I met this amazing lady through A Foreign Affair. She’s a 28 y/o Filipina with a 5 year old daughter.

We are still at the stage of getting to know each other and have been corresponding at least 3 times a day.

Everything is going really well between us but I am a little taken aback about her daughter.

I don’t mind dating someone with a child at all as long as I know there won’t be any problems with the “other party.”

That’s where I need advice… she did open up about having a daughter, what she does for a living and her family,

but she never opened up about the father of her child.

I need to have an assurance that there won’t be any problems when things become serious between us.

The father of her child will always be a big part of her daughter’s life.

I’m willing to compromise with that, but I need there to be boundaries.

I most certainly don’t want to suddenly get involved in something that may eventually become unpleasant.

I like her enough to want to know about these things. Before things between us become serious,

I want to know where I’ll be getting at. Am I rushing things?

I’d like to meet her in person as soon as possible.

I’m a little skeptical about months long of only exchanging letters.

I want to get a hint of assurance and start from there… I really need advice. Help me!

this one strong ooo
i need to think well before i drop any answer so the whole thing go be win win

If tell her what you're telling us, the relationship would get better.

i have an answer for you : STAY AWAY.
its not worth it.

You already answered your question. You really don't need anyone to make this decision cos it's pretty obvious what you want to do and how you want to do it which is not bad.

sweettease:
You already answered your question. You really don't need anyone to make this decision cos it's pretty obvious what you want to do and how you want to do it which is not bad.

True sweettease

Relationships like this can be dead complicated, so unless frm experience you handle complications well(and this time,in d long term),fire on boss.but if ur jst a simple bro(whc i smell all over ur write up),jst no go die young untop another man mata o...women re confused enough to add an extra complication.


My 1kobo

If you want to take the relationship to a next level, she needs to let you about the father. It is very important and if she remains adamant on disclosing his whereabouts. Leave her as simple as ABC.

ubunja:
i have an answer for you : STAY AWAY.
its not worth it.

What if its God's will for you to marry her?

kbzee11:



What if its God's will for you to marry her?

will God send you an SMS?? how will you come to that conclusion

You must know everything about the ex-boyfriend your rival.... I mean everhthing and her feelings towards him... Dead or fluctuating.



Speaking from experience

dating a woman with a child is EASY, what you should worry about is dating a woman who is NOT Nigerian, NOT African, NOT black and coming from a totally different world/background.