dingbang:
I think you need to repeat school from the beginning...after than can we tell you what we think

TheUpsetGirl:



repeated.. I was only sleepy and please broke boys are not allowed to quote me.

FluidQueen:
It is A barbaric custom that needs to be abolished.
Women are not properties that need to be acquired. If it's so fantastic a tradition, why isn't it paid on men?

Bride price is a very degrading practice, indeed. It gives men this feeling of ownership. It creates an impression that one party was negotiated and paid for, one party was acquired, Why another was the acquirer.

It is harmful and simply subtle Slavery. The basis of screwed maragial concept and male superiority complex. It isn't a christian act But a Jewish One. Why then, are Christians propagating this madness?

efesodje:




Ok sis let me explain why I do not agree with your conclusions:


The practice of paying for the bride price is erroneously misconstrued as such a dehumanizing practice to women, especially from a Western point of view. Parents perceive that their daughters are being maltreated by wicked husbands on the excuse that they have been paid for, like a “commodity”.

And while many blame this derision on families that take advantage of the Bride Price to make outrageous demands, others believe that how a man treats his woman may not necessarily depend on whether or not he paid her Bride Price, but greatly on his personality.

Saying men maltreat their wives because they paid their Bride Price is like saying the expensive diamond engagement rings also produce women-beaters in the West.

For the christians amongst us, in the Bible Jacob served 14 years as a Price to marry Rachel; a “Bride Service” that portrayed the value he placed on her – which is what the token called Bride Price is all about.

In this modern era, it appears many are not aware that the Bride Price serves to protect the marriage from dissolution. It is NOT degrading to women and does not reduce them to slaves; not in any way tantamount to making a man feel like a slave master who owns a slave he has paid for. In actual fact, Bride Price is an instrument to ratify a marriage. It is one of the highest honours confirming a bride’s value and womanhood; giving a husband the full rights to the sexual, economic, or procreative powers of his wife. It fosters a friendly relationship between the two families; providing a material pledge that the woman and her children will be well treated and a level of compensation to her family for the loss of her company and labour.

No amount of money can buy a wife; her value is inestimable in human terms.

No man can pay for all the input of those who raised a good woman and all the benefits she brings; her love, care, help and companionship far outweigh any monetary value. A Bride Price is a humble demonstration of appreciation, honour and respect to the bride’s family for all the work they put into raising/training “this” gift from God and returning it seems utterly disrespectful to the groom and his entire family.

There are no few good men, rather there still are a lot of good men. It's just so unfortunate some women end up with the bad ones. My 2 cents

P/S- I am still learning this whole marriage stuff as this dude will be settling down soon

don4real18:

Jewish my foot... It is our culture and tradition and shouldn't be thrown away for Western ideology.
I will be glad to pay the Bride price for my future wife without the feeling of acquiring a property

dingbang:
I think you need to repeat school from the beginning...after than can we tell you what we think

FluidQueen:
Why do the society think they need to affirm a woman's worth and value? If its so thoughtful, why don't women affirm a man's value and worth by Paying the groom price too? Why can't we appreciate you too? Why can't we simply thank the groom's family for bringing up such a handsome, Amazing and kind hearted man? Or are we just equivalent to a purchase?

Lol. It's ridiculous, isn't it? Why is the rationale for the concept being tailored to one gender? All it symbolizes is female subjugation, no euphemism can change it!

It's the basis for female discrimination, and prejudice.
I paid on your head, you must obey me.
I married you, you didn't marry me.
These are subtle sexist practice that should be removed.

efesodje:


Ok sis let me explain why I do not agree with your conclusions:


The practice of paying for the bride price is erroneously misconstrued as such a dehumanizing practice to women, especially from a Western point of view. Parents perceive that their daughters are being maltreated by wicked husbands on the excuse that they have been paid for, like a “commodity”.

And while many blame this derision on families that take advantage of the Bride Price to make outrageous demands, others believe that how a man treats his woman may not necessarily depend on whether or not he paid her Bride Price, but greatly on his personality.

