I was having a discuss with a dear friend and this topic came up. She was of the opinion that a girl or a guy should not depend on their spouse for financial help since it would make them lose their say.

However I don't quite agree with this. My opinion is that depending on each other strengthens relationship and builds trust. The kind of dependence here is not leaching on your spouse.

So dear romancelanders, both single and married what's your say on this?

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For someone like me it doesn't.

The bitter truth is YES ,your "say" will be limited.

Being a leech make u lose ur say...

Ur opinion is better than ur friend's opinion......my opinion.

If u call it 'dependence'........it's not so good but if it's 'assistance'.... better.

But there is a kind of co-dependency in relationships anyways or should I say a committed relationship.

Sharing your life means opening up and treating each other as halves of a whole. Which means you should both care for the other partner as you would yourself (in an ideal world) and I'm sure that entails sharing resources as well irrespective of who contributes the greater share.

Your partner is not in a relationship with themselves, they are in it with you. It's your relationship too so there is no conceivable reason why anyone's say should be diminished because of circumstances (except ofcourse the person is not mentally fit to have a say in anything).

It prolly depends the partner involved

Chikita66:
For someone like me it doesn't.

I'd love to hear more details

shaybebaby:
But there is a kind of co-dependency in relationships anyways or should I say a committed relationship.

Sharing your life means opening up and treating each other as halves of a whole. Which means you should both care for the other partner as you would yourself (in an ideal world) and I'm sure that entails sharing resources as well irrespective of who contributes the greater share.

Your partner is not in a relationship with themselves, they are in it with you. It's your relationship too so there is no conceivable reason why anyone's say should be diminished because of circumstances (except ofcourse the person is not mentally fit to have a say in anything).

I get you, however, when making financial decisions, the breadwinner, would get the last say because it's their energy that's been used to 'bring home the bacon.'

I think unless one person is going through difficulty, both people should meet their own needs first and then share the profits. One able bodied person should not support another able bodied person. That's an unhealthy relationship, in my opinion, anyway.

What I mean by support is for example: Paying the person's rent or bills. Sorting your lover out a lil change and buying them gifts is different to taking on THEIR financial responsibilities.

MrWondah:
I was having a discuss with a dear friend and this topic came up. She was of the opinion that a girl or a guy should not depend on their spouse for financial help since it would make them lose their say.

However I don't quite agree with this. My opinion is that depending on each other strengthens relationship and builds trust. The kind of dependence here is not leaching on your spouse.

So dear romancelanders, both single and married what's your say on this?

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Your friend did not lie if you don't have money don't talk simple truth.

It depends on the level of maturity exhibited by the couples. Some will see it as a problem while some will not. As for me ,its not anything.You aren't losing your say. Some days are like that.