Pardon any blunders, I'm rushing to site...

Had to drop this today or never.

Hello guys, Please read and kindly offer your thoughts.

I'd be 28 this year. Graduate. Working.
By January ending Last year, I Ended my two years relationship with a lady I already planned to Marry by Ending of Last year - She Cheated and was “double-dating” or even “triple-dating” (if there's any word like that). The evidence came to me itself (Second quarter of 2016)...I presented them before her and she denied until she couldn't deny it anymore... I tried to forgive her and we tried to work it out - That ended up being a terrible mistake; she interpreted it as "I don't have options, that's why I went on with her". Meanwhile, I continued because I was involved in her studies and Pulling out would mean she might get stuck. I will not bore you guys with too much details about investments on her blah blah blah…the Joke was on me fa!, she never changed... So by January Last year, I was done. All i knew was work work work... When I'm bored, I go to the movies or I go to the Office and drain myself in work... Me too started keeping late nights and meeting new ladies but no more relationships for me. Just anything to make sure I do not remember I just wasted 2 Years of my life with the wrong Person. With time the pain passed.
Fast-forward to March 2017, I started noticing someone was beginning to occupy my thoughts. I initially ignored it, She was 20/21years same age grade as the lady I just ended stuff with… I already started to judge that ladies that age range are not yet serious about the future and family; they just want to experience life. But by April we started dating. We were open about the past and we decided what we wanted and how we’d go about it all. In the beginning she had to get rid of lots of unnecessary calls just to prove to me how serious she is about making us work. I was amazed by how committed she was, things she did and her level of maturity.
Our phones were locked but we both had each other’s codes and finger prints access… Even up to atm cards and transaction codes, there was nothing to hide from each other. I noticed life went on smooth and we could focus on other things.
Christmas break came and we had to travel to different states to meet family… I started noticing she was becoming distant. I drew her attention to it.
We got back to base by January and I noticed the following things:
• she changed her phone lock code
• she was uneasy when some persistent calls came in - she had to reduced her ringer sound
• if I asked her for her phone, she would leave whatever she is doing and come stay beside me to monitor what I am doing
• When she sleeps at night, she turns off the phone or hides it completely
• calls reduced and texts disappeared.
Once I noticed her locks were changed, I began to get interested in reasons she might change her code. I looked for every opportunity to check her chats/messages and call logs. One day I was lucky to see her, I saw some chats. She invited a guy to her family house (I was never informed about this – that was shocking because we tell each other everything).
I saw his calls and the rest of the chats.
I saw other chats, I saw pictures she sent out. How she wanted to know how he was faring blah blah blah. Me have been begging for pictures but never received. She was sending out and caring for someone else. A couple of other calls and texts.
I became confused. It all seemed like a de’javu.
Its been a bumpy relationship ever since then.

The End… Thanks for reading.

Thoughts?

My thought... There is a 98% chance dat she isnt into u anymore.... Have u talked to her about wat u'v noticed

surreal15:
Pardon any blunders, I'm rushing to site...

Had to drop this today or never.

Hello guys, Please read and kindly offer your thoughts.

I'd be 28 this year. Graduate. Working.
By January ending Last year, I Ended my two years relationship with a lady I already planned to Marry by Ending of Last year - She Cheated and was “double-dating” or even “triple-dating” (if there's any word like that). The evidence came to me itself (Second quarter of 2016)...I presented them before her and she denied until she couldn't deny it anymore... I tried to forgive her and we tried to work it out - That ended up being a terrible mistake; she interpreted it as "I don't have options, that's why I went on with her". Meanwhile, I continued because I was involved in her studies and Pulling out would mean she might get stuck. I will not bore you guys with too much details about investments on her blah blah blah…the Joke was on me fa!, she never changed... So by January Last year, I was done. All i knew was work work work... When I'm bored, I go to the movies or I go to the Office and drain myself in work... Me too started keeping late nights and meeting new ladies but no more relationships for me. Just anything to make sure I do not remember I just wasted 2 Years of my life with the wrong Person. With time the pain passed.
Fast-forward to March 2017, I started noticing someone was beginning to occupy my thoughts. I initially ignored it, She was 20/21years same age grade as the lady I just ended stuff with… I already started to judge that ladies that age range are not yet serious about the future and family; they just want to experience life. But by April we started dating. We were open about the past and we decided what we wanted and how we’d go about it all. In the beginning she had to get rid of lots of unnecessary calls just to prove to me how serious she is about making us work. I was amazed by how committed she was, things she did and her level of maturity.
Our phones were locked but we both had each other’s codes and finger prints access… Even up to atm cards and transaction codes, there was nothing to hide from each other. I noticed life went on smooth and we could focus on other things.
Christmas break came and we had to travel to different states to meet family… I started noticing she was becoming distant. I drew her attention to it.
We got back to base by January and I noticed the following things:
• she changed her phone lock code
• she was uneasy when some persistent calls came in - she had to reduced her ringer sound
• if I asked her for her phone, she would leave whatever she is doing and come stay beside me to monitor what I am doing
• When she sleeps at night, she turns off the phone or hides it completely
• calls reduced and texts disappeared.
Once I noticed her locks were changed, I began to get interested in reasons she might change her code. I looked for every opportunity to check her chats/messages and call logs. One day I was lucky to see her, I saw some chats. She invited a guy to her family house (I was never informed about this – that was shocking because we tell each other everything).
I saw his calls and the rest of the chats.
I saw other chats, I saw pictures she sent out. How she wanted to know how he was faring blah blah blah. Me have been begging for pictures but never received. She was sending out and caring for someone else. A couple of other calls and texts.
I became confused. It all seemed like a de’javu.
Its been a bumpy relationship ever since then.

