DaddyKross:



True talk bruh. Really helpful

you gerrit

Thegeneralqueen:
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Biafraqueen:
Hi guys,

I started dating a guy I really liked when i was on a waitlist for admission to study medicine . I got off the waitlist and decided to go to med school. He broke up with me because he didn't see the long term potential in us anymore .

He also raised questions of when I would be able to have kids and settle down (he wants to have kids before I turn 30 - ).

I am now terrified that I won't be able to find anybody because of my situation. This guy was so much of what I was looking for in a person and it hurts to lose him.....
Being a female medical student ,is it a turn off
Because this time i experienced the notion.

Thanks.

Biafraqueen:
naah..

MissWrite:
Are you sure he was everything you wanted in a man? Isn't being supportive of your ambitions part of what you look for in a partner? It's your life; What do you really want out of it? If you have a clear picture in front of you, you would be able to put these so-called "losses" along the way in proper context. What would you rather: give up the man, or give up becoming a doctor?

If it's the man you want, then make the necessary sacrifice to be with him. Even chose a career he's comfortable with if that gets you what you want. Just be warned that it is foolish to look for your happiness in another person. It's a lot of pressure and he can leave you tomorrow You have to find your happiness in yourself. Be a person with personal goals, drive and direction; before you're a person in a relationship. Don't lose yourself.

If it is the med career you want, then you would find people who support that ambition. There are plenty men who want to marry doctors. Maybe you might even end up with a professional colleague, it happens a lot. If you really want to be a doctor, you would realize you dodged a bullet with this one.

Tohzara:
I wonder why people can't generate love by themselves but will want to sacrifice their own happiness just to find a person they can love, and that will love them back. I think such people are uninspired dregs with an internal emotional void that can never be filled.

True love is the overwhelming desire to spend the rest of your life with the object of your passion. You can never fall out of love if your love is true. Why should you abandon true love for the object of your passion and happiness (that cannever disappoint you) for "true love" for a living being with its own interests, and that cannot be trusted? What kind of true love is that? You might end up with a miserable life. Bitter regrets.

Plato was in true love with philosophy, Michelangelo with art, Feynman with physics, Dante with poetry, Machiavelli with politics, Herman Melville with writing, and so on----in true love with their passion, their work. A human being CANNOT compete with such true love.

Jorge Luis Borges said, "to fall in love is to create a religion that has a fallible God.". People are fallible and full of disappointment at every turn. So making them the very source of one's happiness may cause one more pain and anguish. One might eventually end up an empty husk.

Biafraqueen, never sacrifice your own happiness and ambition to please a human being. A person who doesn't care about your ambition doesn't love you, or maybe you're just INCOMPATIBLE. Go for a person that supports your dreams.

MissWrite:



You actually made me cry with this. Very well said.

You're blessed, my friend.

Thegeneralqueen:
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Biafraqueen:
Hi guys,

I started dating a guy I really liked when i was on a waitlist for admission to study medicine . I got off the waitlist and decided to go to med school. He broke up with me because he didn't see the long term potential in us anymore .

He also raised questions of when I would be able to have kids and settle down (he wants to have kids before I turn 30 - ).

I am now terrified that I won't be able to find anybody because of my situation. This guy was so much of what I was looking for in a person and it hurts to lose him.....
Being a female medical student ,is it a turn off
Because this time i experienced the notion.

Thanks.

DonEd:
a clear case of talking before thinking.
Learn to read carefully.

jorion:

Sharap your mouth, do you think being a mother is easy? Do you think building a career is easy? My young bro studies medicine in the USA n I know what medical students do pass through, n studying medicine abroad is easier than in Nigeria because its more practical. Now you want a lady who is studying such a challenging course to bear a child. Are you not a wizard?

MissWrite:
Are you sure he was everything you wanted in a man? Isn't being supportive of your ambitions part of what you look for in a partner? It's your life; What do you really want out of it? If you have a clear picture in front of you, you would be able to put these so-called "losses" along the way in proper context. What would you rather: give up the man, or give up becoming a doctor?

If it's the man you want, then make the necessary sacrifice to be with him. Even chose a career he's comfortable with if that gets you what you want. Just be warned that it is foolish to look for your happiness in another person. It's a lot of pressure and he can leave you tomorrow You have to find your happiness in yourself. Be a person with personal goals, drive and direction; before you're a person in a relationship. Don't lose yourself.

If it is the med career you want, then you would find people who support that ambition. There are plenty men who want to marry doctors. Maybe you might even end up with a professional colleague, it happens a lot. If you really want to be a doctor, you would realize you dodged a bullet with this one.

fascia:

dont worry i will marry u ...
you have to sit him down n discuss nani,calculate the number of years of school remaining then permutate the number of ways both of u could get what u want by compromising a little to find a middle ground.maybe u could marry before finishing school or maybe not.
if this doesnt work,there are many men out there,statistically speaking with qualities u like in him and even better.the notion of i will ner find someone like him is pure fallacy,there is always someone better.
if this doesnt work too,i will marry u

DonEd:
Why don't we consider sacrifice instead of selfishness? Do u love him? Does he cherish u? You saw someone that u have hoped for and u are gonna let him go simply because u are in medical school? Just wondering, can't a married girl continue her studies in medical school? It's just a matter of understanding between u two.

I don't agree that the man is desperate, every man has a drawn out plan for his life and intending family, don't blame him if ur schedule doesn't fit in his. You didn't even mentioned both ur age.

On ur own part, u are worried marriage life is gonna disrupt ur studies. U guys should find a way to reach out halfway

Trust me, finding ur soul mate isn't as easy as finding ur shoe size in Walmart, its gonna take another season.

My two Naira though.

kense88:
Teaching is actually the best for mothers.

jorion:

Here we go again. Who are you to decide?

Biafraqueen:
Hi guys,

I started dating a guy I really liked when i was on a waitlist for admission to study medicine . I got off the waitlist and decided to go to med school. He broke up with me because he didn't see the long term potential in us anymore .

He also raised questions of when I would be able to have kids and settle down (he wants to have kids before I turn 30 - ).

I am now terrified that I won't be able to find anybody because of my situation. This guy was so much of what I was looking for in a person and it hurts to lose him.....
Being a female medical student ,is it a turn off
Because this time i experienced the notion.

Thanks.

jorion:

Sharap your mouth, do you think being a mother is easy? Do you think building a career is easy? My young bro studies medicine in the USA n I know what medical students do pass through, n studying medicine abroad is easier than in Nigeria because its more practical. Now you want a lady who is studying such a challenging course to bear a child. Are you not a wizard?

Biafraqueen:
Hi guys,

I started dating a guy I really liked when i was on a waitlist for admission to study medicine . I got off the waitlist and decided to go to med school. He broke up with me because he didn't see the long term potential in us anymore .

He also raised questions of when I would be able to have kids and settle down (he wants to have kids before I turn 30 - ).

I am now terrified that I won't be able to find anybody because of my situation. This guy was so much of what I was looking for in a person and it hurts to lose him.....
Being a female medical student ,is it a turn off
Because this time i experienced the notion.

Thanks.

Biafraqueen:
Hi guys,

I started dating a guy I really liked when i was on a waitlist for admission to study medicine . I got off the waitlist and decided to go to med school. He broke up with me because he didn't see the long term potential in us anymore .

He also raised questions of when I would be able to have kids and settle down (he wants to have kids before I turn 30 - ).

I am now terrified that I won't be able to find anybody because of my situation. This guy was so much of what I was looking for in a person and it hurts to lose him.....
Being a female medical student ,is it a turn off
Because this time i experienced the notion.

Thanks.