Saying men maltreat their wives because they paid their Bride Price is like saying the expensive diamond engagement rings also produce women-beaters in the West.

For the christians amongst us, in the Bible Jacob served 14 years as a Price to marry Rachel; a “Bride Service” that portrayed the value he placed on her – which is what the token called Bride Price is all about.

In this modern era, it appears many are not aware that the Bride Price serves to protect the marriage from dissolution. It is NOT degrading to women and does not reduce them to slaves; not in any way tantamount to making a man feel like a slave master who owns a slave he has paid for. In actual fact, Bride Price is an instrument to ratify a marriage. It is one of the highest honours confirming a bride’s value and womanhood; giving a husband the full rights to the sexual, economic, or procreative powers of his wife. It fosters a friendly relationship between the two families; providing a material pledge that the woman and her children will be well treated and a level of compensation to her family for the loss of her company and labour.

No amount of money can buy a wife; her value is inestimable in human terms.

No man can pay for all the input of those who raised a good woman and all the benefits she brings; her love, care, help and companionship far outweigh any monetary value. A Bride Price is a humble demonstration of appreciation, honour and respect to the bride’s family for all the work they put into raising/training “this” gift from God and returning it seems utterly disrespectful to the groom and his entire family.

There are no few good men, rather there still are a lot of good men. It's just so unfortunate some women end up with the bad ones. My 2 cents

efesodje:


At the bold face, a dowry (paid by the bride's family to the groom's family) is practiced in countries like Turkey, Iran,Egypt,Morocco, India,Bangladesh,Pakistan,Nepal,Sri Lanka, Afghanistan et al. So it's done.

Your other points are rants of a typical Misogynist

FluidQueen:
Lol. The dowry thingy is a whole different ballgame. It's a gift given to the groom's family. In places like India, it's used to appreciate a man for finding a woman worthy. It's more like a 'thank you for marrying me' thing.

Dowry paid by women and bride price paid on men yield the same result. The woman is considered a property.

FluidQueen:
Why do the society think they need to affirm a woman's worth and value? If its so thoughtful, why don't women affirm a man's value and worth by Paying the groom price too? Why can't we appreciate you too? Why can't we simply thank the groom's family for bringing up such a handsome, Amazing and kind hearted man? Or are we just equivalent to a purchase?

Lol. It's ridiculous, isn't it? Why is the rationale for the concept being tailored to one gender? All it symbolizes is female subjugation, no euphemism can change it!

It's the basis for female discrimination, and prejudice.
I paid on your head, you must obey me.
I married you, you didn't marry me.
These are subtle sexist practice that should be removed.

efesodje:
Ok sis let me explain why I do not agree with your conclusions:


The practice of paying for the bride price is erroneously misconstrued as such a dehumanizing practice to women, especially from a Western point of view. Parents perceive that their daughters are being maltreated by wicked husbands on the excuse that they have been paid for, like a “commodity”.

And while many blame this derision on families that take advantage of the Bride Price to make outrageous demands, others believe that how a man treats his woman may not necessarily depend on whether or not he paid her Bride Price, but greatly on his personality.

Saying men maltreat their wives because they paid their Bride Price is like saying the expensive diamond engagement rings also produce women-beaters in the West.

For the christians amongst us, in the Bible Jacob served 14 years as a Price to marry Rachel; a “Bride Service” that portrayed the value he placed on her – which is what the token called Bride Price is all about.

In this modern era, it appears many are not aware that the Bride Price serves to protect the marriage from dissolution. It is NOT degrading to women and does not reduce them to slaves; not in any way tantamount to making a man feel like a slave master who owns a slave he has paid for. In actual fact, Bride Price is an instrument to ratify a marriage. It is one of the highest honours confirming a bride’s value and womanhood; giving a husband the full rights to the sexual, economic, or procreative powers of his wife. It fosters a friendly relationship between the two families; providing a material pledge that the woman and her children will be well treated and a level of compensation to her family for the loss of her company and labour.

No amount of money can buy a wife; her value is inestimable in human terms.