The End… Thanks for reading.

Thoughts?

My battery is going down, I come back and read if I don charge my phone, no vex u yia

Be true to ursrlf, u already know what's wrong. Since u're not too blind to see then u shouldn't be too slow to act. U na man nd u shouldn't allow one small girl to play u like tennis.
Tell her what u noticed nd let her give u d explanations u need.

1. Maybe there are somethings you are not doing right. You need to check yourself first

2. Do you have that feeling these ladies find you attractive atall

3. Do you play the good guy far too much because you love her

4. Or maybe you have shown your desperation to her face a number of times

Can you listen to urself You caught ur first girlfriend cheating, you forgave her, and you guys moved on with your relationship

The same girl cheated on you the second time, you both parted ways...Now you are into another relationship, and its obvious the girl is cheating on you again..

Op ask yourself some questions, its seems you are too soft. You need to be a man in your relationship, at times is not good to be too gentle, hence girls will take you for a ride.

izaray:
Can you listen to urself You caught ur first girlfriend cheating, you forgave her, and you guys moved on with your relationship

The same girl cheated on you the second time, you both parted ways...Now you are into anothther relationship, and its obvious the girl is cheating on you again..

Op ask yourself some questions, its seems you are too soft. You need to be a man in your relationship, at times is not good to be too gentle, hence girls will take you for a ride.

Op, this woman and Raydans have spoken my mind, the fault IMO comes 4rm ur personality, work on it.

Bro, 2 avoid yet another story like dis, try 2 work on urself, b a true man who doesn't show desperation 4 companionship. At a certain stage in life, u realise u just hv 2 get tougher n harder. Another thing, try 2 double date 2 reduce ur dependency on a gal.

[quote author=surreal15 post=65026887]Pardon any blunders, I'm rushing to site...

Had to drop this today or never.

Hello guys, Please read and kindly offer your thoughts.

I'd be 28 this year. Graduate. Working.
By January ending Last year, I Ended my two years relationship with a lady I already planned to Marry by Ending of Last year - She Cheated and was “double-dating” or even “triple-dating” (if there's any word like that). The evidence came to me itself (Second quarter of 2016)...I presented them before her and she denied until she couldn't deny it anymore... I tried to forgive her and we tried to work it out - That ended up being a terrible mistake; she interpreted it as "I don't have options, that's why I went on with her". Meanwhile, I continued because I was involved in her studies and Pulling out would mean she might get stuck. I will not bore you guys with too much details about investments on her

MR NICE GUY PLS READ ALL UBUNJA'S MISEDUCATION TREADS AND THANK ME LATER.

girls of 20-24..are damn useless ..so don't think of building your future with girls of such age bracket ..using and dumping them na de koko

EOOJ:
My thought... There is a 98% chance dat she isnt into u anymore.... Have u talked to her about wat u'v noticed

Thanks much.
Yes, i have talked to her.

Raydans:
1. Maybe there are somethings you are not doing right. You need to check yourself first

2. Do you have that feeling these ladies find you attractive atall

3. Do you play the good guy far too much because you love her

4. Or maybe you have shown your desperation to her face a number of times

Thank you very much for this your reply... part of the reasons I did this write-up here was because I was hoping I would have some more insight in order to answer number 1 you mentioned above.
the ladies would have answers to number 2... As for number 3, I always treat her like I treat my younger ones, a mixture of strict and lenient; she's younger than my last sibling. for Number 4, I don't think I show desperation. She will be lying to herself if she thinks I cannot do without her or get other girls If I want to live that kind of life.
It's quite funny, I noticed when you treat a lady right and make her feel like a Queen, she tends to misbehave. ... Might not be so for every Lady sha...

izaray:
Can you listen to urself You caught ur first girlfriend cheating, you forgave her, and you guys moved on with your relationship

The same girl cheated on you the second time, you both parted ways...Now you are into another relationship, and its obvious the girl is cheating on you again..

