't need to fake that cracked voice but it will come naturally as he's approaching adolescence, etc.

For the girls, let your girls know what sanitary pads are used for and how it looks like and don't forget to let her know that, very soon, she too will be using it monthly...... and so on.

My sister, it's not as difficult as you're looking at it jare, just make sure you're your kids' friend and confidant and you'll be jisting like real friends.



Any other question, holla!
wao invaluable, thanks

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by sirBLUNT(m): 9:15pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
very innocent, I can't forget the day I had to go and see my newborn kid sis in the hospital, dad took me and when I came and saw many newborns crying I was more than convinced they were on sale, coming to meet mum she showed me a very fair and hairy baby and I was like wao, you choosed the prettiest, see laughter everywhere
"you choose the prettiest" lmao..how old where you then?
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 9:15pm On Jan 05, 2018
delishpot:


LOL, I am Nigerian I just believe that as soon as a child starts asking, it is time to tell them like you teaching biology, Of course there is the occasional ewws and laughter and whatever but they pick important info. At 2 my daughter and I talked about crushing and how it was okay to crush but that as time went on, she will have to get a hold of herself and use her big girl brain more.We still talk about falling in love from time to time. she also learnt about kiss and tell guys and why it is important to be good friends with a boy she may crush on LOL. We as parents are doing our best. I grew up in a home where if you asked what penis and vagina was, a strong slap would re arrange your teeth in your mouth grin My lil cousin in those days was almost killed because he wrote Toto in his book. I don't want to raise ignorant kids. I can say we started when they were 2 yrs old.
lol same here @ bolded, did your kids become wayward after the sensitization? Like they talk about it anyhow and whenever they like?

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by mhisbliss(f): 9:16pm On Jan 05, 2018
sirBLUNT:
"you choose the prettiest" lmao..how old where you then?
10/11 lol
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by greatgod2012(f): 9:20pm On Jan 05, 2018
Delishpot, happy new year. I'm always eager to read your posts, especially when it comes to kids.



@op, Lol @ "you chose the prettiest "

And what did your parent say afterwards?
Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by delishpot: 9:25pm On Jan 05, 2018
mhisbliss:
lol same here @ bolded, did your kids become wayward after the sensitization? Like they talk about it anyhow and whenever they like?

No, they just take it like biology. Although they once were wanting new siblings and said in our presence mom, dad... when will you guys get sex and give us brothers and sisters? sometimes they look at new babies and ask if those were also as a result of mom and dad getting sex? yes, they processed the info openly but nothing extra. They just were curious. If you mention sex they will just laugh because the process is funny to them. They still wonder how dad gets his peepee inside the moms vagina tho. I told them it is lesson for another day. if they ask again tho, I will tell.
Although I never discouraged them from talking about their bodies, the major eye opener for me was when my son came home saying he now knows how babies are made. I said oh yeah.... who taught you? he said a friend showed him from a book at school. Fortunately it was a book about conception and pregnancy. showing the sperm and egg meeting and what happens till full term. I thought it was a matter of time before he might see a video. make we teach them before world people teach them anyhow for us.

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Re: Would You Be Comfortable Having The Sex Talk With Your Kids? by delishpot: 9:28pm On Jan 05, 2018
greatgod2012:
Delishpot, happy new year. I'm always eager to read your posts, especially when it comes to kids.



@op, Lol @ "you chose the prettiest "

And what did your parent say afterwards?



Thank you. Happy and prosperous new year to you too.


That got me laughing too. The mom knows what is good haha

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