No man can pay for all the input of those who raised a good woman and all the benefits she brings; her love, care, help and companionship far outweigh any monetary value. A Bride Price is a humble demonstration of appreciation, honour and respect to the bride’s family for all the work they put into raising/training “this” gift from God and returning it seems utterly disrespectful to the groom and his entire family.

There are no few good men, rather there still are a lot of good men. It's just so unfortunate some women end up with the bad ones. My 2 cents

P/S- I am still learning this whole marriage stuff as this dude will be settling down soon

efesodje:
Ok sis let me explain why I do not agree with your conclusions:


The practice of paying for the bride price is erroneously misconstrued as such a dehumanizing practice to women, especially from a Western point of view. Parents perceive that their daughters are being maltreated by wicked husbands on the excuse that they have been paid for, like a “commodity”.

And while many blame this derision on families that take advantage of the Bride Price to make outrageous demands, others believe that how a man treats his woman may not necessarily depend on whether or not he paid her Bride Price, but greatly on his personality.

Saying men maltreat their wives because they paid their Bride Price is like saying the expensive diamond engagement rings also produce women-beaters in the West.

For the christians amongst us, in the Bible Jacob served 14 years as a Price to marry Rachel; a “Bride Service” that portrayed the value he placed on her – which is what the token called Bride Price is all about.

In this modern era, it appears many are not aware that the Bride Price serves to protect the marriage from dissolution. It is NOT degrading to women and does not reduce them to slaves; not in any way tantamount to making a man feel like a slave master who owns a slave he has paid for. In actual fact, Bride Price is an instrument to ratify a marriage. It is one of the highest honours confirming a bride’s value and womanhood; giving a husband the full rights to the sexual, economic, or procreative powers of his wife. It fosters a friendly relationship between the two families; providing a material pledge that the woman and her children will be well treated and a level of compensation to her family for the loss of her company and labour.

No amount of money can buy a wife; her value is inestimable in human terms.

No man can pay for all the input of those who raised a good woman and all the benefits she brings; her love, care, help and companionship far outweigh any monetary value. A Bride Price is a humble demonstration of appreciation, honour and respect to the bride’s family for all the work they put into raising/training “this” gift from God and returning it seems utterly disrespectful to the groom and his entire family.

There are no few good men, rather there still are a lot of good men. It's just so unfortunate some women end up with the bad ones. My 2 cents

P/S- I am still learning this whole marriage stuff as this dude will be settling down soon

FluidQueen:
Lol. The dowry thingy is a whole different ballgame. It's a gift given to the groom's family. In places like India, it's used to appreciate a man for finding a woman worthy. It's more like a 'thank you for marrying me' thing.

Dowry paid by women and bride price paid on men yield the same result. The woman is considered a property.

FluidQueen:
Why do the society think they need to affirm a woman's worth and value? If its so thoughtful, why don't women affirm a man's value and worth by Paying the groom price too? Why can't we appreciate you too? Why can't we simply thank the groom's family for bringing up such a handsome, Amazing and kind hearted man? Or are we just equivalent to a purchase?

Lol. It's ridiculous, isn't it? Why is the rationale for the concept being tailored to one gender? All it symbolizes is female subjugation, no euphemism can change it!

It's the basis for female discrimination, and prejudice.
I paid on your head, you must obey me.
I married you, you didn't marry me.
These are subtle sexist practice that should be removed.

TheUpsetGirl:
Once men pay bride price they think you've automatically become their property especially Nigerian men.
This results in a lot of nasty things like domestic abuse and other stuffs.
if you two purchases things together he'll use his own name to buy the things which is very ridiculous all because he paid your bride price.
Because he paid your bride price he'll think you must not say no whenever he wants to have sex with you, In civilized countries if you have sex with your wife without her consent it is called rape and if she reports you and the case is investigated you may be indicted but here in Nigeria and Africa at large as long as men keep paying bride price you're obliged to always consent to sex
I think by stopping men from paying bride price all these nonsense are going to stop.



Nairalanders what do you guys think?