Op ask yourself some questions, its seems you are too soft. You need to be a man in your relationship, at times is not good to be too gentle, hence girls will take you for a ride.

Thanks for taking time to read and comment.

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On it.
Thanks much!

Pubichairs:
girls of 20-24..are damn useless ..so don't think of building your future with girls of such age bracket ..using and dumping them na de koko

Thanks for reading and Replying...
I was going to take your advice but then I imagined my daughters being used and dumped... Its a sad thought. I think its better to let people go if they don't want to stay.............

surreal15:


Thanks for taking time to read and comment.

Perhaps you should date older ladies... She probably met a guy that came back from Germany. Anyway, the handwriting is on the wall, next time be careful.

coolestofall:
Bro, 2 avoid yet another story like dis, try 2 work on urself, b a true man who doesn't show desperation 4 companionship. At a certain stage in life, u realise u just hv 2 get tougher n harder. Another thing, try 2 double date 2 reduce ur dependency on a gal.

Thanks much....
why double date when I can triple my hustle

Maybe you should check yourself very well

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Perhaps you should date older ladies... She probably met a guy that came back from Germany. Anyway, the handwriting is on the wall, next time be careful.

Thanks Jare

kazolad:
Maybe you should check yourself very well

Will do.
Thanks

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Perhaps you should date older ladies... She probably met a guy that came back from Germany. Anyway, the handwriting is on the wall, next time be careful.

So you also agree to the age thingy, yeah?

surreal15:


So you also agree to the age thingy, yeah?

yeah i also agree but i want to ask you one Q and i hope you answer it: Both gals you dated what tribe are they from and what tribe are you frm. Dont quote me wrong my Q has nothing to do with tribalism only that i might figure out the possible flaw if you answer me.

Cadec007:
yeah i also agree but i want to ask you one Q and i hope you answer it: Both gals you dated what tribe are they from and what tribe are you frm. Dont quote me wrong my Q has nothing to do with tribalism only that i might figure out the possible flaw if you answer me.

First is Ibo,
Second is Delta - Urhobo

surreal15:


First is Ibo,
Second is Delta - Urhobo

like i said i hv seen the possible flaw i am a deltan and i advice you to broaden your search scope for example if you would double date (which i kick against) you try to make it 1 ibo 1 efik [na example o] and if you want to single date search for a nice yoruba girl. TRY IT, OK?

My man stop been too nice and too open. It's better she sees u as having the potential of been a bad boy. That way she will know that she can be replaced

There’s nothing as painful as putting your all into a relationship and watching the supposed partner acting up,I have been in your situation before.what I will tell you is to get out from the relationship,once suspicions and doubts have set in there’s no reversal,just occupy your mind like you’ve always done with other things,get a hobby,make friends that share same hobbies with you,and be happy.get chicks that know watsup just for fvcks, when the time comes get a baby mama that won’t create a scene of wanting to settle down and flex heavy my G.


Bitchhhes ain’t shiiit but hos and trick

donnaD, wetin you think for this matter ? How body ?

Zykod:
donnaD, wetin you think for this matter ? How body ?

wao u are back yuppie.wait first let me view the thread.

Cadec007:
like i said i hv seen the possible flaw i am a deltan and i advice you to broaden your search scope for example if you would double date (which i kick against) you try to make it 1 ibo 1 efik [na example o] and if you want to single date search for a nice yoruba girl. TRY IT, OK?

Thanks Buddy!

surreal15:


So you also agree to the age thingy, yeah?

my bro maturity is of the mindset and not of age.what most of we ladies lack is wisdom and many have used their husbands as boyfriend.I have seen ladies that got married at the age of 17yrs and 18yrs and are faithful and great home makers,so age is out of it,it's just this slay queen syndrome that is deceiving most ladies that they don't know dere left from dere right.

and again it's not about the tribe.I just strongly know that most ladies don't know what they want,they get distracted easily by flashy tins.Pls OP before u give out ur heart again try and study the type of person she is,test her with little tins and don't open up all urslf totally to any girl,becus she will know ur weak point and use it against u.a man is entitled to have secrets to secure his heart.

donnaD:
.a man is entitled to have secrets to secure his heart.

seriously i love dat line